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  18 YEAR OLDS

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  an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

  how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

  responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

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  18 YEAR OLDS

  by hibiscusfire in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

  how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

  responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

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  Gently:

  BTW, Why have you allowed the toilet to get "grimey all over"? It sounds very unsanitary to me. Are you letting power struggles take precedence over your family's health?

  It's not my toilet. It's gross. I also find it is unsanitary. I told her, "but how could you use a dirty toilet in the first place?" I told her about Lysol and gloves. Sometimes I really wonder how that child thinks. There are now so many new products to use that we didn't have long ago.

  Hibie
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  18 YEAR OLDS

  by hibiscusfire in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

  how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

  responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

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  delilah:

  Sometimes, Hibbi, we have to put it in writing, what is expected of them. If they don't like it, then there are certain restrictions. Thankfully, I didn't have these kinds of problems with my 18 year old. She was good for helping out. And yes, she even took to cleaning the toilet, as there are 3 boys in the house..... My boys, are kept busy with keeping their rooms clean, taking out the garbage, taking care of the family pet. They do dishes, and help out in the kitchen. they know they have chores to do before they can have fun. And I keep on top of who they are friends with, where they are, who they are with, and give them a time to be home at. I was raised the same way, and my kids don't think I'm being over-protective or overbearing. It's just "THE WAY WE DO THINGS".

  I really appreciate this. I think you're doing a fine job indeed. I like the part where you said you were raised the same way. I was too. The only thing I don't like is when you are trying to do something and people say things that make you not want to do anything at all. eg I like to cook so if I want to try something new ---- Please don't tell me what to cook.

  I think I'm over protected too still....but I'm not even a teen. I work and study...so i have my freedom. I learnt to cook when I was 8. Started to help my mom make things when I was 2 (rolling out dough).

  Hibe
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  18 YEAR OLDS

  by hibiscusfire in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

  how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

  responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

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  luna:

  Where are you coming from on this issue Hib? Are you a parent? Are you an older sibling? Are YOU 18?

  Inquiring minds want to know! I'm just wondering what you thought because I want to know if also culture has a lot to do with and ofcourse parents....you see there is a very pesky 18 year old who is getting me on my nerves. I'm not a parent....yet I'm not 18....over that. Is this good enough? My answers... Hibe
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  18 YEAR OLDS

  by hibiscusfire in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

  how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

  responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

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  I am comparing two 18 year old females I know

  one is responsible the other thinks she is Ms. It.

  one is not allowed out the house to walk her home street unless her parent is with her the other likes to party and wine in front of all the fellas

  one would clean the toilet the other thinks she'll dirty her hands

  They both giggle

  one is very pretty and very modest the other is not really pretty but criticises other people on their looks and wear

  one had a boyfriend...had because the person wanted more from her the other has a boyfriend who a total jerk

  Which 18 year old would you like more?

  I like the one who is more responsible

  Hibe
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  18 YEAR OLDS

  by hibiscusfire in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

  how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

  responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

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  hibiscusfire

  Some 18 yr olds think they are adults now so they can do whatever they want...

  What do you think should be their limits?

  Hibe
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  18 YEAR OLDS

  by hibiscusfire in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

  how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

  responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

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  La Capra:

  However, in truly unfunctional families (most frequently one parent/one child), I find the adult has done everything for the child, all the way up to adulthood, and the teenager knows nothing about the basic functioning of a household, meals, laundry, etc. When the parent finally realizes that they have a useless schmoo on their hands, the schmoo gets very angry about being called to task.

  That is so true!

  Good parenting is essential. Some parents have a lot of bad habits and when the child becomes a young adult 18 what else can we expect. But even if the parent is not educated enough..shouldn't the child (being 18) take it upon himself/ herself to learn these things?

  Hibe
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  18 YEAR OLDS

  by hibiscusfire in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

  how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

  responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

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  Are adult movies part of the plan? Should they be allowed to watch those intense porn movies?

  I think it's better to learn the facts of life first.

  Why are 18 year olds so curious?

  Would movies like "Constantine" affect their minds?

  Or even like "Charm"?

  Hibe
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  18 YEAR OLDS

  by hibiscusfire in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

  how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

  responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

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  delilah:

  When she was home, yes, she slept in until 11 or so. But, she was overtired from classes, and she worked a job during school, on campus.

  Well I believe that is understandable. But some 18 year old just sleep as if there is no morning. Laziness.

  18 year olds, are not quite adults, but neither are they children. They should have responsibilities around the house, they can contribute in different areas. They are, after all, learning to become responsible adults.

  What do you think about an 18 year old female who says that cleaning the toilet is not her job. She will use the toilet but not clean it. The toilet is grimey all over.

  Girls, as a rule, are giggly, and love to wear the most fashionable clothes, nothing wrong with that, in my opinion.

  Nothing is wrong with that if you could afford stylish clothes right? But what about someone who would thrive on getting those clothes just to show off to her cousins and other family that she is "all that" is she really all that?

  18 year old boys, well, my boys are still young, but my 13 year old is into music, and girls, and playing football. My motto is, KEEP THEM BUSY

  That is good. keep em busy. Besides football what other thing can you encourage the males to do?

  Hibie
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  18 YEAR OLDS

  by hibiscusfire in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

  how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

  responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

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  hibiscusfire

  Some 18 year olds are adults and some aren't

  Hibe