Posts by hibiscusfire

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Mind your manners!

by hibiscusfire in

how would you handle situations?.

sometimes people know the right thing to do but yet do otherwise.

what would you really do in certain cases even if you know or don't know the acceptable thing?.

Elbows on the table, double dipping, and trips to the restroom -- how is your family doing when it comes to the social graces at the dinner table? The answers to the questions (just five), may tell and we'll tally the score.

When is it acceptable to put your elbows on the table?

	Only between courses.
	While you are eating.
	Never.

When I'm eating at home I like to prop up my legs on the chair.

When I'm at the restaurant I try to keep my elbows off the table but I put them on the table when I'm not eating (when I remember)

The ideal answer is ONLY BETWEEN COURSES

Hibe

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Mind your manners!

by hibiscusfire in

how would you handle situations?.

sometimes people know the right thing to do but yet do otherwise.

what would you really do in certain cases even if you know or don't know the acceptable thing?.

hibiscusfire

Once someone is the target of a bully, he or she may become a victim again and again. That's why it's important to know a few steps you can take if you become the target:

Stop listening to the bully's lies and verbal assaults. You did nothing wrong and don't need to feel ashamed.
Break through your fears for one week at least. Procrastination ensures an outcome worse than the most feared.
Assert your right to be treated with respect regardless of who you are and where you rank.
Demand it directly from the bully whenever you interact. You owe it to yourself.
Document the bully's misconduct. Report him/her to anyone who will listen. Break the silence.
Rally witnesses and co-workers to help defend you, to shame the cowardly bully-tyrant.

For mother-in-law, and bosses!!!!

Hibie

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Mind your manners!

by hibiscusfire in

how would you handle situations?.

sometimes people know the right thing to do but yet do otherwise.

what would you really do in certain cases even if you know or don't know the acceptable thing?.

hibiscusfire

juni According to Good Housekeeping mag. this is the right answer? Phooey!! I do what I know is right. And if she wants to be resentful? Don't let the door kick her in the butt as she leaves. She must grow up and respect her son's and daughter in law's house rules. And if she doesn't like the food go eat with the dog or cat. Aren't I mean?? Juni :) LOL!! No you're not mean. Did it happen to you? What if it were your husband's sister? Hibe

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Mind your manners!

by hibiscusfire in

how would you handle situations?.

sometimes people know the right thing to do but yet do otherwise.

what would you really do in certain cases even if you know or don't know the acceptable thing?.

hibiscusfire

I'd probably stueps at the woman and give her a bad eye.

3. When is it okay to borrow from another's room?

a. If you bring it right back.

b. If you're in a hurry.

c. If you really, really need the item.

d. If you have permission.

The ideal answer is d. If you have permission.

My answer it depends on whose room it is.

Hibe

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Mind your manners!

by hibiscusfire in

how would you handle situations?.

sometimes people know the right thing to do but yet do otherwise.

what would you really do in certain cases even if you know or don't know the acceptable thing?.

hibiscusfire

juni: The ideal answer is this....

Pull your mother-in-law aside if she makes a comment and politely explain to her that the remarks hurt your feelings.

Honestly I'd do the same as you. I'd want my husband to set her straight....but then she'd be resentful ent?

Hibe

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Mind your manners!

by hibiscusfire in

how would you handle situations?.

sometimes people know the right thing to do but yet do otherwise.

what would you really do in certain cases even if you know or don't know the acceptable thing?.

hibiscusfire

2. Careless or Considerate?

A woman is talking loudly on her cell phone on a crowded commuter train. You're sitting across the aisle from her. What do you say?

Say nothing directly but let out an audible sigh or "tsk" so that she knows you're annoyed.

Ask her to speak more softly.

Put on headphones to drown out the noise.

Alert a member of the train crew.

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Mind your manners!

by hibiscusfire in

how would you handle situations?.

sometimes people know the right thing to do but yet do otherwise.

what would you really do in certain cases even if you know or don't know the acceptable thing?.

hibiscusfire

How would you handle situations?

Sometimes people know the right thing to do but yet do otherwise.

What would you really do in certain cases even if you know or don't know the acceptable thing?

Hibe

1.

Whenever your mother-in-law visits for dinner, she makes derogatory comments about your cooking and house cleaning. Your in-laws are coming over for a big family get-together on Mother's Day. How to respond to these remarks?

Let it slide.

Complain to your husband and let him set her straight.

Pull your mother-in-law aside if she makes a comment and politely explain to her that the remarks hurt your feelings.

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18 YEAR OLDS

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an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

hibiscusfire

Gently:

And is there some other household job that you hate as much as she hates cleaning the toilet? You could offer to trade. I'd rather clean toilets than vacuum or sweep floors, for instance.

I hated doing the dishes because the soap would damage my hands....still do. I prefer to dig dirt outside.

But cleaning the toilet is something at least everyone should be concerned. I know some people will attempt to clean the toilet bowl when there is toilet paper and mess in it. Then the brush stays with it. eeeeewwwwwwww!!!!

I do believe that parents need to show/teach children about everything ....little things that people take for granted....it may be ok with them in the house but other people (visitors) would notice these bad habits and scorn.

Hibie

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18 YEAR OLDS

by hibiscusfire in

an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

hibiscusfire

Gently

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18 YEAR OLDS

by hibiscusfire in

an 18 year old supposed to be a young adult.. there are certain things an 18 year old supposed to do.. there are certain ways an 18 year old should behave.. there are certain things an 18 year is still not old enough to do.. what is your opinion?.

how do you feel concerning 18 year old males and females.. concerning an 18 year old female..... should she sleep until 12 or 11 in the morning?.

responsibility to cook, clean ----help out around the house?.

hibiscusfire

gi:

When I was 18, I didn’t know how to drive, have a car, was not allowed to have a job because it would make me to independent. I was only allowed out, to go out in service, with older woman (men have jobs, and by older I mean in there 60’s) I was not allowed to work with people my age because it would make me have thoughts of independents. As a result I am years behind others emotionally. That probably was not the best thing for me… After I got away from my parents when I was 21, I suddenly found myself in a big world, and totally clueless, and promptly found myself making all the mistakes I should have already made

At 18 I was still at school so I had no job yet. I had a boyfriend (a big mistake). I thought that I'd get married at 18 and have lots of kids so I could see my great great grandchildren....didn't work that way. At 18, I was mature enough and responsible enough in certain things. I still felt like a child yet like a young adult I was supposed to be at times. I never thought I was old enough to see adult movies...I really didn't want to though...I was curious...whatever I learnt was at school...books, talk - you know.

I couldn't drive either. Yes I was very naive though. I believed people were just either good or bad no in betweens.