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  A Memo for my JW dad

  by Lilycurly in

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  i have been daed for months but only recently, after having asked every and each person he could ask (even writting a letter to the wt), my dad decided he couldn't talk to me anymore.

  it has hit my non-jw mother very hard that her husband could do that.

  she cries a lot, but we are trying to be strong and hold ourselves together, and try in anyway we can to make him open his eyes..... tomorrow, i have decided to leave the crisis of conscience book on his desk with a with page on it, written on big black letters that will say.... "i was wondering if every man would be capable of shunning his own children and break up his family because of a group of men.. then i realised that no, some men have chosen to open their eyes and *truly* follow jesus, example...... with love, your daughter".

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  Lilycurly

  Thanks! that's genius!
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  A Memo for my JW dad

  by Lilycurly in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been daed for months but only recently, after having asked every and each person he could ask (even writting a letter to the wt), my dad decided he couldn't talk to me anymore.

  it has hit my non-jw mother very hard that her husband could do that.

  she cries a lot, but we are trying to be strong and hold ourselves together, and try in anyway we can to make him open his eyes..... tomorrow, i have decided to leave the crisis of conscience book on his desk with a with page on it, written on big black letters that will say.... "i was wondering if every man would be capable of shunning his own children and break up his family because of a group of men.. then i realised that no, some men have chosen to open their eyes and *truly* follow jesus, example...... with love, your daughter".

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  Lilycurly

  Really!!? Well this is something I'd like to read and print!
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  A Memo for my JW dad

  by Lilycurly in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been daed for months but only recently, after having asked every and each person he could ask (even writting a letter to the wt), my dad decided he couldn't talk to me anymore.

  it has hit my non-jw mother very hard that her husband could do that.

  she cries a lot, but we are trying to be strong and hold ourselves together, and try in anyway we can to make him open his eyes..... tomorrow, i have decided to leave the crisis of conscience book on his desk with a with page on it, written on big black letters that will say.... "i was wondering if every man would be capable of shunning his own children and break up his family because of a group of men.. then i realised that no, some men have chosen to open their eyes and *truly* follow jesus, example...... with love, your daughter".

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  Lilycurly

  Scully-LOL! Oh, okay, let me get my mind out of the gutter then...well I'm not sure if mom would just stop doing what she does, she has two other kids to take care of...I really wonder sometimes if she would put up with him if no kids were still at home. But then I get the feeling that she is desperatly trying to salvage what they have...

  yesidid-- all of those are noted, this is great and worth the try.
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  A Memo for my JW dad

  by Lilycurly in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been daed for months but only recently, after having asked every and each person he could ask (even writting a letter to the wt), my dad decided he couldn't talk to me anymore.

  it has hit my non-jw mother very hard that her husband could do that.

  she cries a lot, but we are trying to be strong and hold ourselves together, and try in anyway we can to make him open his eyes..... tomorrow, i have decided to leave the crisis of conscience book on his desk with a with page on it, written on big black letters that will say.... "i was wondering if every man would be capable of shunning his own children and break up his family because of a group of men.. then i realised that no, some men have chosen to open their eyes and *truly* follow jesus, example...... with love, your daughter".

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  Lilycurly

  Scully...uh...I don't know, I frankly do not like to think of my parents' escapades. lol But from what I am getting from my poor mother these last weeks, dad is probably not getting much. (I happened to find printed pages on his desk of some WT mag about how and why self-pleasing is naughty.)
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  A Memo for my JW dad

  by Lilycurly in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been daed for months but only recently, after having asked every and each person he could ask (even writting a letter to the wt), my dad decided he couldn't talk to me anymore.

  it has hit my non-jw mother very hard that her husband could do that.

  she cries a lot, but we are trying to be strong and hold ourselves together, and try in anyway we can to make him open his eyes..... tomorrow, i have decided to leave the crisis of conscience book on his desk with a with page on it, written on big black letters that will say.... "i was wondering if every man would be capable of shunning his own children and break up his family because of a group of men.. then i realised that no, some men have chosen to open their eyes and *truly* follow jesus, example...... with love, your daughter".

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  Lilycurly

  yesidid----What I think is happening with me right now, is that I try very hard for it to not affect me. And it kind of works....I do love him very much, he is my father after all, but then I realise that his love is conditionnal.. of course, you are right, he is toroughly brainwashed. Sending cards is a great idea...but who knows if he will even read them...he really beleives he is experiencing a temptation and is showing God his faithfulness.

  I am very mad at him right now, I hate to see my mother cry. It breaks me more then anything.
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  A Memo for my JW dad

  by Lilycurly in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been daed for months but only recently, after having asked every and each person he could ask (even writting a letter to the wt), my dad decided he couldn't talk to me anymore.

  it has hit my non-jw mother very hard that her husband could do that.

  she cries a lot, but we are trying to be strong and hold ourselves together, and try in anyway we can to make him open his eyes..... tomorrow, i have decided to leave the crisis of conscience book on his desk with a with page on it, written on big black letters that will say.... "i was wondering if every man would be capable of shunning his own children and break up his family because of a group of men.. then i realised that no, some men have chosen to open their eyes and *truly* follow jesus, example...... with love, your daughter".

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  Lilycurly

  Hmm...but my mother was a JW for years, and I think he has resigned to the idea that whatever he does, she will not come back, and neither will I. The thing that is most frustrating though, is that she is as much of an "apostate" as I am, and she keeps asking him questions and talking to him of things she and I discuss together. He puts up with it, and even tries to make their relationship stronger, being loving and romantic and all. But to me, his daughter, he will not talk to anymore, even if it's not about religion....
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  A Memo for my JW dad

  by Lilycurly in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been daed for months but only recently, after having asked every and each person he could ask (even writting a letter to the wt), my dad decided he couldn't talk to me anymore.

  it has hit my non-jw mother very hard that her husband could do that.

  she cries a lot, but we are trying to be strong and hold ourselves together, and try in anyway we can to make him open his eyes..... tomorrow, i have decided to leave the crisis of conscience book on his desk with a with page on it, written on big black letters that will say.... "i was wondering if every man would be capable of shunning his own children and break up his family because of a group of men.. then i realised that no, some men have chosen to open their eyes and *truly* follow jesus, example...... with love, your daughter".

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  Lilycurly

  Well, my mother is an ex-Jw, so she knows a lot about the way they think, and I always talk to her about what I read on the net...

  The CoC copy I have is in english though, and she reads French mostly...
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  A Memo for my JW dad

  by Lilycurly in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been daed for months but only recently, after having asked every and each person he could ask (even writting a letter to the wt), my dad decided he couldn't talk to me anymore.

  it has hit my non-jw mother very hard that her husband could do that.

  she cries a lot, but we are trying to be strong and hold ourselves together, and try in anyway we can to make him open his eyes..... tomorrow, i have decided to leave the crisis of conscience book on his desk with a with page on it, written on big black letters that will say.... "i was wondering if every man would be capable of shunning his own children and break up his family because of a group of men.. then i realised that no, some men have chosen to open their eyes and *truly* follow jesus, example...... with love, your daughter".

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  Lilycurly

  Alright...what would you suggess then? I have wrote him a letter before I DAed, and he didn't even take it seriously. I poured my heart out and he dismissed it as if it was nothing at all. We loved each other before, we are so alike. I'm his first born and we shared so many things...sometimes I wonder if he liked me only because I was still in the JWs...

  The truth is, I'm a grown girl now, and what we had between us is mostly gone. Honestly, I don't really care if he shuns me. But I am so close with my mother. And I can't see her like that.
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  A Memo for my JW dad

  by Lilycurly in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been daed for months but only recently, after having asked every and each person he could ask (even writting a letter to the wt), my dad decided he couldn't talk to me anymore.

  it has hit my non-jw mother very hard that her husband could do that.

  she cries a lot, but we are trying to be strong and hold ourselves together, and try in anyway we can to make him open his eyes..... tomorrow, i have decided to leave the crisis of conscience book on his desk with a with page on it, written on big black letters that will say.... "i was wondering if every man would be capable of shunning his own children and break up his family because of a group of men.. then i realised that no, some men have chosen to open their eyes and *truly* follow jesus, example...... with love, your daughter".

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  Lilycurly

  Well....nobody would know it if he decided to take a peek...

  I also find it very sad that he had to ask so many people before he took his descision, but then he is absolutely sure that he made it all by himself but merely wanted to know if what he understood was what the WT did. (Because we all know that the sacred WTS is always right,)
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  A Memo for my JW dad

  by Lilycurly in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been daed for months but only recently, after having asked every and each person he could ask (even writting a letter to the wt), my dad decided he couldn't talk to me anymore.

  it has hit my non-jw mother very hard that her husband could do that.

  she cries a lot, but we are trying to be strong and hold ourselves together, and try in anyway we can to make him open his eyes..... tomorrow, i have decided to leave the crisis of conscience book on his desk with a with page on it, written on big black letters that will say.... "i was wondering if every man would be capable of shunning his own children and break up his family because of a group of men.. then i realised that no, some men have chosen to open their eyes and *truly* follow jesus, example...... with love, your daughter".

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  Lilycurly

  I have been DAed for months but only recently, after having asked every and each person he could ask (even writting a letter to the WT), my dad decided he couldn't talk to me anymore. It has hit my non-JW mother very hard that her husband could do that. She cries a lot, but we are trying to be strong and hold ourselves together, and try in anyway we can to make him open his eyes....

  Tomorrow, I have decided to leave the Crisis of Conscience book on his desk with a with page on it, written on big black letters that will say...

  "I was wondering if every man would be capable of shunning his own children and break up his family because of a group of men.

  Then I realised that no, some men have chosen to open their eyes and *truly* follow Jesus, example.....

  With Love, your daughter"

  Now, I'm not a big Jesus beleiver myself, but I know that he obviously is. Have no idea if this could make him think, but it hurts me so much to hear my mother cry and to know how badly she feels...I'm willing to try anything.