In my family's case, we have a saying that's been tried and tested over the last ten years! I think you have this wrong, Shunning has become so common members inside the Organization "It's not just for Disfellowshiped Members Anymore!". Regular Publishers can't see the "spiritual warts" on the tips of their noses, that's for all the Holy Witnesses to see! Jehovah's Witnesses and the Governing Body Members are so shallow, just listen to all the recent talks about who is worthy to marry and who is not!
"It's not what's on the inside God see's, it's what we observe on the outside that make's the Witness a certified member of their little group." Listening to JW Broadcast and JW TV were told about all the great works JWs are doing the Elders see, that's how they make their debuts in the Kingdom Theatrical Arena. The JWs who shun each other in "good standing" judge everyone with a different scale they dare not judge themselves with because they would be found greatly lacking! Compare what the Bible say's to comments Tony Morris made about finding a good mate!
6When they arrived, Samuel took one look at Eliab and thought, “Surely this is the LORD’s anointed!”
7But the LORD said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The LORD doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.” 1 Sam 16:7
It's obvious why the Watchtower hates Bible Commentaries, they show their entire system of judging what humans are on the outside contradicts everything God sees in people. The Watchtower has no problem shunning people who are in good standing, they stacks heavy weights of guilt, making their rules unbearable yokes to carry. The leaders and Elders don't lift a finger to help spiritually weak and broken reeds, their only concern is forcing people to live a life their unable to! They do "bind up old men with weighty rules and regulations yet don't lift a finger to help them through!"
"...practical bearing upon all the mighty relations which each man sustains to his Maker.
I. Let us try to analyse the statement on the negative side, to begin with. The Lord does not look upon the outward appearance in fixing His judgment of any human soul. It so happens that this very narrative actually specifies many of those particulars which men are wont to regard as highest in value.
1. For example, the Lord does not look upon one’s social rank. The family of Jesse had no conspicuousness or remarkableness, as the world reckons. Moreover, David was the one that made it royal, and when he was chosen he was by no means the head of it. Good Lady Huntingdon used to say she thanked God for the letter M, for he did not tell Paul to say “not any,” but “not many.” Now it is certainly true that the best part of the world’s highest worth has risen from what would by some be called its lowest sources. It is usual to sneer at the plebian birth of Oliver Cromwell as well as that of Napoleon Bonaparte; but this had nothing to do with any vices they displayed or any virtues they possessed. These men were kings of other men by reason of a manhood which Charles the First; never got from the contemptible Stuarts, nor Louis the Sixteenth from the more contemptible Bourbons. The pride of rank is prone to run into an extreme of superciliousness, of self-seeking, and of oppression. Cornelius Agrippa actually institutes an argument to prove that there was never a nobility which had not wicked beginning.
2. Furthermore, the Lord does not look upon one’s family history. The lineage of Jesse, Obed, and Ruth was quite humble in its origin. David’s mother is not even mentioned by name in the Scriptures. It is pitifully mean and conceited for anyone to set himself up as meritorious because his family once had a hero among its members.
3. Again, the Lord does not; look upon one’s fortune. If anyone supposes that the wealth of the “rich kinsman” Boaz had come down by inheritance into this family estate, we are surely without hint that the property had anything to do with the lot of the shepherd boy David..."
http://www.studylight.org/commentary/1-samuel/16-7.html
"SHUNNING, IT'S HOW JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES SAY I LOVE YOU TO ANYONE THEY DON'T LIKE!"