You may not have a case, but others may because of you. If you can find others who told elders before he abused you, you might have a case. As we know now, likely not. If he has moved, you may want to inform his current local justice authorities and elder body of his history. As a matter of conscience and as a concerned citizen. They can't play clueless ever again
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I could sue the WTBTS
by shattered_origins inever since my sister gave me an " awakening," i have been somewhat obsessed with the failings of the religion i was born into.
i am especially outraged at the article i read about how the elders are supposed to deal with accusations of sexual abuse (jwfacts.com/watchtower/paedophelia.php).
i myself suffered sexual and emotional abuse from a family "friend"/ministerial servant in a neighboring congregation.
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Headline: "Islamic Invasion: Europe now scrambles for guns." How true is this?
by cappytan ina year to a year and a half ago, i would have taken this article at face value and believed it.. now, i realize this article comes from a dubious source.
world news daily has a die-hard right-wing bias.
so, in an effort to get real information, i'm asking my european exjw's, is this article all true?
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Loveunihateexams,
I think that is an interesting question. Lots of Muslims have successfully integrated in the US, and as in most immigrant groups, there are some older language holdouts, but most are successfully starting busing, crazy to get their kids high degrees and work their butts off to do it. I know businessmen, doctors, engineers, entrepreneurs, teachers, etc.
In Muslim countries, English is defector business language, which is convenient for most westerners, but when westerners are expected to follow cultural norms (to a lesser degree) and are punished according to their laws, the world has a collective panic attack. Yet we all get in a huff if ladies don't cast off all modesty upon arrival. I worked and lived in several predominantly Muslim nations. Not even in Saudi is a western or non Muslim woman expected to cover her hair, although she is supposed to cover her limbs. In Pakistan, many don't cover. In Egypt, there is a total range of degrees of covering. In Qatar, also. No one told me to go back home. Ever. My language issues were accommodated as well as possible(usually impressively) I did go to Makkah. I did not wear an abaya or black. I was modest, but I'm not Arabic, and my cultural version of modesty didn't look like theirs, except for one day after I bought an abaya. It still was not black, but fyi, lots of abayas are not.
Many Muslim women in the US are modest but if they did not cover their hair, you'd think nothing of it. Some still wear abayas. Many are indistinguishable. We are much better integrated than many will acknowledge. That's a shame.
There is a learning curve for any immigrant or visiting group. Hello, Americans going to Europe have some real adjustments to make. Especially older ones who are more set in their ways. My mom is a real "ugly American" even out of her neighborhood. I shudder to think what she did in Italy, Greece and Turkey.
Your doctor, lawyer or insurance agent or IT manager at work may be able to tell you about integrating and the challenges they faced.
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Simple, basic manners would be a good start
by stillin inthe witnesses are really challenged socially.
in their own little world, they seem oblivious to the niceties of saying thank you or that they are sorry for some minor wrong.
these things help life go more smoothly in the real world, like a social lubricant.. i'm simply appalled at the fact that an elder's son, who was married more than a year ago, has never sent out thank you notes for all of the gifts that the congregation gave him for his wedding.
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In any kind of sales if you are leaving promotional material you should tip extra! JWs started out as unapologetic sales people. They need to use common sense. My mom has never left tracts or magazine's, thank god. I know many who do, though. -
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Breaking Heart Needs Help
by thankyou inwas happily married many yrs unconditional love till wife went heaven yr n half ago.
3 mos ago sun morn.
when i once asked her if she been abused, cause seems like it, she didn't ans just hung her head.
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It was good of you to try and help her. Some are not ready to receive it. You still helped because she knows there is a person in the world who cares about her. That will always stick. Take care of yourself! -
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CO Comes Up With A New Way To Be Judgemental...
by JW_Rogue inat the latest co visit something very strange happened.
during the meeting with the elders and servants he passed out a copy of a hypothetical publisher card and asked us what we could learn from it.
upon receiving it i saw that the average hours were pretty good, it had return visits and quite a few bible studies.
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Aus Bethel reducing numbers dramatically.
by joey jojo insorry if this is old news but just heard that there will only be about 75 people left at sydney bethel after layoffs.
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Something interesting!
by John Aquila ini was invited to a small get-together by a long time friend.
we both served as elders for years.
he is in his late 70s.
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JWdaughter
Back in the olden days-early 1980s, when I left, there were a lot of ex JW groups. Yahoo meets had nothing on yellow pages, little nickel want ads and newspaper blurbs about JWs. I'm not surprised that a more mature generation has recognized and joined together. I would suggest that there might well be a little more dissent than acknowledged, but these folks are meeting with carefully gathered, like-minded friends. They don't want to undermine their whole life, but they can't buy into all the nonsense. Good for them. I'm almost 50. In 10 years, I hope I see a very different org. Those 80 year olds have to see whatsoever is going on now, knowing they will not see a significant downfall of corrupt leadership. :(
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Personal experience rant
by Crazyguy inso i was reading over new member hollywood 20s experience and thinking of using it when i'm going to talk with my son that their trying to get baptized.
so that with all the other things through my mind i decided to say some things to him about what's going on with my daughter.
so this is what happening with her.
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Executed Jehovah's Witness under Hitler were more Christian than Jdubs
by suavojr inhas anyone noticed how the phraseology of this letter is so far away from todays jw theology and idioms used?
do you notice what word is missing?
how would any of us be viewed in the congregations if we were to speak or write this way?
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Just found out their about to baptise my 14 year old boy.
by Crazyguy inthere doing this right under my nose but i just found out.
not sure what to do but would like your help on getting me wt information on my headship role and how they shouldn't be doing this with out my permission.
also would like some help on showing my son the ramifications on what happens to someone when they get baptized and how they'll expect him to treat me.
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JWdaughter
It's not a legally binding contract to anyone but the Borg. Just say no, he is immature and not prepared for the implications. You are the dad and it's your decision.