I get the odd pang of resentment but its usually fleeting. They did it because they thought they were doing the right thing at the right time, what parent wouldn't? the dogma, the "You'll live forver on paradise" to me now it resembles Fundamentalist Islamic teachings!!
What i do resent is the way my mum feels, after my folks got divorced, my dad got DF'ed (wtg dad) and this blew the family apart, (this was about 8 years ago) My eldest sister is still in the troof and loves it, my mum was treated with contempt that she couldn;t keep my dad as a husband and on the straight and narrow! And she beleived it to this day that it was all her fault!! I mean come on mother dearest, are you that naive? You can't speak to her about this because she says your attacking her, she hasn't really moved on emotionally from it either, and would still go to the meetings but she can;t cope with all the "happy familys" there. I'm glad i live on this side of the world and she lives on the other so i don;t have ot deal with this nonsense! My dads still a player though, and loves it! I hae a grudging respet for him because he taught me to stand up for myself, where as mother dearest would of had me horse whipped if it would of made another brother or sister happy!
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do you resent your parents for bringing you into the WTS?
by kid-A infor those born into the wts, do you ever feel resentment towards your folks for forcing this upon you?
i went through a stage of strong resentment and anger, but no longer feel this way.
i think they sincerely believed they were acting in my best interests.
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Hello all!
by exJW_2004 ini'm new to these boards.
i'll introduce myself.. i was raised a jw, baptized at 13, pioneer at 15, married at 18, divorced at 21, disfellowshipped and pregnant at 22, and here i am.
i gave birth to a beautiful baby boy about five months ago, and i've never been happier, but that has required a lot of sacrifice and hurt.
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Welocme to the site, as a newbie posting here your in good company!
Doesn't it feel great just to have somewhere to say all this!!!!!!! Bless the interweb! -
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Rise up against our human masters!!!
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Were You Ever Drunk or High At A Meeting Or In Service?
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an elder in our hall used to drink his wine before evening meetings regularly, and on more than a few occasions was "buzzed" and laughing up on the platform while giving a talk.
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ow man i love this site!!! Memories!
i was 16 at the time, I remember going out to Ritzy's nightclub in Bromborough (imagine if they knew that eh) on a Saturday night with my worldly mates and a few brothers, getting well hammered, being on camera on the Hitman and Her, although the elders didnt see that show! Sunday comes round, drag my sorry ass to the KH, and feeling worse for wear, must of dozed off. What was probably seconds later, a brother had answered a question in the WT portion of the meeting, he was sitting a few people down from me, so the huge microphone on a stick came past me, startled my and my audible "shit whats that...." could be heard across the hall! Ahahahhahahahh i was such the model witness! Got a bollicking for that one too! -
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Elders wives, are they more submissive?
by JH ini know an elder (hermann) who is so fat and out of shape that his wife has to mow the lawn and shovel the entrance.
she also works hard inside to make his food and keep everything clean.
he is 73 and she is 70.. i wonder what verse he uses to make her do so much?
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lol @ the head-dress thing!
I wish my missus would mow the lawn! Shes's greek and i'd get a slap across the head if i asked her to do anything i couldn;t be bothered to do myself!
It boils down to the interpretation they chose to beleive. As most men are arrogant pricks, they love the submissive wife, i personally hate that my self, treat my missus with equal respect, i get a lot more that way. See not rocket science is it! -
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Another newbie here...
by tall penguin inmy apologies in advance for the long post.
this is the story i thought i'd be taking to my grave so just to have the chance to put it out there feels so freeing.
thanks for listening.
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((((((tall penguin))))))
as a fellow nOOb here, i know how empowering it is to take control over your life. Your description of the "mental rape" you received by the elders rang a huge bell in my head, thats what troubled me during one of my "kangaroo court hearings" i had many years ago when i done the deed with a sister. They are the biggest bunch of arrogant, lewd perverts going, yet absolve themselves of the anguish they cause. They are so out of touch with their people skills its appalling. If they were employees, bound by a code of conduct they would all be sacked!
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Explain monogamy to me
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my preferred social construct would be a group of 5 to 10 men sharing space, chores, well everything.. if i were heterosexual i think i would prefer the same situation, 2 or 3 families living together and sharing all.. actually i believe this should be a worldwide goal, total community in every sense of the word.. i see no advantage served by social and sexual diads.. please explain it to me.
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Its a case of "cake and eating it" i think!
We have been conditioned to think this is normal, and history has selectively omitted the fine times we had when we were polygamous. I personally would shudder at the thought of having for than one wife, imagine the earache after coming in from a hard days graft and theres more than one wife jabbering on about how crap a day shes's had looking after your multiple wives kids.....
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Disfellowshipped for being fat and not watching my cholesterol
by free2beme ini find the concept of taking select warnings of the medical and science world, to disfellowship members, and ignoring others ... all the more interesting as i think about it.
after all, heart desease is the biggest killer in the americas.
heart desease and heart related deaths are often linked to and not exclusive to; obesity, high cholesterol, fatty foods, not exercising, high stress, etc.. with this in mind, i dare someone to call an elder and report that they saw one of the local witnesses eating at mcdonalds, even though the doctor warned them it could kill them.
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oh man, this is one of the main reasons why i was so glad to leave the Troof, Its the cherry picking of opinions/medical advice to suit themselves! In that case when a specialist tells them they need a transfusion or theyre going to die, they practically orgasm at the woundrous opportunity to die for their Jehovah! Makes me sick! We had many morons like that in our congregation, take for instance one Brother who was going round saying the band Kiss, should never be listened to as they are Knights In Satans Service, and people gave this clown credence!!!! I still have a chuckle at that!
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Terrible Nun Joke
by hamsterbait inthe medical nurse at a convent, requests a meeting with the mother superior, the priest and the archbishop.. "and why have you requested this meeting, my child?
" asks the mother superior.. "reverend mother, there is a case of syphilis in the convent.".
"well, thank god for that - i'm sick to death of the chardonnay.".
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Two nuns, Sister Marilyn and Sister Helen, are traveling through Europe in their car. They get to Transylvania and are stopped at a traffic light.
Suddenly, out of nowhere, a tiny little Dracula jumps onto the hood of the car and hisses through the windshield.
"Quick, quick!" shouts Sister Marilyn. "What shall we do?"
"Turn the windshield wipers on. That will get rid of the abomination," says Sister Helen.
Sister Marilyn switches them on, knocking Dracula about,but he clings on and continues hissing at the nuns.
"What shall I do now?" she shouts. "Switch on the windshield washer. I filled it up with Holy Water at the Vatican," says Sister Helen.
Sister Marilyn turns on the windshield washer. Dracula screams as the water burns his skin, but he clings on and continues hissing at the nuns.
"Now what?" shouts Sister Marilyn?
"Show him your cross,"says Sister Helen.
"Now you're talking," says Sister Marilyn.
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We're bracing for Hurricane Rita down here in SE Texas.
by Frannie Banannie ini'm not looking fwd to going to the grocery store this evening.
i imagine that by now, most of what we should have on hand will be empty shelves in the stores.
we're gonna try and get some shtuff in here and begin cooking tomorrow.
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Good luck and stay safe! And remember, if your white, you found the food, but if your black you looted that shop for the food!! Seriously I hope the media don't repeat the appalling coverage they applied to the Katrina incident! I don;t know how you 'Mercans can stomach the media in your country, i see it on cable here and am appalled by the overtly patronising and right wing agenda on all the media outlets! Shame onyou Bush & Co.