OMG! This thread is ssoooooooo FUNNYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hahahaaahahaaa........
BWAHAHAAHHHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHHHAHHAHHHAHAHHAAAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tetrapod said
please see, and witness this. praise jah you peoples!
That had me ROFLMAO!
Good ones.
dezpbem
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Mormons and JW: same horror story, different halloween costume!
by dezpbem ina while back i did some online research on the mormons.
i came across some ex-mormons sites.
i was shocked to see that their exit stories and problems were almost the same!
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A while back I did some online research on the mormons. I came across some ex-mormons sites. I was shocked to see that their exit stories and problems were almost the same! If you were just listening to the problems they have you'd think both were the same religion. Does anyone else here know about this at all?
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Let's drink to the fact that 'm about to go party downtown in Manhattan in a half hour and i'll speak to you guys tommorow ;-)
Anyone want me to have a drink for them and a toast while i'm there?
Place you requests now!
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Men and women don't understand eachother
by ballistic in'i'm starting to like you too much... i'm gunna try not to speak or see you for a few days' .
ok, i will post back here any more things i don't understand as time progresses .
and ladies, feel free to post anything you don't understand that men say, i'm sure we will know what is going on (not)!!
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dezpbem
I agree with Lady Lee. Sounds to me like she needs you to speak to he a bit less and see her a little less. But I can't discount Enosant's experience. It's one or the other in my judgement. I've just happen to have the type of experience Lady Lee describes so that's my reference point.
You could try what Lola says and ask. Ask if it's that she needs space or is trying to see if you care enough to step forward. The way she worded it sounds to me like a need for space. Keep us posted on what happens in the coming months. I'm very curious to know the outcome.
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Saturday morning and the witnesses are most notable for thier ABSENCE!
by Soledad inpicuture it: 125th st and morningside ave, nyc, 10:30 am est.
it's a bit cold and rainy but it's business as usual for the locals.
what's missing from this picture?
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dezpbem
Funny you should mention this. I've noticed the same thing in my area.
I live in the Castle Hill section of the Bronx. They are out here but not like they were back when I was in. I don't see then in the streets as much as I used to. And they don't come knocking in my building anywhere near as much.
Makes me wonder what's going on...
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1st step?
by daniel-p ini am forcing myself to do this - i feel nauseated, depressed... my hands are shaking.
i know many of you see this and laugh.
but for those of you who arn't, you know how hard it is for me to do this.
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Daniel the more I read your post the more I think you may be daeling with a possible anxiety disorder for the moment. Please don't take the phrase "anxiety disorded" as an offense. I dislike psychological terminology myself. "Anxiety disorder" really just means a hyped up stress response. I'm reading between the lines of what you write and it sound like your very stressed. Anxiety is VERY common among jw's and ex-jw's.
One of the things that tend to trigger this in us is too much thinking. Your so worried right now. I think it may be helpful to you to look into some relaxation programs, books, etc. Relaxation/anti-stress methods help a great deal with this.
You may want to consider putting all this thinking aside for the time being. Really it isn't going anywhere. You can always run yourself in circles with it at anytime. But the wrong time is when your already in a stressed state. My advice is to consider putting your worry on the shelf. Focus on relaxation methods and use them everyday without fail. Get the stress under control first (assuming i'm corect about this). Come back to all the thinking after this.
As far as all the thinking goes I think your taking too many burdens on at once. Your asking yourself too many questions that are difficult to answer. What happens is the following;
You ask yourself a question that your in conflict about. Because your in conflict you can't come to a satisfactory answer. This gives you stress from the lack of resolution. With no answer resolved you jump to the next internal conflict, start questioning the next dillema your worried about, and thereby bring your anxiety state up to level 2. Since the second worry can't be resolved right away you move on to the ment unresolved question, repeat the process, and bring yourself to stress level 3. In your mind you keep going around in circles pondering too many difficult questions. When you go through the whole list of these conficts/questions you return to the first on the list only to repeat the whole process again.
This is what i'm guessing is going on in your mind. You may think it's a lot of work to have to read some books on destressing methods and the like. Trust me it's worth your time and effort. Been there done that. You may want to research supplements that lower stress levels too. Different ones work for different people.
Try putting your questions to the side as much a possible. If there are any that you have to deal with at the moment then deal with those few only. But running around in circles with too many questions you can't answer at once really can drive you over the edge. I've seen ex-jw's do this. We tend to think too much as it is.
I have a question. Are you dealing with depression at all right now?
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DARN IT!!!!!!!!!!!
by lola28 insorry everyone but i need to rant.
about a week and a half ago we hired someone to work at my office.
up to that point only my boss and i worked here, however we realized that there was a lot of work that had to be done and we needed help.
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Btw what type of work is it that you do if you don't mind my asking?
Have you tried placing ads in the paper for a worker? Tried employment agencies or dept of labor?
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DARN IT!!!!!!!!!!!
by lola28 insorry everyone but i need to rant.
about a week and a half ago we hired someone to work at my office.
up to that point only my boss and i worked here, however we realized that there was a lot of work that had to be done and we needed help.
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Nice to meet you too Lola.
I hope it works out for you with this worker.
If your stuck in a jam with it or just plain stressed with the situation feel free to post more or write.
Dez
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1st step?
by daniel-p ini am forcing myself to do this - i feel nauseated, depressed... my hands are shaking.
i know many of you see this and laugh.
but for those of you who arn't, you know how hard it is for me to do this.
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Hello my friend and welcome,
Your in a tough situation. You sound like your balancing on the edge and don't know which side of the fence to go. I can relate. I think most here can. We've been there and done that. I'd like to say more but at the same time I don't want to influence your decision too much as I feel it really has to be your own. It sounds like there's a heavy weight on you right now with all this. Is there anything in specific you wanted advice or opinions on from others?
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DARN IT!!!!!!!!!!!
by lola28 insorry everyone but i need to rant.
about a week and a half ago we hired someone to work at my office.
up to that point only my boss and i worked here, however we realized that there was a lot of work that had to be done and we needed help.
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dezpbem
Many times these things get under control if you have a stern talk with the person. The problem may be that you and your boss aren't confronting the situation head on. As a witness or ex-witness you may have a more docile personality. Your taught to be non-confrontational. In the real world it's sometimes the best medicine. She'll either shape up or know she's shipping out. My advice is confront her on the problem and be stern! Really this should be your bosses domain.