I'm with you eningmatic. I tried to seach for an ex-jw dating site but found none. I felt the same way you do that an exjw would understand me more and we could be closer. It is hard for people who haven't been through what we've been through to relate. I've had the same difficulty myself.
I did find jw dating sites - a lot of good that does. On one I saw a gorgeous intelligent woman in my area...who was looking for a "deeply spiritual brother in da truff". UGGGHHHH. Those sites are no good for me because I could only date either an ex-jw or one who was leaving.
Someone should make an ex-jw dating site. The down side is how far spread out we all are. I know exactly what you feel. My situation is the same as yours i've just never been married. Single, looking, but hard to find a compatible match that understands you..
One day we'll both be there.
Dez