Posts by PoppyR

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Heartbreak - A Marriage Divided By Religion

by daniel-p in

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it's very hard for me to type these words - just as it was when i first knew i didn't believe in the wts and jehovah anymore.

i have a huge ball in the throat, my stomach refuses to settle down, i feel like vomitting, crying, wretching, heaving.

when i first left the truth my self-esteem plummeted.

PoppyR

Daniel.. I'm so sorry.

Nothing quite crushes your soul like rejection, but here you are blaming yourself! WHY!!

This woman chose to spend her days and nights thinking about another man while lying with you. It has nothing to do with religion. It's loyalty, and it's something she doesn't have. And to then tell you about it, how cruel.

My feeling is that there is not a single thing you can do about it on your own. in the best of circumstances it will take love, commitment, dedication and WORK from both of you, and it appears only one of you is prepared to put those in. She is blaming the fact you stopped going to meetings, but I think it's a lot deeper than that..

Hugs to you, If I could pray.. I would, but I think time and self belief are the tools you need to put this behind you.

Poppy

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Hi, like to introduce myself.

by The Nothing Man in

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ex witness of 20 years here.

by the grace of god (or something anyway) i managed to get out.

i visited this forum about 5 years ago and noticed the u.n. issue.

PoppyR

Hello NM, and welcome to the forum, loved your first post, and it resonates so much, especially with the just not knowing what to believe.

Great to have more UK people here!

Poppy

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Bible and animals

by PoppyR in

i am trying to find an old post i know i've seen on here a year or two ago about the old testamant and how cruel god was to animals (i specifically remember it talking about horses being slaughtered in a very cruel way).

i think it was a link to a web page about it.. thanks in advance.

poppy .

PoppyR

Yes thank you it does, but there was a whole page of atrocities, it may have been about the cruelty of God in the old testament.

but this is a great start!

Poppy

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Bible and animals

by PoppyR in

i am trying to find an old post i know i've seen on here a year or two ago about the old testamant and how cruel god was to animals (i specifically remember it talking about horses being slaughtered in a very cruel way).

i think it was a link to a web page about it.. thanks in advance.

poppy .

PoppyR

Hi everyone,

I am trying to find an old post I KNOW I've seen on here a year or two ago about the old testamant and how cruel God was to animals (I specifically remember it talking about horses being slaughtered in a very cruel way)

Can anyone help? I think it was a link to a web page about it.

Thanks in advance

Poppy

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Facebook Virgin

by PoppyR in

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hi guys,.

been dragged screaming into 2007 and decided i absolutely must be on facebook... .

if you were in my address book it's sent out an invite, otherwise.. i'd be pathetically grateful for new friends, my profile is sad.

PoppyR

Hi guys,

Been dragged screaming into 2007 and decided I absolutely MUST be on facebook...

If you were in my address book it's sent out an invite, otherwise.. I'd be pathetically grateful for new friends, my profile is sad.

PM me?

Poppy xx

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Christmas Card exchange?

by bem in

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has someone started a christmas card exchange list yet for this year?

we did this in the past and it was such fun to get all the great cards.. .

PoppyR

Ok, I have sent out my first 10! May be early, but I've chosen the destinations furthest away from me (I'm UK) so hopefully you should get them in plenty of time!

Thanks Bem for organising all this!

Poppy x

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Important! My mother before Elders re marriage problems with Elder husband

by Guest with Questions in

if anyone can help me understand what goes on in the mind of elders?

is there a buddy mentality to protect each other and the flock and sacrifice those who make waves?

ive gathered coming here that may be true.. the reason im asking is because my mother has found herself in a very difficult situation and im really worried for her.

PoppyR

I have actual experience of a very similar situation.

My stepfather was very abusive both physically and verbally, often breaking into wild rages. One day we recorded him swearing the worst kinds of words at us, and played it back to the elders thinking surely this would be the time they would do something about it. But no... the elder we took it to erased the tape and told my mother how wrong she was to usurp his headship this way....

It's one of those stories that unless I was there, I wouldnt' believe.

Unsurprisingly, my stepfather left unchecked almost killed my mother with a kitchen knife, at this point the elders advised her she could now leave him because her life was in danger.. It was the neighbours who backed her up in this incidence and called the police, I think the elders were shamed into it.

She thought she was being faithful, and stayed married to him for 10 years while he terrified our whole family because that was what the elders advised her to do, The day they said it was ok for her to leave, she did. I lost a lot of respect for her and even back then realised her feelings for us were second to her obedience to Jehovah.

So.. long story short, I wouldn't trust the elders as far as I could throw the lot of them

Poppy

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A New Kitten . . . (Katie Kitten)

by Pubsinger in

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i feel quite giddy making this announcement!.

katie kitten (louise) text me last night at 11.30pm to tell me to tell you all she's had a litter of one.

a little boy, josef jack, 8lb 14oz, born 5.55am on nov 15th.. she apparently had a long and somewhat rough time of it and is gonna be in hospital a day or two.. i'll be the first to say congratulations.

PoppyR

Ouch,,,, that's a big one!

Well done Katie and congratulations.

Love to you and your family.

Poppy

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Letter from (and to) a disillusioned young Witness

by Hiddenwindow in

i am sending this letter to another website, but would like to have you guys comment on it first.

all suggestions and comments are welcome.. .

letter from (and to) a disillusioned young witness.

PoppyR

Some really good points.. but dare I say it very 'wordy' and I love words! Lots of flowery language and long words, depending on your friends level of education, it may put him off.

Obviously you know him much better than us and it will probably hit just the right spot.

Poppy

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So close to sending in the letter

by PoppyR in

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so, i found out today that my whole family, that is mother, older brother wife and child, older sister and husband, younger brother and wife have gone away together for a week.. previously i would have been right in the center of all that.

this time i didn't even know until after they'd gone.

cant say it doesn't hurt, what a punch to the gut.

PoppyR

Yes I am doing the apostanoodle!

And yes her face was a picture. But we had such a giggle doing it. although my false nose kept falling off

Strangely enough it was my ex who asked me 'did you dress up as a witch'... and then admitted the PO had told him, so I think he was guaging if I was going to tell the truth or not. The gossip mill works so well in the cong.

My boys are torn poor things, 12 and 13 and loving halloween and partly envious of me dressing up and not sure if to disapprove or not! Hopefully in time they will see the fun I can have and the restrictions of the Borg.

Poppy