Super_Becka

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  "Go and get yourself ADOPTED THEN!!!!!!"

  by Jez in

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  my 15 year old phoned her jw father tonight.

  a relationship between the two does not exist.

  (i have touched on the reason why in other posts regarding both my children).

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  Super_Becka

  Even if her biological father is a total jackass, it's good to know that your daughter has a step-father who loves her as his own and treats her like every daughter deserves to be treated, with love and respect. She needs and deserves that kind of love in her life. A relationship between a mother and her daughter is special, but the relationship between a father and his daughter is a different kind of special, and your daughter deserves to have that in her life. No girl should be without a father, and it sounds like her step-father is ready and willing to step up to the plate and be that man in her life. I'm so glad for her. :)

  As for her biological father, if that's the way he treats her, then I think it's in your daughter's best interests to just cut him out of her life completely, she'll be much better off that way and it'll be his loss, not hers. He doesn't deserve to have someone like her in his life. And your daughter deserves to have someone so much better in her life than him.

  I hope everything works out for you, your husband and your daughter. I wish you all the best!!

  -Becka :)
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  It's My Anniversary and My Husbands Birthday!

  by Legolas in

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  it's our 19th wedding anniversary

  and my husband's 37th birthday (we were married on his 18th birthday)

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  Hey Legolas, congrats on 19 years of wedded bliss and happy belated birthday to Mr. Legolas!! Hope you two had a great day!!

  -Becka :)
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  hello

  by force in

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  i dont see my dad anymore.

  i just have my mum and my brother.

  all the friends my mum used to hang with are gone and i liked them.

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  Super_Becka

  Welcome to the board!!

  There's lots of great people here with good advice. I hope everything works out for you!!

  -Becka :)
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  Birthday celebrations and customs - Are they for Christians?

  by AlmostAtheist in

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  i sent my birthday document (http://thebentinel.com/jw-birthdays.html) to a poster here that is at the very least a jw-sympathizer, if not a full-blown jw.

  the response i got back indicated that my reasoning on it was seriously flawed and essentially any idiot with a passing knowledge of scripture and history can tell that birthdays are not something christians should celebrate.. of course, if you're not a bible-believer or a god-believer, you couldn't care less about pagan origins and all that.

  but let's keep this conversation on the 'appropriate for christians' vein.

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  I'm with SNG here - the whole "birthdays are bad" thing that JWs (and other sects) follow is purely interpretative, not based on any written command from God.

  God said "thou shalt not steal" and "thou shalt not murder" and all of that in the Ten Commandments, and other orders were made clear in the text of the Bible, He likes to make His desires and directions known CLEARLY, He doesn't hide things in the text of the Bible and hope that somehow, all of us lowly humans will manage to dig them out and follow encrypted commands. What if we never find them?? Are we doomed to go to Hell because we couldn't find that one, encoded command that was oh-so-important but yet we somehow overlooked??

  And the funny thing is, the next sect that appears will find something else that we've apparently "missed" in the Bible and will condemn all of us to the depths of Hell for not following some new, ludicrious order. I'm willing to bet that the next sect bans pants because Jesus didn't wear them - who's with me??

  And of course, this argument can be applied to most things that the WTS has banned, like Christmas. All of these doctrines come purely from the WTS's interpretation of the Bible. They interpreted it that way, that's what they think it means, but that most certainly doesn't make it completely and utterly RIGHT. Unless there's a specific statement claiming that birthdays are bad (or Christmas is bad or whatever), then it has no basis in fact and is therefore merely an interpretation of what the text of the Bible says. Simple as that. If you can show me the Bible reference that clearly states "thou shalt not observe thine birthday" or "thou shalt not honour my Son with thine Christmas celebrations" or whatever, then sorry, I'm not going to believe you.

  And besides, I like birthdays. Cake, friends, birthday hats, streamers, what's not to love?? And for all of you JWs or whoever who still insist on bashing birthdays - don't knock it till you try it!!

  -Becka :)
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  Merry Christmas to all of you !!

  by Country_Woman in

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  country woman and vivamus.

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  Merry Christmas, Joyeux Noel, Feliz Navidad - however you say it, have a great holiday season!! I hope Santa Claus is good to all of you!!

  Merry Christmas, everyone, and Happy New Year, too.

  -Becka :)
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  It's almost Christmas!

  by under74 in

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  anyone else excited?

  i'm not excited about everything...there was a family fight at thanksgiving that hasn't been totally resolved yet.

  not sure how it will all turn out.

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  I do live in Newfoundland, but I attend university on the west coast and my family lives on the Avalon peninsula, about 100km away from St. John's, and believe it or not, there's a huge difference in climate between the two places. Here, it's cold and snowy, and last week in St. John's, it was sunny and warm enough to wear shorts!! My mother tells me it's been raining a lot at home, but here, we have a nice thick layer of snow now. :)

  In December, I'll take snow over hot weather any day!!

  -Becka :)
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  It's almost Christmas!

  by under74 in

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  anyone else excited?

  i'm not excited about everything...there was a family fight at thanksgiving that hasn't been totally resolved yet.

  not sure how it will all turn out.

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  Hehehe, let me step out on a limb and say that most adult men are really just a 10-year-old boy in a grown man's body. Snow just brings that inner child to the surface, not that he's ever lurking very far from sight anyway.

  Of course, I can't say much - I'm a 20-year-old girl and I behave just like a 10-year-old when it snows, too. It's just something about the concept of white, fluffy stuff falling from the sky and all of the fun that it entails - sledding, making snowmen and snow-angels, throwing snowballs at my brother, having school closed for a snow-day, everything. In my mind, snow means good things!!

  On another note, while there's always lots of snow here for Christmas where I attend university, there hasn't been any snow in my hometown for Christmas for at least three years, so I don't get completely white Christmases all the time, either. I get snow here for part of December, then I go home for about three weeks around Christmas and there's no snow. It's a real downer - I leave here on the bus in the morning and there's lots of snow, and when I finally get home 10 hours later, there's no sign of a snowflake anywhere.

  -Becka :)
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  It's almost Christmas!

  by under74 in

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  anyone else excited?

  i'm not excited about everything...there was a family fight at thanksgiving that hasn't been totally resolved yet.

  not sure how it will all turn out.

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  No snow in PEI yet, Legolas?? OK, here's the deal - one of my roommates is from PEI and she's going home for the holidays next week. If you don't have any snow over there by then, I'll be sure to send some to PEI with my roommate!!

  Hey, Christmas just isn't Christmas without the snow!!

  -Becka :)
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  JW mom told 6 y/o grandson Santa was fake

  by unbeliever in

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  and that christmas trees were pagan sticks.

  she really did it this time.

  he does not understand what a pagan stick is but he sure understands about santa not being real.

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  OK, I can see when a grandparent wants their grandchildren brought up properly, but that's crossing the line. No wait, that's going long, tripping over the line and tumbling into a heap 15 feet past the line.

  Sure, my grandmother wanted (and still wants) me to understand her faith and I do get far too many religious lectures from her - how do I dread it when she asks me when I went to church last, those conversations never end well. But she's never, ever tried to go against my parents with her beliefs. Of course, it might help that my parents are both Anglican, as am I, and my grandmother is a diehard Anglican, but that's besides the point. My grandmother never tried to scare me about religion or destroy my childhood by telling me that Santa Claus isn't real or anything else like that. And you know what, without any intrusive religious propaganda, I turned out just fine, imagine that.

  And with regards to telling your kids that Santa Claus is real, I don't see the harm in it. When I was little, I believed that Jem and the Holograms were real because I really liked that TV show, but it didn't ruin my life when I realized that it was a cartoon and not real. I grew up believing that Santa Claus came to my house every Christmas Eve and left some presents for me and my family, and you know what, when I got older and understood that Santa Claus doesn't really exist, it didn't bother me at all. I never felt shocked or wronged, I never felt deceived, I just felt like I was privy to something that grown-ups knew about and I liked it, it gave me the opportunity to help out and bring the magic of Santa Claus to younger children that I knew, like my younger cousins. Believing in Santa Claus has had no negative effects on me and I never felt like my parents deceived me about it. Even when I got a little older and my friends said, "Do you believe in Santa?", knowing that he didn't exist, my favourite answer was always, "I believe in the spirit of Christmas," and you know what, I still do. Santa Claus is just part of a very warm and very magical season. And believe me, when I get home for the holidays, one of the first things I'm going to do is dig out my fluffy red Santa hat.

  I think it's all innocent fun, believing in Santa Claus, something magical for children to believe in, something they can imagine. I mean, really, growing up means that the world isn't magical anymore, reality is cold and harsh and really not all that fun at all, so why make children grow up sooner than they need to?? Let them believe in Santa Claus and the magic of Christmas, let them have their fun and be carefree children while they still can. The real world isn't fun, there's no magic, reality really does bite, so don't force them into the real world until it's absolutely necessary.

  -Becka :)
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  It's almost Christmas!

  by under74 in

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  anyone else excited?

  i'm not excited about everything...there was a family fight at thanksgiving that hasn't been totally resolved yet.

  not sure how it will all turn out.

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  Something tells me that I'm not the only one who cringed at defd's post about Christmas being a dishonouring holiday based on untruths and all of that. I swear, there's a book out there somewhere that every JW has memorized to counter any and all Christian events, especially Christmas, because they all seem to say the same thing.

  Anyway, am I excited about Christmas?? Damn straight!! I've been listening to Christmas music for a month now, I love my Bing Crosby carols and all of the fun songs that I grew up with, like the Muppets' "12 Days of Christmas" and the Chipmunks' "Christmas Song", they're all great and they make me feel so festive!! I've been working on my Christmas shopping since the beginning of October, too, so I've been feeling rather festive for a while now!!

  My favourite parts of Christmas are the decorations - I absolutely love the lights and the trees and the colours and all of that - and the fact that everyone makes an effort to get together and just have fun and enjoy each other's company. I'm a university student, so Christmas is one of the few times of the year that I can see all of my friends and family and just enjoy being with them.

  And I'm huge on gift-giving, I love it!! I don't like Christmas because I receive gifts, I love it because I get to give everyone else gifts!! There's nothing more magical and satisfying than the look of surprise and appreciation on a loved one's face when you give them a present that they just love!!

  Of course, my JW boyfriend is doing his best to suck the joy out of my holiday season, but too bad, he's failing miserably. Nothing will ever make me hate Christmas, NOTHING!! Not to mention the fact that when I justified my celebrating Christmas to him, complete with supporting Bible verses and references to the WTS countering all of his arguments, he just conveniently ignored everything that I said because it ran contrary to everything he's ever been taught.

  And Legolas, relax, snow is coming!! Here on the east coast, we got about 6 inches of it yesterday and it's still snowing!! It's a little late, but better late than never.

  -Becka :)