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i'm so tired that i'm falling asleep at work, please help me stay awake!.
lola
I recommend an ice-cold can or bottle of Pepsi (regular Pepsi, none of this diet junk), that's my favourite source of caffeine when I'm falling asleep in class.
And open a window or something, fresh air is good, and some music might help, too.
-Becka :)
argh, i'm a little on the frustrated side right now, so i'm looking for some help.. i'm usually quite good at getting lots of sleep, i'm usually in bed at a decent hour in the night and can usually get between 7 and 9 hours of sleep a night (more on the weekends, of course), but for the last week or so, i've been having some trouble sleeping.
a scattered night of sleeplessness can be expected from time to time, but it's been about 10 days now, that's a little excessive.
i do all of my usual things during the day - classes, homework, chores, cooking, cleaning, errands - and i never nap during the day, i avoid all forms of caffeine after 5pm, and i always go to bed feeling like it's time for me to go to sleep, i'm usually tired at bedtime, but lately, it's been taking me forever to get to sleep.
Hi Eduardo, thanks for the tips.
Just wanted to add after reading the post that just posted above mine. Don't overlook the quality of your bed. For something that we spend a lot of our life on, no furniture could be more important.it's worth getting a really good bed.
Heh, I live on-campus, the mattress I sleep on is made of foam with a hard, heavy, crinkly plastic covering, it definitely doesn't fall into the category of a "really good bed", or even a "decent bed" for that matter. It falls into the "be thankful it's not made of straw" category.
but really, don't stress out, I saw your age and the first thing that I thought of is that you should really just realize that this could be normal.Teens need and do get a lot of sleep. I think when I was in High School, with the exception of Football Games/practice or Dances, I was conked out by 11 at most. ; But when I started college it was a whole difrerent story. I started staying up at least until midnight and it hasn't changed since. I am usually up to 1 at least. But now at your age, you might not need as much sleep as before and this may just be your natural self.
Hmm, I'm 20, nearly 21, and I still need every hour of sleep that I needed when I was in high school. Back then, if I didn't get 10 hours of sleep or so, I was a zombie all day, and I'm still like that. I actually feel my best when I've slept for 10-12 hours, I'm a real sleep-junkie. In high school, I went to bed at 10:30pm and got up at 7am, but now that I'm in college, I never go to bed before midnight, and it's always like that now, whether I'm at school or not. I just tend to need lots of sleep, I've always been like that.
So the first questions are: are you not getting enough sleep, do you have a sleep-deficit and is it really affecting you?If you aren't sleeping like you used to do a few years ago, but your performance, concentration, and energy are ;fine during the day then it is probably not somethng for you to worry about. In fact make use of your extra hour or two and just go too bed later without any worries.
But if you are falling asleep, day dreaming too much (because you need your REM/Delta sleep), can't concentrate or feeling fatigued then you know you need more sleep.
And of course, if it is that you feel like you are sleepy but when you lay down to sleep you suddenly cant, then you know you have insomnia.
My attention span is non-existent right now and I daydream almost constantly. Granted, I'm a daydreamer anyway, but in the past couple of weeks, it's been worse than usual. I find myself sitting in class and missing whole lectures because my mind was somewhere else. I always feel tired, and not just mentally tired, but physically tired, too, it's not much fun. I feel like I just ran a marathon, but I really haven't done very much at all today. All I can think of is sleep. But of course, when bedtime rolls around, sleeping is the last thing I can do. It's happened to me before, too - I had a nasty bout of insomnia that lasted for 6 months last year, and I'm concerned that it might be back for another go at me.
I don't sleep during the day, just to make sure that I'm good and tired in the night. I'm fairly active, and I eat as well as I can afford to (remember, college student, not a hell of a lot of money), I just can't seem to sleep. It's not unusual for me to get a night or two when I can't sleep sometimes, but it's been nearly 2 weeks now, that's a little excessive.
I'm gonna try some of the tips here, sex not included (remember, the boyfriend lives really far away), and if all else fails, I'll have to suck it up and go to a doctor. Ugh, I hate doctors, I haven't been to one in ages, but you gotta do what you gotta do, I guess. I'm still hoping that this issue resolves itself, though. I survived it last year, I can do it again this year.
Thanks for the tips and concern!!
-Becka :)
if there is a god...don't any of you find it odd that we don't even know his name!
i mean... if he was real why didn't he preserve his name for all of us to know?
i mean think of it, it is really stupid isn't!
The God that can be truly named isn't.
Another good take on it. God cannot truly be known, can He?? So if He can't be truly known and understood, how can He be properly named?? I think using a respectful title for Him, such as "Father" and "God" are perfectly acceptable.
-Becka :)
hey guys, i found the following to be quite interesting, they have some great links to jw literature, maybe this will help the lurkers to see that the house to house preaching waste of time, is pretty redundant as many religious people are now wise to the fallacy of the borg.
what to you guys think?.
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A Muslim thinks JW's are a Menace to them
Heh, I'm inclined to think that JWs are a menace to society as a whole. Good thing that they're not as all-encompassing as they'd like to be, or we'd all be doomed!!
-Becka :)
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i'm quite new here, so i apologize if this topic has been covered.. the reason i ask this,, i was raised in the midwest.
a majority(more than 50%) of the children at the local congregation were homeschooled.. the end result was that these homeschooled kids had social problems, found it difficult making and keeping friends and were completely out of touch with the world.. as these kids became adults, rarely did they stay on as witnesses and usually went to the other extreme,, you know the old saying,, sex drugs and rock n' roll..
and not going to the prom (which is a JW thing, too, isn't it??) stunted his social developmentSuper_Becka, I guess you haven't heard that prom is just another word for fornication! Hopefully you can help your boyfriend make some sense out of the way he was raised at some point in time.
Ooo, if "prom" = "fornication", then I definitely did something wrong at my prom!! I didn't even have a date!! I just went to the prom, then I went to the Safe Grad, stayed up all night, ate lots of junk food and slept the whole next day. I didn't even drink, much less "fornicate"!! Hell, I didn't even get my first kiss until almost a year later, when I was in university!! Heh, I don't make no wonder I'm still a virgin at 20 (nearly 21), I missed out on the whole "prom=fornication" thing!!
I do agree that high school is a rite of passage, though. Sure, it can be sheer hell some days, there are plenty of times when you just don't want to be there. It's not much fun watching everyone else being happy and cheerful and popular while you're too busy worrying about next week's math test to even consider being happy, but overall, it's a very good, very valuable experience. Heh, my high school years weren't exactly my glory days (heh, I think I missed those all together, no glory days for Becka), there was a lot of turmoil and broken friendships (most of my friends completely abandoned me for my younger brother when I was 15) and teen angst, but all of these things build character and mold you into the adult you'll be in a few years. Without high school and all the trouble that went with it, I wouldn't be the person that I am today.
And there are lots of fun parts to high school, too - I loved being a member of the drama troupe as a stage manager, I loved helping out on the yearbook and Safe Grad committees, I loved doing the charity work ("World Vision 30-Hour Famine" and the "Canadian Breast Cancer Society's Run For The Cure"), there were lots of perks to being a normal high school student. And the friendships are priceless - high school really lets you see who's a true friend and who isn't, and I still have all of my closest friends from high school, they stuck with me and I'm sticking with them. Maybe my social skills didn't improve a hell of a lot in high school, but I'm definitely a more well-rounded person because of high school.
-Becka :)
if there is a god...don't any of you find it odd that we don't even know his name!
i mean... if he was real why didn't he preserve his name for all of us to know?
i mean think of it, it is really stupid isn't!
In the whole scheme of things, why would children need to know the Father's name, in the sense of a moniker for identification?I was prob 7 or 8 before I knew my Dad had a first name - I thought he was just Dad. I never really have needed to know his first name - and I would never call him that [except in fun]. He is still Dad, my Father. Jesus did not - as far as we know - use a personal name for His Father. He called him Father - Abba Father. Papa, Daddy. With great affection.
Perhaps - at some distant point - we would need to know His Name - though for what reason I cannot concieve in my fleshly mind at this point. Until then, I call Him Father. Abba. With great affection.
Nicely put, Jeff, I'm inclined to agree with you.
I remember when I was younger, it never even dawned on me that my father had a first name, he was always just "Daddy" for me, I thought that was his name. I remember hearing my mother calling him by his first name ("John") and thinking that that was the weirdest thing ever - I mean, wasn't his name "Daddy"?? Even now, when they're referring to each other, my parents never use their first names - they'll say "your mother" or "your father" instead of their actual names. My grandparents do the same for each other when they're talking to me - my grandfather will say "Nan" or and my grandmother will say "Pop" when they refer to each other. Shouldn't children and grandchildren refer to their parents and grandparents by their titles, rather than their first names, as a sign of respect?? I can't imagine calling my parents by their first names, it even feels weird to say their names when I'm not talking to them, to me, they're "Mom" and "Dad" and I call them that out of love and respect.
Maybe "God" is His name, or maybe it's His title and He hasn't revealed His true name to us because, out of respect, we should call Him by His title. Or maybe it's something else completely different and I'm completely off-base here, I don't know, I'm not a Biblical scholar. I will continue to call Him "God" and "Father" as a sign of my respect and love for Him. In my opinion, if calling God, "Father" was good enough for Jesus Christ, then it's definitely good enough for me!!
-Becka :)
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i'm quite new here, so i apologize if this topic has been covered.. the reason i ask this,, i was raised in the midwest.
a majority(more than 50%) of the children at the local congregation were homeschooled.. the end result was that these homeschooled kids had social problems, found it difficult making and keeping friends and were completely out of touch with the world.. as these kids became adults, rarely did they stay on as witnesses and usually went to the other extreme,, you know the old saying,, sex drugs and rock n' roll..
Welcome to the board, Nolita, glad to have you here!!
Now, on to the topic...
Hmm, I was never homeschooled, it just never came up, why would it?? School is a perfectly normal thing, plus my parents both work outside the home, so it wouldn't have been possible anyway. And we never had any reason to do it, why would we?? Granted, I was a shy kid (still am) and I often thought that homeschooling would be so much easier than going to school and dealing with all of the people every day, but now that I think back, I can't imagine being homeschooled - sure, sometimes school was hard, high school especially, but I still had a great time with all of my friends, and I wouldn't give up those memories for the world!!
I asked my JW boyfriend about high school and stuff once, just to see what it was like for him, especially because he was raised as a JW and I was curious as to how he handled high school and dating. For one, he didn't date at all in high school, because everyone knew he was a Witness and avoided him, and I don't think he had many friends at all, except maybe for a couple of JWs. When I asked him about the prom and his prom date, etc., he said that he didn't go to the prom. I was a little shocked, it's almost a rite of passage to go to the prom, so I asked him why he didn't go. He said he was homeschooled for his last year of high school because his family moved a lot.
Personally, I think that growing up as a JW, along with being homeschooled in his last year of high school and not going to the prom (which is a JW thing, too, isn't it??) stunted his social development, he's really not much good with people. He lacks tact in a lot of things, he doesn't understand a lot of things, he's not good with new people and he's just immature and child-like about a lot of things. I think it's because he didn't interact and learn from experience, so now he's nearly 30 years old and has the social graces of a 10-year-old.
I feel bad for people who grow up like this, I really do.
-Becka :)
ok. i've just read this in the march 2006 - i reckon its an out and out lie and i challenge anyone to find a school where this is happening.. this is in the young people ask section:.
'how can i say no to sex at school?'.
"every day, kids are talking about sex.
OK. I've just read this in the March 2006 - I reckon its an out and out lie and I challenge anyone to find a school where this is happening.This is in the Young People Ask section:
'How can I say no to sex at school?'
"Every day, kids are talking about sex. Girls even approach guys, and they have sex right there at school." - Eileen, 16.
"At my school, homosexuals do immoral things in full view of other kids and think nothing of it." - Michael, 15.
NO WONDER JWS ARE HOMESCHOOLING THEIR CHILDREN!
I do not believe for one minute this is true. If it was it would be plastered on the front of every newspaper as an outrage.
What do you think?
Hmm, I've been out of high school for almost three years, but I still clearly remember what it was like there and I don't recall seeing any sex happening anywhere on school grounds. And I went to the largest high school in my area - about 900 students, grades 10 through 12. (Yeah yeah, I know that sounds tiny for some of you cityslickers, but where I'm from, that's a HUGE school - when I was younger, the school I attended had about 150 students from Kindergarten through grade 9, so my high school was monstrously huge to me.)
Granted, there was lots of "heavy petting" and making out and groping going on, plus the usual hand-holding and flirting, but unless shoving your tongue down someone else's throat is now considered sex, then I don't think it's appropriate to say that lots of kids are having sex all the time in high school. Sure, they talk about it a lot, but that's because they're swimming in hormones, and I know plenty of people who are way too old for high school who talk about sex all the time, too, it's part of growing up and maturing. Let's face it, everyone thinks about sex on a regular basis once puberty hits, it's perfectly natural. And talking about it, too - I live with 3 girls and we're all in our early 20s, sex is something that comes up a lot in conversation.
I have heard stories of teenage girls giving BJs in junior high and I'm sure there are a few brave and adventurous souls who will find ways to have sex somewhere on school grounds, even if it's just for the bragging rights, but I don't think it's quite as prominent as the JWs are making it look in the above statements. They make it sound like high school is just one big orgy now!! I don't remember high school being that interesting. Sure, teenagers talk about sex a lot, teenage couples make out a lot, there's lots of hand-holding and all of that, but I'm damn sure that there aren't couples doing the nasty all over the hallways in high schools. Unless kissing suddenly means sex, in which case I missed the memo.
Hey, young people might be a little crazy and hormonally driven, but we're not that bad!! Give us a break, we deserve some respect here!!
-Becka :)
Hehehe, I love it!!
-Becka :)
i'll start... i talk to myself.
a lot.
i'll even hold full blown conversations.
OK, time for me to get in on this thread. Here's an embarrassing story about me:
When I was in junior high, I figure skated competitively with a team - it's called "synchronized skating". As part of our season, we would do exhibition skates before hockey games and for winter carnivals in between practices and competitions.
So when I was 14, my team was scheduled to skate before a well-anticipated hockey game at the local stadium. The team showed up early and we all got ready and dressed for the skate - we were performing our program from the provincial competition, and we were in full costume, you know, those spandex figure skating dresses with the skirts and the flesh-coloured tights, the whole shebang.
Just before the game, we went out onto the ice to skate, and the place was packed to the rafters. It's not a big stadium, but it was full and everyone was a local, so there were lots of people there that I know. We got into position for our warmup, and when it was time for everyone to go, a girl up front would call out a "5-6-7-8" count and on 8, we'd all start together.
She was in the front row of our warmup block, and I was in the third row, the stadium was noisy and she wasn't very loud. Couple this with the fact that I have a hearing problem (I'm completely deaf in my left ear, can't hear a damn thing on that side), and I missed her count and therefore my cue to start with everyone else.
I fell like a ton of bricks when everyone else started to skate. To paint a clearer picture of just how bad it was, keep in mind that I'm on the tall side when I'm not wearing skates - I'm 5' 9" tall, taller than everyone else on the team - and with skates, I'm over 6' tall, so I stand out. And the zamboni had just cleared the ice, so there was a lot of water. I was very noticeable when I fell, I got very wet, and every last person in the stadium, probably 2000 of 'em or so, laughed at me.
I just wanted to curl up and die, it was horrible. And the worst thing was, I was so startled by it that I stumbled again later in the program, and everyone laughed again!! Oh the embarrassment, and to make it even worse again, the hockey teams were teeming with hot guys that I saw around school - so much for making a good impression!!
And I bet you're all laughing right now, too, aren't you??
-Becka :)
