so i'm sitting in the lounge and these two guys i've never seen before appear at the door.one introduces himself and clearly knows who i am.
'witness-speak" means i figure out who he is pretty quick.i have to ask who the silent guy is and then invite them in for coffee and a sit down.
"no" i say,"my wifes not here but she'll be back in about 10 mins.
a farely new thing in the org. is that the elders are suppose to visit all inactive or disfellowshipped ones
at least 1 time a year. We have been out about 5 yrs and it was introduced right before we left.
Since the CO is coming they probably didn't want to get chewed out again for not visiting everyone.
The CO's can be pretty hard on the elders - usually a big scolding about how they aren't taking care of the
cong. right.
what kinds of holiday fun is everyone enjoying, that they couldn't before?
we decorated our front yard with some colorful lights and the lighted deer and an evergreen and red berry door wreath.
there's a pretty tree with presents under it in the living room.
We put up lights on our tree out in the yard and some of those lighted candy canes.
I was so excited to have the yard decorated - then the dog chewed through the
extension cord - so wonder she didn't get killed (I bet she got a good shock though)
and then chewed all the cords that connected the candy canes. I was so mad at her.
But she sat there and looked so cute that I couldn't stay mad for long.
- so now all I have are the icicle lights on the front porch. Maybe next year.........
what do you think has been the most helpful thing you have read, heard, or learned lately?
what helps you get along in a post-jw life?.
i think the reason people go back to an organization that they once rejected is that they find a void and have no experience with filling it.. what do you do to make a new social life?.
I totally agree with the trust issue. Not trusting anyone not even yourself, is drilled into everyone - especially if you were raised a JW. I still have trouble trusting - I am kinda a loner. But I always was. I have tried joining craft classes, exercise classes, ect - In the end you do have to learn to trust yourself so you can trust others and have friends.
a few weeks ago a man that live near my house wrecked his car and was killed about 5:45 am.
the mans friend my partner in business was at my house at 6:00 the go hunting on my place.
after he went hunting he left to find what had happened to his friend because he had not shown up.
Yes, I think it is real - I think some people have the ability to 'know' things that other people cannot.
Maybe a special ability. I think it is very interesting. I don't think we are suppose to understand
all things - somethings happen that we cannot or willnot understand. KimKat
i just got a major shock.
i can't believe the new levels of cruelty possible within families who are jws.. a friend on this board who i've known since i was a baby practically has managed to get me a picture of my little sister who i haven't seen for 8 years - the one who i've mentioned my dad said was working on the bethel quick build team.
the one who i've described my fears that she and my younger sister are staying single until armageddon.
So sorry to here your news - we check the newspapers obituarys regularlly, because we will
not be told if one of our parents dies. Hang in there - I figure that my family is, and always was
so screwed up that if I can free myself and be only a little quirky that's ok. I look back at old pictures
of myself when I was a witness and don't hardly recognize myself. hang in there -
my sister (inactive) called me yesterday to tell me that our mom had sent her.
a copy of an advice column.
the column was about a daughter that the family.
Hi everyone -
My sister (inactive) called me yesterday to tell me that our mom had sent her
a copy of an advice column. The column was about a daughter that the family
was shunning because 'she had gone to counselor and got ideas put in her head'.
My mom, of course applied it to me. I told my sister that I had never gone to a
counselor, that I came to my decision to leave JWs on my own.
It just makes me mad that my family thinks that I am brainwashed or something
to have left JW. I can think on my own. Anyway - I was wondering -
has this happened to anyone else? Thanks - I needed to unload. KimKat
i looked to see if there was a welcome thread for leftbehind...sorry if i missed it.. but, welcome anyway.
we are not what you think or was taught we are.
you are welcome here, and if you choose to stay around, you will no doubt find what it means to have unconditional love and respect not just for and from others...but for yourself.. wlg
Welcome leftbehind -
we are very glad you decided to join us. No judgement from me -
what you decide to believe is your decision. KimKat
so thats what it feels like.. i am not df'ed or da'ed, ... i have just stopped going to meetings.
my wife is trying to be as active as she can.. so all morning i am out of my regular routine.
late getting out of bed and late about everything today.. so i leave the house, and before getting to the office, i decide to stop at the mall for a quick, maybe 15 min, walk.. as soon as i get inside, taking my coat off, here is the elder who did everything he could in his power to get me out...and lied...and added to gossip that ran me outta there.. he and his wife spot me .. and turn there heads away and continue on their walk, .. eyes fixed on some thing away from me.. so thats what it feels like.........now i know.
ackack,
Hang in there, I feel hurt when I think of my family or close friends.
Just remember that they are so closed minded that they can't see beyond
thier own noses. KimKat
so thats what it feels like.. i am not df'ed or da'ed, ... i have just stopped going to meetings.
my wife is trying to be as active as she can.. so all morning i am out of my regular routine.
late getting out of bed and late about everything today.. so i leave the house, and before getting to the office, i decide to stop at the mall for a quick, maybe 15 min, walk.. as soon as i get inside, taking my coat off, here is the elder who did everything he could in his power to get me out...and lied...and added to gossip that ran me outta there.. he and his wife spot me .. and turn there heads away and continue on their walk, .. eyes fixed on some thing away from me.. so thats what it feels like.........now i know.
I know how you feel. We had many lies spread about us too.
Talk about vicious gossip!! And they claim that they are always loving - Ha
I had fun going over and saying "hi"
to the ones that acted that way It made me feel more in control
Once they realize you will talk to them - they usually hide when they see you. Funny!!
Hang in there - It gets easier in time.
i want you to know that you have destroyed a family because of your lies about jehovah and his organization.
a family member went apostate and has turned his back on jehovah.
he told us he is never coming back and i know he went and visited internet sites.
Dear Leftbehind,
sorry that you feel that you have been hurt and your family destroyed - but I do feel that unconditional
love will help you and your family overcome this. And since JW's teach and even take to court thier
right to religious freedom, I am sure you can respect others choice of a different religious view.
After all - if you want others to accept your beliefs, you have to accept thiers!!!
