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  As lurkers, what kept you from posting? Fear? Was there a basis for it?

  by What-A-Coincidence in

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  for me it was the fear of getting 'caught'?

  if that's the case, just don't give out names, places or dates.. i have been on jwd for over 2 years.

  the only way 'they' can catch me is if i give out details on the forum.. so lurkers...come out and get empowered!.

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  rowan

  It took guts to start posting after years of being a lurker. I am a shy person, and I usually feel I do not have anything interesting to say, or what I have thought would be a good reply to a post has already been said on the thread. so I keep on staying in the background. Sometimes I am compelled to response to a post, and do so, but that's rare.

  I love this forum and have been spending here 1 hour average every day, for almost five years now. It has been a window to the world and I learned a lot about everything, general culture, etc. And of course, it had a major impact on my shedding off the JW mentality and healing.
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  Circuit Overseer Complains Of Recieving HATE MAIL!

  by minimus in

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  the co visited my mom this week with 2 elders and told her that she must continue forgiving persons that might hurt her.

  he then went on to explain that he gets "hate mail" from various witnesses when he leaves their congregations.

  he chalks it up to their being discouraged but admitted it does bother him......have you ever heard of such a thing?

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  rowan

  is the "hate mail" he is getting from an anonymus (or however you write that) person? if so, may be he thinks he's getting it from somebody close to her and is fishing for clues.who knows from this people. they live in a small world.
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  Circuit Overseer Complains Of Recieving HATE MAIL!

  by minimus in

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  the co visited my mom this week with 2 elders and told her that she must continue forgiving persons that might hurt her.

  he then went on to explain that he gets "hate mail" from various witnesses when he leaves their congregations.

  he chalks it up to their being discouraged but admitted it does bother him......have you ever heard of such a thing?

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  rowan

  The "hate mail" I was planning to send to the elders that df'd me and refused to reinstate me twice ( a DO had to intervene so I could be reinstated, I played my part for family's sake) was a postcard picture of me and my husband, in front of our gorgeus new house, with a huge "thank you" note on the back.
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  Did you ever get in trouble for....

  by Fleshybirdfodder in

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  reading the bible during the watchtower study when you should have been "paying attention"?

  as a kid i constantly got repremanded for that.

  guess even then i'd rather find out for myself.

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  rowan

  abr,

  Now I cannot get rid of that stupid song in my head! LOL
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  Southern Minnesota Meetup.com group

  by Abandoned in

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  hey, i've been looking into setting up an ex-jw meetup group on meetup.com.

  according to their site, there is already 29 people within one hundred miles of rochester who have signed up to the site saying they would be interested in a meetup.

  the problem is it cotst either: $19.00 for one month, $45.00 for three months, or $72.00 for six months.

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  rowan

  how does the PM thingy work here? help! I am very bad w/ computers!
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  Southern Minnesota Meetup.com group

  by Abandoned in

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  hey, i've been looking into setting up an ex-jw meetup group on meetup.com.

  according to their site, there is already 29 people within one hundred miles of rochester who have signed up to the site saying they would be interested in a meetup.

  the problem is it cotst either: $19.00 for one month, $45.00 for three months, or $72.00 for six months.

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  rowan

  We are located in Rochester, MN. I'd like to meet ex-JWs personally, that would be a welcome new experience for me.

  I am paranoid, though, I got reinstated some time ago and dropped going to the meetings instantly.
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  Protect your assets, use a JW

  by startingover in

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  subject: excerpt from book.

  "how to protect your identity and your assets" by j.j. luna.. .

  although they call their church buildings "kingdom halls" we look them .

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  rowan

  I don't know what to make of this.

  whereas the cleaning services provided by JWs to JWs were ok more or less, they wouldn't steal, but forget about privacy. I suppose that cleaning services provided by JWs to non JWs tend to produce better relationships between employer-employee.

  Now, plumbing, building, painting and such stuff, at least in south america, from a JW to a JW, geeeeeeezzzzzz, what a nightmare. and they were as bad to non JWs too. I would NEVER recommed them to a non JW.

  once we had a guy who was building my father's new house. He worked three hours a day 'cause he was pioneering. he had 10 mouths to feed, our country was in the middle of an economical crisis, and dad didn't have the heart to fire him. oh, but, excuse me, he was pioneering, so we had to respect and understand that. WTF???? and is it necessary to say that he and his family backstabbed us all the time? Oh , yes the hand that was feeding him and his brood was too materialistic.

  lesson for me: JW workers are a no no.

  sorry for venting....

  Row
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  I'm protected by law, hurray!

  by AnonyMouse in

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  my mom telling me i had no rights infuriated me.

  it made me feel like all my attempts at freedom were useless (well, they were...).

  but the un made a thingy protecting children that a freind of mine found.

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  rowan

  It's great news that your mom encourages you on your education. make the most out of it.
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  I'm protected by law, hurray!

  by AnonyMouse in

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  my mom telling me i had no rights infuriated me.

  it made me feel like all my attempts at freedom were useless (well, they were...).

  but the un made a thingy protecting children that a freind of mine found.

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  rowan

  Anonymouse,

  I've read your original post and can relate to what is happening to you. I could finally break free from my hard core dominating JW parents when I was 23. yes, I felt suicidal many times. but I'm here right now, free and independent. and you too, will also get there. It feels like being trapped, and I can understand your anger against your mother, but remember, she is also a victim, and is most probably behaving so outrageously against you because she thinks she doing the best for you. Just hang in there, remember it will pass. and once you are free, the sky is your limit.

  It will pass. time passes quickly. in the mean time you can think of things that will help you get independant. get a particular area of interest that does not conflict with her and can help you in the future to get a job or further education. baby, you are in america. I am an immigrant (legal) here, and I can tell you: you set your limits here. there are chances. there is a future for everyone seeking it, so hang in there, it will come. just make sure to be there to embrace your destiny.

  you have my empathy,

  Rowan
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  Girls/ ladies, were the sister`s competetive in your congs?

  by dido in

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  i don`t know about your congs, but the ones i were in became like fashion competitions between some of the sisters.

  i noticed how some of them would look you up and down, very obviously, then the following week wear something identical.

  i hate being the same as other people, so it used to p... me off, but i couldn`t believe how competetive they were.

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  rowan

  sspo, I think the problem's universal. At least it was like that in Argentina, in several congregations. and you could smell it at the circuit assemblies. I regret to admit I was part of it.