I think he wants to believe me, but is just so afraid. My favorite question for him is something along the lines of: If you believe they're right, what do you think of me? And why do you want to be around people who think of me like that? (There was a December 15, 2005 or '06 article referenced on here about worldly people = cockroaches.) He keeps trying to tell me they don't think like that and he certainly doesn't, and I keep telling him I've read some of their publications and know what they think, which means he must, too, if he believes they're right. He does the cognitive dissonance dance very well.
RebelWife
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A few months after we were married, he announced that he was going back. Uh, excuse me? I found out that this meant he would be spending time away from me nearly every day for this and had a meltdown. Things got really ugly and I almost left him. As we were arguing, more stuff seemed to come out, which infuriated me even more. Because of the things I was saying, he accused me of reading "apostate stuff" on the internet. Had never even heard that word before and hadn't read anything from any outside sources, unless you consider the Bible to be "apostate stuff." Things died down, he promised not to go back, life returned to normal. A few months later we had the same scenario. That time, I started looking on the internet, which led me here.
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RebelWife
I prayed fervently for help in understanding what he believed. That didn't help any. I finally asked God to show me the truth -- one way or the other because that's what's really important. Okay, THAT helped. I asked him the burning question: "If you go back, how would that make my life different?" Got a very short list, and only one of the things would be any different. I could deal with that. We decided religion was a subject we wouldn't discuss. Since he had told me he was never going back, I didn't think it was a big deal.
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As we were falling in love, we talked about his religion because it was part of who he was and it seemed like it was still important to him. I had questions that, of course, he couldn't answer. So he gave me the little "reasoning" book. I read that. Was unimpressed. I did note that a lot of the scriptural citations didn't have a dadgum thing to do with the subject at hand. I thought that was really weird. I WANTED to believe the same as he did because, despite not being a churchgoer, God is important to me. I never equated that with church, though. Anyway, he began to get really frustrated with me because I couldn't understand. This turned into some pretty ugly arguments. I couldn't understand why he thought this crap made sense.
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RebelWife
My bad. The dogs starting going nuts for some reason, so I thought he was home. Yes, I have to sneak. That rattled me. Where was I? Ah, yes -- he was disfigured when we met. All I knew about JWs was they don't do holidays and they knock on doors & are very pushy, but run away from questions & don't come back. My opinion of them was that they were devout, but misguided. I was a kinda-sorta Christian who had attended three church services at three different churches in my entire life. How do I make paragraphs? (I haven't been paying attention. Sorry.)
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Oh, hi, everybody! I have been lurking since the summer of '04. As far as I can tell (because we don't talk about this very much at all), he was/is a 3rd generation born-in. Was DFd (disfigured -- lol) when I met him. gotta go he's home.
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Okay. Now I'm embarrassed. Y'all are so nice. I really meant to introduce myself properly before commenting, but, well, here I am. I have to go to work, but I am married to a DFd (I loathe the stupid lingo and usually flat-out refuse to use it) peach of a man who just can't seem to let go of the Watchsewer. Can you tell I'm a teensy bit angry? We manage to avoid this elephant in our midst except for once or twice a year, at which time I turn into a crazy woman. I'll say more later, a WHOLE lot more, because I have no outlet for it other than my semi-annual she-devil routine.
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JWs and the fear of death
by greendawn inthere was a recent thread on whether the wts attracts emotionally disturbed individuals which is unlikely to be the case since so many jws do not fit that description.
later i thought perhaps the wts appeals to people that deep inside have a fear of death which is scientifically called thanatophobia (from the greek word thanatos which means death) an excessive and abnormal fear of death.
what do you think, many jws find it very difficult to come to terms with the inevitability of their (and everyone else's) death and the wts plays with this fear and makes them believe that the end of this world and immortality for the dubs are very near.
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RebelWife
Thanks for the welcome, Changeling. I'm so glad I stumbled on this site. Yeah, the Best Of is great. I have to go to work, but I'll do a proper "hello" post later. I just had to comment on that tripe about trees and turtles.
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JWs and the fear of death
by greendawn inthere was a recent thread on whether the wts attracts emotionally disturbed individuals which is unlikely to be the case since so many jws do not fit that description.
later i thought perhaps the wts appeals to people that deep inside have a fear of death which is scientifically called thanatophobia (from the greek word thanatos which means death) an excessive and abnormal fear of death.
what do you think, many jws find it very difficult to come to terms with the inevitability of their (and everyone else's) death and the wts plays with this fear and makes them believe that the end of this world and immortality for the dubs are very near.
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RebelWife
Honesty -- thanks. I need to post my little story, but to make it short, I've never been a JW. (Should have picked a different name, I guess.) I married a lovely man who was DF'd but still believes their crap.
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JWs and the fear of death
by greendawn inthere was a recent thread on whether the wts attracts emotionally disturbed individuals which is unlikely to be the case since so many jws do not fit that description.
later i thought perhaps the wts appeals to people that deep inside have a fear of death which is scientifically called thanatophobia (from the greek word thanatos which means death) an excessive and abnormal fear of death.
what do you think, many jws find it very difficult to come to terms with the inevitability of their (and everyone else's) death and the wts plays with this fear and makes them believe that the end of this world and immortality for the dubs are very near.
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RebelWife
"Only when we accept the Bible’s explanation that man’s present dying state was never a part of God’s original purpose can we make sense out of things that would otherwise be very puzzling. Take as an example the life-spans of certain plants and animals that far surpass that of man. A tree may live for hundreds of years; some, such as sequoias and bristlecone pines, for thousands of years. It is not unusual for a giant tortoise to get to be more than 150 years old. Why should this be? Why should mindless trees and unreasoning tortoises outlive intelligent man?" Hi. I'm new and I'm going to throw up. Either that or laugh my a$$ off. I don't know about anybody else, but my JW hubby doesn't want to believe he is as insignificant as he feels, deep down, that he is. Sorry -- I just couldn't contain myself any longer.