stevepill wrote: she does clam up when I ask her questions about her faith as she feels if she says something negative then I will hold it against her, her family are all in it but she is the black sheep of the family and they now keep their distance because she's not doing what she should be doing, they have not contacted her since last July!
This is because she still believes it is 'The Truth'. She does not want to speak against God.
And since she believes JWs are God's chosen people, when she has a child and is legally married, she will very likely attend meetings again. Even if just sporadically. Her parents will 'inculcate' the JW beliefs whenever they have access to your child.
stevepill also wrote: she means the world to me but she says she cannot guarantee she won't go back.
That's because she still believes it's the truth. Someone who has seen the org for what it really is, and has left, can and *will* give you a guarantee that they will not go back. EVER.
I am one that will never go back. But before I learned the truth about the truth, I was very uncomfortable talking to boyfriends (or others) about the (cult) religion. And I did not want to stumble non-jw's who may be interested in studying and/or converting. At that time, if JW's asked about my returning, I would say 'maybe soon I will start attending meetings again'. If a non-jw boyfriend pushed an answer from me about ever returning, I would have given an answer like your girlfriend. Because I believed that at some point I *would* return.
It's a different story/answer for me now. Unequivocally, I guarantee you that I will not return. EVER.
Your girlfriend, I'm afraid, will likely return after she has a baby.
-Aude Sapere (meaning: Dare to Know; Dare to Have Wisdom Understanding; Dare to Think for Yourself)