It's a very long road for them unshacklethechains.
To have a wife that slowly wakes up is very rewarding in the end no doubt, but believe me when I say, I went through 10 years of my own wife defending the religion and at the end of that we almost lost our otherwise very loving and healthy marriage due to her unswerving loyalty to the cult. If you have much patience with your wife and/or an acceptance that she'll potentially NEVER be completely free from it then you'll be ok. I think generally we just don't want major upheaval for ourselves and our families.
For me, that religion has literally destroyed my life & despite things working out for us just now, there were things that went on in our lives at the bad stages that I deeply regret and mostly blame on the religions influence.
I now realise that my fading has caused (quite rightly) many witnesses to question their own beliefs due to my influence and interchange which I would've hated to have been denied. Had I disassociated I would've forgone that. My long term voice would've been silenced.
Why give them that power? Disempower THEM. Be what you want to be with a freedom of speech that they'd otherwise shut down.
You don't need to be a badge carrying rabid apostate to influence people. You can do so kindly & subtly. I should know. I've done it for 12 years now.
The other option will silence you completely. Disassociation will even shut down your dialogue with family, never mind friends.
You need to think carefully and consider all these factors.
Above all - do what feels right to you. And if you have a faith, know that it'll be respected and valued by those who matter in your friend/family circle. As much as I don't personally have faith, I truly respect those who have it. Not the destructive JW version of faith. But the kind that benefits the individuals who have it and treasure it.
Stay cool my friend! ❤️
