Posts by snarf

Oh yes, I forgot, make sure you take care of yourself, get a new hairdo, go to a day spa, buy a new outfit, take a trip. I took my daughter on a trip to Maine, got as far away as I could from Iowa and still be in the states, it was awesome. We reconnected, saw the ocean for the first time together, ate lunch on the beach and did whatever we wanted, she still talks about the trip, and for me, it made me realize I could enjoy the newly single life by taking those trips I always wanted to take, I truly felt free. Also, there is nothing wrong with using some good ole' medications to help "take the edge" off the trauma, you need your sleep and you still have to be able to cope with day to day life. I was prescribed some light anti-depressants and some sleep pills to help get through that time, and they really helped. There is nothing worse than being wide awake with emotions at 3 in the morning.

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Advice on Separating & Divorce

by damselfly in

we have a few posters on here that are going through a divorce or a separation.

in order to respect their privacy i will not be naming them in this thread.

do you have advice to give them?

snarf

I found reading alot of books on how to get over the realtionship helped, also music, I would make cd's, some filled with "hate music" if I was having a bad dayand some with "easy listening" for good days, and some with "old music" from my school age days to take me back to the memories before the ex came into the picture. Friends are very important during this time, and if you have kids, dive into their lives. Reassure them that you BOTH love them and use the extra time you have to do something with them, go to the park, take them swimming, see a movie. On the lawyer note, you want a lawyer that won't let you get screwed, but if raking the ex over the coals is not on your agenda, make sure you inform the lawyer that it is not your intention and you want to be fair.

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Circuit Overseers Are On a Pledge Drive

by Severus in

jehovah's witnesses will be experiencing a special treat during their co (circuit overseer) visit this season: a bona-fide pledge drive.. during the thursday night meeting the normal co talk will instead be a video entitled:.

building kingdom halls advances true worship.

this 30-minute advances video is well produced and explains the watchtower society's program to build simplified kingdom halls in third-world and poor countries were materials and funds are scarce.. interviews and footage focus on south america, africa and eastern europe.

snarf

I never did understand why the WTS corp. never gave the money themselves to fulfill their preaching mission, they have millions and millions of dollars and assets that they could use to build them, but no, make the already struggleing DUBS feel responsible.

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Worst experiences with ex spouses

by greendawn in

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friends

what were some of the worst experiences you had with ex spouses or ex boyfriends/girlfriends?

one of my ex girlfriends just left me suddenly without ever saying anything in advance and i never saw her again for a long time and that happened by coincidence.

her disappearence was totally unexpected.

snarf

JGNAT- that is awful !!!!!! I too was beaten on a regular basis, but not to that extent, mine was more into the psychological games, threatening to hang the kids by trees or torterong them in front of me, then killing me (two were his own from a previous marrige). Feel blessed that you made it out, so many women stay because they are trapped. I wish you lots of love, happiness and success.

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Worst experiences with ex spouses

by greendawn in

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friends

what were some of the worst experiences you had with ex spouses or ex boyfriends/girlfriends?

one of my ex girlfriends just left me suddenly without ever saying anything in advance and i never saw her again for a long time and that happened by coincidence.

her disappearence was totally unexpected.

snarf

Justitia I know how you felt, I too had a company, very succesful with my ex, and he left me, moved in with his parents, and transfered everything over to his parents name, drained the bank account, and continued writing checks on the account even after I closed it. I couldn't afford the house payments anymore, so the parents "graciously" took over the payments and I had no options but to sign a quit claim deed over so they could finance in their name. I lost everything within a month, but now, I look at my life and if that is what I had to go through to get where I am today, I would do it again. It really built character and made me stand on my own two feet.

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My favorite weather...what's yours? (Ozzie's gone fluffy!)

by ozziepost in

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friends

yep, as i'm tapping away here i started to hear the gentle roar on the patio roof - it was a shower!

and the water's free!.

looking out the window i marvel at the richness of the green - the green leaves on the trees and bushes in the backyard, the green of the grass - and it's various shades too!

snarf

I love watching a thunderstorm coming in from the distance, the smell of rain in the air, the energy. That is my idea of a good time on a warm summer night, kicking back on the porch, with a cool drink, and watching the show.

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any here ever use their credit card on ebay?

by orbison11 in

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friends

greetings have any of you ever used your card on ebay?

were you concerned with security?

i am considering doing it but am a bit worried bout security.

snarf

I have used mine several times through paypal, never one problem.

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Cleaning the Kingdom Hall

by general in

what part of the hall was your favorite part to clean?

was it the bathrooms, the main hall, library or lunch room perhaps...did people use cleaning the hall as an excuse to get self-righteous?

let me know.... lol.

snarf

I did the cleaning one time. I was cleaning with a sister who had cleaned numerous times, so she knew exactly how to clean. I was (hurt) when she took it upon herself to make sure she checked everything I did to make sure it was "cleaned right". She was so critical of everything, but the funny thing is, my house was always cleaner than hers...lol.