I do spend a lot of time with my dads family. My grandpa, who had a huge hand in raising me passed away in November. I have watched my family crumble. My oldest son got a huge reality check when grandpa died and his so called witness friends didnt come around for almost 3 months. Believe it or not, I am usually the strong one in the family. I am very outspoken and handle a lot of the non religious issues in the family. I am with you when it comes to my kids and religion. My oldest son plays tons of sports and wasnt going to play because he didnt want to let his grandpa down. I had a very long talk with my dad about this and finally he told me he saw nothing wrong with my son playing, I made him tell my son this. My daughter goes to 3 different churches and is involved in every school activity she can be. My other 2 boys are interested in friends, my youngest is only 8 and has CP, he believes god and Santa are the same person. When religion affects my kids, I put my foot down. I feel like I spend so much time talking to these guys about whats ok and not. When it comes to religion I get sick of this conversation. I will always do this for them because it was never ok for me to question dads religion, but I hope they see through the JWs the way I did.
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by sickofhurting inlooks like a good place to start, maybe you guys can help me figure out what to do with my extremly messed up family.
my family are either jws or were at some point.
im sure you can see why this leads to a completly disfunctional family.
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Not sure where to go from here
by sickofhurting inlooks like a good place to start, maybe you guys can help me figure out what to do with my extremly messed up family.
my family are either jws or were at some point.
im sure you can see why this leads to a completly disfunctional family.
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thanks GGG, I love this
" I've decided that my life is a journey, and I'm in charge. I'm not letting anyone tell me what I believe anymore. That applies to religion, my conscience, my kids, my marriage, everything."
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Not sure where to go from here
by sickofhurting inlooks like a good place to start, maybe you guys can help me figure out what to do with my extremly messed up family.
my family are either jws or were at some point.
im sure you can see why this leads to a completly disfunctional family.
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My dad lives about 2 miles from me. My mom lives about 3 hours from me. All of my dads family is here in this small town. I have to sit back and laugh sometimes at the level of disfunction my family covers to "save the family name" within the hall. I think the only thing from the religion I did keep was a strong respect for my elders. I think thats why I am in turmoil now. My dad was an elder for years, and "stepped down" due to health issues. He is now more human than he has been in years. My mom is just mom, her opinion has always been out there, but she always thinks she is right.
So to answer your question, NO WAY do I live with my parents, I think I would have to hope I could use prison computers if I had to live with them at all.
Thanks for all of the warm welcomes. Everyone seems so assured of their beliefs here. I hope to get to that point some time in my life, along with growing a spine when it comes to my family.
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Not sure where to go from here
by sickofhurting inlooks like a good place to start, maybe you guys can help me figure out what to do with my extremly messed up family.
my family are either jws or were at some point.
im sure you can see why this leads to a completly disfunctional family.
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I have 12 year old twins and a son who is almost 14. My mom is very overbearing. I feel guilty letting my kids be around my family some of the time because dad is stuck on the fact the world is ending (they are releasing new information at an upcoming convention I was told) My mom is negitive. I was forced to go to meetings as a kid. I hated them. I hated religion, elders, and the whole bunch. At the ripe old age of 32 I have came to the realization that religion is nothing more than what people need at that point and time in their life. Everyone needs different things, thats why I think there are so many religions.
I dont mean to rattle on, these are thoughts I have had for years, and I dont talk to my dad about it anymore because we all know what happens if you doubt god, and I let my dad live with the hope I will come around. It makes his little world easier, and I dont talk to my mom because well, to be honest, she doesent listen to anyone because she is too busy thinking she is right about everything.
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Not sure where to go from here
by sickofhurting inlooks like a good place to start, maybe you guys can help me figure out what to do with my extremly messed up family.
my family are either jws or were at some point.
im sure you can see why this leads to a completly disfunctional family.
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sickofhurting
Hello,
Looks like a good place to start, maybe you guys can help me figure out what to do with my extremly messed up family. My family are either JWs or were at some point. Im sure you can see why this leads to a completly disfunctional family. I was raised in this religion and decided as an adult I couldnt love a god who played who has the bigest d%ck with our lives so I stepped away from the religion. My mother is athiest at this point. I am not by any means. I have 3 children that I feel are old enough to explore religion. They go to several churches. My dad, who is still JW takes them with him at times, but doesent push them at all. My mom tells them her thoughts with no remourse. My family fights all the time. They have that "christian love". I am at a breaking point. My mom says what she wants no matter what I say. My dad is pretty much the same way and I am torn all the time. How would you deal with these "great" people. My only goal is to protect my kids from the hell I lived with growing up JW. Thanks for you time.