"I've posted before about seeing a JW and I am Catholic. Right now we are having the "unevenly yolk" conseveration. Can anyone tell me what percentage of JW's are married to non JW? Or a good guess. #1 I am not an egg. #2 I'm not plowing any fields that I would need a yolk. #3 How can we be uneven if if we both believe in the same God. My heart is being broken because of this. "
LaCatolica -
Guess what? I know exactly how you feel! I had to listen to the same "unevenly-yolk-talk" ...let's see...about 20 years ago. And I don't know what percentage of jw's are married to non-jw's, probably not that high...considering that WTS actively discourages members from going out with non-members. And I would think that many non-jw's married to jw's would have a hard time surviving what I call the "wts terror assault". (Just my opinion, though.)
I met my husband before he allowed some (god forsaken) jw's to convert him. That's when my "unevenly yolk" talk started. But I already had strong feelings for him then. I was also Catholic, like you...and a "liberal Catholic" at that. That was my downfall. And I allowed my heart to rule my spirit, so to speak. I allowed him to persuade me to study with jw's and get baptized in jw religion. Today, I am still married to the same man, but I am not an active jw anymore. We are mostly happy and content, enjoying life with our beautiful daughter--except when we're fighting about religion. And I can tell you FOR A FACT, despite my husband's good and loving heart---our life has had many trials and tribulations due to the WTS being the unwanted (by me) "third cord" in our marriage. They all take that "doctrine" to heart. My husband has not had any qualms letting WTS doctrines intrude into every little facet of our family life (or at least he tries everytime)...from what type of job to get, whether to have kids or not and when, how to raise kids, who to be friends with, when and what we can celebrate, when to take vacations, what movies to watch, what music to listen to, bedroom practices, etc. My husband loosened up a little as time went by, especially when I started rebelling (he-he!), but it's been really tough! Marriage is supposed to be a happy state, but it requires a lot of hard work under normal conditions. With WTS leadership trying to insert itself between husband and wife like the proverbial monster (err...mother)-in-law all the time, a successful marriage between a loyalist and a confirmed anti-WTS is almost impossible! Without this religion (all other things constant), I am confident that my family will be a lot more at peace and happy, and my husband and I will have a more peaceful and closer relationship. As it is, I love my husband very much and he says he feels the same...but the WTS and its policies have been ROYAL PAIN in our marriage.
Please remember my story and try to see if there's anything in it that might help you deal with you situation better. If there's anything else I can help you with, don't hesitate to PM me... (I can offer that, thanks to bikerchic...he-he! Private joke!). Good luck to you!
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