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  hello from mavie.

  currently happily married for a number of years to a great jw wife, i currently serve as an ms in our local kh.

  my wife and i have been told we are pillars in the congregation.

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  Thanks for all the response.

  Some have suggested that the responsibility my wife takes on is the root cause of her panic attacks. While this is possible, I know from talking with her it would only be a contributing factor. I don't want to invade her privacy by going into detail, maybe she will tell you guys someday.

  We have tried to be very proactive with this, changing our diet, exercise routine, getting a cute puppy for long walks, visiting different psychiatrists, different health doctors, different medication, and still more things.

  I am currently in my 2nd year attending college, my wife is considering going back as well. She is about 5 classes away from an AA, having taken many college courses during her junior and senior years in high school. Some on this board have encountered trouble from different ones in the congregation when deciding to attend school, to date I have not. Maybe this is because I don't let school interfere with my meeting and field service attendance. I don't plan on letting it either. I feel both are important.
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  hello from mavie.

  currently happily married for a number of years to a great jw wife, i currently serve as an ms in our local kh.

  my wife and i have been told we are pillars in the congregation.

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  dan-p, I read your first post. Our experiences sound very similiar.

  I'm curious if your wife now knows? How did she react?
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  hello from mavie.

  currently happily married for a number of years to a great jw wife, i currently serve as an ms in our local kh.

  my wife and i have been told we are pillars in the congregation.

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  Lady Liberty,

  I *know* she still believes 100%. She is just hurt by what imperfect elders have done.

  However, she is a very independant woman, as evidenced by her willingness to get a tattoo. Even after I mentioned she could be disfellowshipped if it was ever seen!

  I'm just going to let things play out and see where the chips fall.

  It is very confusing right now. All I know is I need to be there for her.
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  hello from mavie.

  currently happily married for a number of years to a great jw wife, i currently serve as an ms in our local kh.

  my wife and i have been told we are pillars in the congregation.

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  double post...edited
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  hello from mavie.

  currently happily married for a number of years to a great jw wife, i currently serve as an ms in our local kh.

  my wife and i have been told we are pillars in the congregation.

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  fl, I have never been afraid to question things. Maybe afraid of the consequences of questioning, but not the question itself. I also know that I do not want to do this myself if possible. I've been trying to gauge her reaction to a study of this religion as gently as I can.

  We requested a meeting with the elders to discuss her recent depression and my resulting low meeting attendance. This has really hurt her a lot, the upcoming meeting will be interesting.
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  hello from mavie.

  currently happily married for a number of years to a great jw wife, i currently serve as an ms in our local kh.

  my wife and i have been told we are pillars in the congregation.

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  freedomlover, I don't know what she thinks. It is a delicate game, isn't it?

  What I do know is that she recently got her belly button pierced after we were walking together in a mall and she mentioned how she always wanted one. Now that she is no longer an example as a pioneer, she went for it.

  Then last night, I mentioned how that tattoo she has always wanted would look great. No, I'm not telling you where! At first, she didn't know what to make of what I just said. Then she began to warm up to the idea and now wants to get one!

  I also know that it will take years if she ever decides to leave the religion we both grew up in. I don't know if I want to either.
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  hello from mavie.

  currently happily married for a number of years to a great jw wife, i currently serve as an ms in our local kh.

  my wife and i have been told we are pillars in the congregation.

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  You know gary, after my wife stopped pioneering recently, she said she started to feel better. She also mentioned her depression intensified when she began pioneering.
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  hello from mavie.

  currently happily married for a number of years to a great jw wife, i currently serve as an ms in our local kh.

  my wife and i have been told we are pillars in the congregation.

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  kid-A, I should qualify what I mean.

  Without getting into the details, many of the claims made against the WTBTS do have logical explanations. Please don't ask me to post it tonight, I'm tired and I have college work to complete.

  I do apologize for the ad hominem attack in a rant about the same thing. Could have phrased it better. What I was trying to get across is that attacking a person or an organization in order to 'prove' something doesn't work.

  Finally, I don't believe I have 'blinders' on. I'm just not quick to jump to conclusions based on one month of searching. Surely you understand that.
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  hello from mavie.

  currently happily married for a number of years to a great jw wife, i currently serve as an ms in our local kh.

  my wife and i have been told we are pillars in the congregation.

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  Hello from mavie.

  Currently happily married for a number of years to a great JW wife, I currently serve as an MS in our local KH. My wife and I have been told we are pillars in the congregation. So why am I posting here? I don't want to give away too many details for fear of reprisal, so this will have to suffice.

  My wife has a mental illness which will be with her the rest of her life, clinical depression. She is getting as much help as possible for this, in the form or pills, doctors, friends and family. Occasionally, her fits of depression will become so great I need to stay home from the meetings and field service to be with her. One recent month, I missed the majority of meetings and field service to be home with her in order to prevent her from having anxiety attacks and possibly harming herself.

  To make a long story short, my wife and I have felt ostracized in the congregation. I have a number of responsibilities within the congregation I enjoy fulfilling, yet wasn't able to the month my wife was feeling bad. Instead of support, I get elders telling me to never do that again, elders telling me to leave my ill wife home to come to meeting.

  Anyways, after this began happening I began to wonder about a number of things, ultimately leading me to this site. I don't put faith in 99.9% of the 'truth about the truuf' posted here. Most of it is infantile garbage. Most of the ad hominem attacks on this board are childish and plain stupid.

  So why am I posting here?
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  Carl Sagan... Had the wt misquoted him?

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  i know that the wt quotes carl sagan a lot.

  but the other day i was checking the wt cd and was surprised of all the quotes they have from him.. so i was wondering if they had quoted him correctly or out of context?.

  i'm sure you guys had discussed this subjet before but right now i don't have time to do research.. thanks;.

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  stevenyc,

  I'm curious where Sagan wrote this information about a Great Desinger. What book and page? I don't have "Life - How Did It Get Here?" to refer to. Maybe I will do that when I get home.