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  Comments Please

  by searcher in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  isaiah 10:1,2 (nwt) .

  woe to those who are enacting harmful regulations and those who, constantly writing, have written out sheer trouble, 2 in order to push away the lowly ones from a legal case and to wrest away justice from the afflicted ones of my people

  sounds prophetic to me!

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  Dia

  Doesn't it just blow your mind?

  There's something that MAKES you just want to TRY to wrap your mind around these guys, but - like a mother who has no affection for her own child, like a husband who beats and brutalizes his wife, their inhuman qualities just blow your mind.

  Like you just can't believe anyone can actually be this way....it's breathtaking in its banal horror.

  Shocking and baffling and miniscule and almost silly. But so, so EVIL.

  What is it about that JW spokesperson in the DF video that just sends chills up my spine?

  It's almost like a dead person talking.
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  LETTERS OF OUTRAGE TO GOVERNING BODY

  by orangefatcat in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  why don't we show our support and our outrage at the same time to the governing body for their actions towards bill bowan, barb, and all the silentlambs and see how many we can flood into the wtbs headquarters.

  what do you think??

  edited by - orangefatcat on 26 july 2002 9:48:39edited by - orangefatcat on 26 july 2002 9:49:37.

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  Dia

  I see we're still having trouble getting our addresses posted.

  I trust that they will be here shortly.

  Meanwhile, we need information regarding the legal definition of 'harboring criminals'. Your average JW might finally get concerned if he realizes he could be culpible for supporting them in this crime.
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  BILL BOWEN DISFELLOWSHIPPED!

  by Rado Vleugel in

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  2. friends

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  the associated press reports that bill bowen, former elder and anti- sexual abuse activist, has been disfellowshipped by the watchtower society for criticizing the handling of child sexual abuse cases.. read it on-line: http://www.watchtowerinformationservice.org/.

  rado vleugel

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  Dia

  THE NEXT JW THAT COMES TO MY DOOR...IS GOING TO GET AN EARFUL!!

  They are going to KNOW that the only people who are JWs are either child molestors or child molestor's mothers!

  They are going to know that being a JW means that you will definitely suffer 'guilt by association'.

  And that if you choose to stay in this organization, your are either stupid or you are a criminal!

  And you will suffer the consequences. Period.

  And if they quit coming to my door as a result? I will be spreading the news to everyone I know and I will stop THEM on the street to tell them EXACTLY what I think of them!

  Your record is up there for the world to see.
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  How much before a person snaps?

  by MrMoe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just wondering, cause i think i just may.

  so how much pressure can a person take before they go insane?

  what is the human mid capable of?

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  Yes, I'm sure it would all be better if there were someone to turn to to take the pressure off, even for a little while. And someone to nurture you when it seems like life is just a one-way street of you giving and giving and giving.

  Look for it if you can. I for one, have never been able to find very much of it.

  But I'm here to tell you that you can survive without it if you have to. And that oodles and oodles of love will return to you in the future for the time you invest now.

  It takes time, but your child will love and be grateful to you for this time of giving your love.

  It's not a pipe dream. Hang in there and don't give up. Keep the media (TV) out of your life as much as you can. It just makes everything worse.

  Sometimes 'not giving up' means you almost can't do much more than to put one foot in front of the other.

  That's okay. It's NOT going to last forever. Trust me.

  Find small pleasure in the little things.

  A board game. Drawing. Blocks. Cooking. Coloring! (It can be a very healing activity for you, too). Singing. Dancing. Reading together. Going to the library. Taking a walk. Swimming. Bikriding. Playing with water balloons. LISTENING.

  You can't just wake up one day and fix this kind of a problem and then it will all be gone. It's the kind of a problem that will unfold throughout her life. That doesn't mean it will be RIGHT THERE every moment. It won't. So don't search for it every moment.

  Just let her know that you are available when it DOES surface.

  And then be available.

  There is also life outside of our troubles. Live it.

  And you will give your daughter the confidence to know that she can live it, too.
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  How much before a person snaps?

  by MrMoe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just wondering, cause i think i just may.

  so how much pressure can a person take before they go insane?

  what is the human mid capable of?

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  Dia

  I don't know your story - I wish I did.

  But being a parent is stressful FOR EVERYONE, even under the best of circumstances.

  Being a parent, when you grew up in a disfunctional, abusive home can SEEM almost impossible.

  Having been there (and I'm still there, tho the really worrisome parts are well behind me), I'm here to tell you, you CAN do it.

  One day at a time. Keeping a journal helps. You will amaze yourself at what you succeed at, even with all the anxiety, too.

  I found it very useful to keep a daily journal (really, a diary). And to keep 2 small 'lists', as well.

  One list, 'things that make me feel BAD' and two, 'Things that make me feel GREAT'.

  I would add to these lists everytime I encountered one or the other. And pull them out to read when I needed them (I still do, 10 years later!)

  When I could see how my mood and behavior were affected by these things, I was able to start making decisions about adding more 'great' stuff to my life and staying away from the things that brought me down, when possible. Sometimes just recognizing when I was encountering one of those 'down' things helped me to endure it. They don't, afterall, last forever.

  Keep all your journals, diaries and lists.

  One day you will be looking back on this time. There will be things to smile about and things to cry about.

  No one expects you to be perfect. One day at a time. Just do the best you can and try to keep love in your line of vision. It is all the Lord asks.

  Do something nice for yourself when you can. A bubble bath. Something fun to read. A quiet walk. Fresh air. Something that smells good. Pretty underwear that you can't afford.

  You're important, too. God thinks so. It's not selfish to give yourself something to remind you of that.

  Children's needs are actually pretty small. Ignore the media press for THINGS. Kids need patience, attention, kindness.

  I LOVE this list on how to raise a psychologically healthy child:

  In the very simplest of terms, a really good parent needs only these 4 things. To be:

  Warm

  Nurturing

  Authoritative

  Confident

  (I would add 'empathic' but maybe that's just another way to say warm and nurturing)

  If you grew up in an abusive home these concepts can seem infathomable.

  Take confidence! Lucky for us, kids take a long time to grow up and we can grow in our parenting skills as we go.

  If life is a tray of cookies, kids are the chocolate chips. Enjoy them! Even in the hard times.

  I don't know your story. But I'm in your corner.

  I will keep you in my prayers.
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  LETTERS OF OUTRAGE TO GOVERNING BODY

  by orangefatcat in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  why don't we show our support and our outrage at the same time to the governing body for their actions towards bill bowan, barb, and all the silentlambs and see how many we can flood into the wtbs headquarters.

  what do you think??

  edited by - orangefatcat on 26 july 2002 9:48:39edited by - orangefatcat on 26 july 2002 9:49:37.

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  Dia

  Don't forget to send a 'cc' (carbon copy) or a 'bcc' (blind carbon copy - you send it but you don't tell the WTS you're sending it) to Dateline and BBC. Also to any newspapers or press outlets you would like to reach. When the WTS ignores our letters, it will be very nice to know that the whole world is WATCHING them ignore us.

  Please provide addresses. We're READY!!!!
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  BILL BOWEN - MAY THE LORD BLESS YOU!

  by Dia in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  like job, who lost all those whom he thought were his closest friends....may the lord fill your cup to overflowing with loyal and righteous friendships.. may the lord comfort you.

  you must be even more shocked than all of us.. come to the banquet of the lord.

  we are happy to have you!

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  Like Job, who lost all those whom he thought were his closest friends....may the Lord fill your cup to OVERFLOWING with loyal and righteous friendships.

  May the Lord comfort you. You must be even more shocked than all of us.

  Come to the banquet of the Lord. We are happy to have you!
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  BILL BOWEN - WE STAND BY YOU!

  by Dia in

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  2. friends

  we stand with you!

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  Dia

  We stand with you!
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  OFFICIAL: Bill Bowen Was DF'ed

  by ErieGuy in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  edited by - erieguy on 26 july 2002 8:1:4.

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  Dia

  Bill,

  Now you know the truth of what it means to 'suffer for the sake of righteousness'.

  Our hearts go out to you and we stand firmly at your side.

  I think I am going to take pro-active action to disfellowship my JW family members. For 'conduct unbecoming a Christian' - cowardice, punishing the innocent and supporting those who do. Surely and absolutely for 'bad association'.

  I will ignore them if they speak to me and I will treat them as if they are dead unless and until they come to their senses.

  I believe the Bible is correct that bad association is bad for you and bad for your spirituality.

  I'm sorry if they can't see the forest for the trees. Like a lifeguard rescuing a drowning person, there is a point where I have to say, I'm not going to let you pull me under, too.

  I am completely available to support someone else who is willing to take the lead in trying to 'rescue' - or perhaps at this point I should say, to PUNISH - these idiots for their own evil-doing.

  But, as for me and my household, we shall serve the Lord.

  Edited by - Dia on 26 July 2002 9:22:22
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  Witnesses Just Want To Have Fun!

  by Englishman in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  there are hundreds and hundreds of permitted extra-curricular activities for jw's to enjoy.

  activities that have nothing to do with religion or worship where jw's can really have a ball!.

  so, for all of you people who sometimes wonder if you should perhaps go back, lets all list the permitted fun things that any witness can do in his / her spare time.. i'll get the ball rolling:.

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  Dia

  Playing the accordian. Locking the door and forcing people to listen to you playing the accordian.