I remember being at a convention around 1991 or 1992, (last year at Yankee Stadium), and some older sister,(50s-60s) walked up to me and told me I looked like a Bethelite. Yes, it was quite insulting to a 19 year old.
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What does a JW look like?
by JH ini remember many years ago, a sister in her 40's who just joined, told me that i looked like a jw.
she said i have the face of a jw.... .
i've never been so insulted in my life.....
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Interesting "getting out" story
by restrangled ini have been gone a few weeks on vacation.
visited with many family members, most out, but one long time hold out due to circumstances beyond her control.
the visit was marred by my mothers constant phone calls to an uncle stating he should not be talking to me, and he was guilty of sending me mixed messages.
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***"It would be better if you commit suicide"???!!!*** Damn, I would not wan't to have been him, if...
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Interesting "getting out" story
by restrangled ini have been gone a few weeks on vacation.
visited with many family members, most out, but one long time hold out due to circumstances beyond her control.
the visit was marred by my mothers constant phone calls to an uncle stating he should not be talking to me, and he was guilty of sending me mixed messages.
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I just met up with an ex-jw friend of mine at a bar in Philly yesterday, and we were both just discussing how failed marriges usually make people wake up and begin to see what's wrong with the WTS. Nice story.
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Coffee time with the dubs - Where did you go?
by truthseeker into name a few that are popular with my old congregation.... .
dunkin' donuts.
quik chek.
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DnD.
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Questions -
by Agent Socrates inthe socratic method is a teaching tool.
the practice involves asking a series of questions surrounding a central issue, and answering questions of the others involved.
generally this involves the defense of one point of view against another and is oppositional.
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Because it's their game and their rules.
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A bit reluctant
by saki2fifty ini'm a bit reluctant in writing this post, for i dont feel i should be here.
even a bit nervous... .
i've never officially dedicated myself to jehovah, but i was brought up in the truth, very strong, and at times when getting older, there were lulls in my attendance... yet to this day i still attend.
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***Do you go out and find another so called true religion?***
Saki, this is one of the hardest things, (if not THE hardest thing), for someone who is brought up a jw to come to grips with, (including me). It is very difficult to learn to think out of that box. Patience IS required. You have to allow yourself to do research, first. Once you begin to do that, the answer to the above will become self-evident. In short, and I know you cannot fully accept this now, there IS no true religion. Religions are man made, all of them. Always have, always will be. At best, they attempt to provide for some common understanding of ancient holy books, (and yes, I know that is not all). But even though I don't claim to be a "believer" anymore, I know that spirituality comes from within, from doing what you believe to be right, whether that be doing what "God" wants, or otherwise. You cannot do THAT, if all of your decisions in life are based on organizational requirements.
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As An Ex or Fading Witness, Do You Have Any Goals?
by minimus indo you hope to accomplish anything at this point in your life?
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I was fortunate enough to go to college in the early '90s, so at least I have the degree and career thing right.
-Anything else that includes improving life of myself and others, (including exposing the nonsense of the WTBTS), is a goal.
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I'd like to introduce myself
by Alpheta ini'm "alpheta".
i've been reading here for the past few weeks, but have visited from time to time over several years.. short history, i started studying in 1993, was baptised in 1996, and succinctly and with much planning disassociated myself in october, 2003.. i don't believe i have any lasting psychological damage or issues, but i was curious about the state of the wtbts (or whatever they go by these days), and i found your site and a lot of information that, i have to say, i found shocking at first like - oh my goddess, they really did that?
- kind of thing.. anyway, nice to have read your posts and i really enjoy the sense of community here.
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Welcome, Alpheta!
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A bit reluctant
by saki2fifty ini'm a bit reluctant in writing this post, for i dont feel i should be here.
even a bit nervous... .
i've never officially dedicated myself to jehovah, but i was brought up in the truth, very strong, and at times when getting older, there were lulls in my attendance... yet to this day i still attend.
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Wecome, Saki2Fifty,
In all honesty, if you spend some time here you will see a lot more honesty than negativity. Even though I had serious concerns about the organization for many years, I could never bring myself to consider what would be considered "apostate" material. A year ago, I can assure you, I would not have been here. What brought me here was circumstances in my life finally forced me to take a cold hard look at things. I had no choice, the choice was made for me, if I was going to be honest with myself. A painful preocess that yields rewards if you are patient.
Please, before you assume that everyone here is just ranting about the organization, take some time to do some research. I recently had my eyes opened, and am a much better, (and happier), person for it. No, it was not easy, and yes, I can point to many things about the organization that I miss. So could people from MANY religious backgrounds, as regard thier church. But continuing to base my entire life on falsehood had to stop. I ended up making some very bad life decisions because of that structure, and eventually I began to recognize the source. Even more so, it's just plain dishonest, and I could not live with that.
Take Care,
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Why do Jehovah's Witnesses churches have no windows?
by Kenneson insomeone asked columnist phillip milano of the jacksonville, florida times union this very question.
you will find remarks of several individuals and the reasons they offer, ranging from deterrence to vandalism, to saving on air conditioning bills, etc.
even j.r. brown gives his two-cents worth and replies to critic paul blizzard.. http://www.jacksonville.com/tu-online/stories/080106/enm_4104779.shtml
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The last one I belonged to had windows, (Millville,NJ). The original building was built in the 1950s. The hall I grew up in, (also originally built in the 1950s), did NOT have windows. Most recent trends in building lean towards "simplicity" so probably for some or all of the reasons mentioned above they would consider a windowless design.
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