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  Asking Her Out - Follow Up - Advice?

  by Garrett in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  soooo..... going to ask that wonderful lady for her phone number tonight as per everyone's advice... first time i will ever be doing that with a non jw girl...erm...woman.

  my dear female friends, what are some genuine questions i can pose to get a conversation rolling and what are some other questions/things i can ask/say to restart a stalled conversation?

  i'm very very shy when talking to new people... especially someone i'm interested in, and have some social anxiety.

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  Not a female, but done this a few times...

  Compliment, but don't overdo...

  Show an interest, but don't overdo...

  Be confident, not arrogant...

  Works almost 100% of the time, unless she already has a bf.
  

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  Recent Ads on this site - Simon this needs some fixing

  by done4good in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am noticing that when some of the ads run, the page keeps scrolling upward towards them.

  this is annoying and should be addressed, as it makes some threads almost impossible to read.

  have same effect on two different oss, (same browser type, firefox).

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  John Aquila - That application seems to be working well on the few pages I just tried to load that were giving me an issue before. Thanks for that.

  I am a minimalist by nature when it comes to installing any application, so I only install what is necessary.

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  Recent Ads on this site - Simon this needs some fixing

  by done4good in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am noticing that when some of the ads run, the page keeps scrolling upward towards them.

  this is annoying and should be addressed, as it makes some threads almost impossible to read.

  have same effect on two different oss, (same browser type, firefox).

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  I am noticing that when some of the ads run, the page keeps scrolling upward towards them. This is annoying and should be addressed, as it makes some threads almost impossible to read. Have same effect on two different OSs, (same browser type, Firefox). Not sure if other browsers are having the same issue.
  
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  Latest rumor - all WT construction "suspended", except for Warwick

  by sir82 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  heard 4th-hand, but from a full-on believer, so not likely to be an "apostate lie":.

  apparently, at bethel's morning worship this morning, it was announced that all worldwide wts construction is "suspended" for an indefinite time, except for the new world headquarters at warwick.. also, the "relocation" of remote translating teams is also suspended.. finally, there will be a "worldwide" reduction in bethel personnel.. all this came to me in a non-english language, and,as noted, 4th-hand.

  so it is possible something may have been lost in translation and/or in the multiple steps between bethel morning worship & me.. but if true, it would be quite stunning.

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  As I have been saying since they they dropped the book study, always follow the money...

  WT only cares about two things, control of its members, and money. The only reason to downsize, stop construction, reduce meetings, etc. is for economic interests, since none of these things help with control of its membership at all, and in fact serve to do the exact opposite.

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  The bridge burning has begun.

  by sparrowdown in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was feeling particularly hopeless about the whole jws being assholes thing and sick to death of pretending so ....

  i rang my sister and told her that i no longer believe jws have the truth and the phone went silent, when i asked her to say something she just said if that was the case then she would have to hang up on me and then proceeded to indeed hang up..

  so i texted her back immediately with fu..

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  Btw...I have been working all night on an issue and not slept in 25+ hours, (and won't be headed home for the foreseeable next several hours)...however this news made my night. Congrats again!

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  The bridge burning has begun.

  by sparrowdown in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was feeling particularly hopeless about the whole jws being assholes thing and sick to death of pretending so ....

  i rang my sister and told her that i no longer believe jws have the truth and the phone went silent, when i asked her to say something she just said if that was the case then she would have to hang up on me and then proceeded to indeed hang up..

  so i texted her back immediately with fu..

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  You should drink to this....If I was not at work fixing a broken network I would have one for you!

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  The bridge burning has begun.

  by sparrowdown in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i was feeling particularly hopeless about the whole jws being assholes thing and sick to death of pretending so ....

  i rang my sister and told her that i no longer believe jws have the truth and the phone went silent, when i asked her to say something she just said if that was the case then she would have to hang up on me and then proceeded to indeed hang up..

  so i texted her back immediately with fu..

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  Good for you, Sparrow!

  The shunning hurts like a bitch, but you will be stronger for it. We are here for you!
  
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  I'm not so sure a bigger awakening is going to happen anymore

  by bradford in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i left in march officially i started reading the forums here.

  i had this excitement that more people would be leaving soon because of the crazy broadcasts, the crazy "new light" that the gb was dishing out, and more recently the australian royal commission lighting up geoffrey.

  this past saturday i had an elder stop by to chat for the first time since i left.

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  One thing JWs also do now is hedge their bets. The hedge by staying in. Otherwise, most intelligent JWs do get an education, do start careers, families, etc. They live their lives as normally, (and apathetically), as possible. They don't really believe, however they think they do. Unfortunately, this is almost just as bad for us, since if we actually make an honest stand, (and say we no longer believe), they will not respect that and treat us as their equal. I find this incredibly frustrating, even after 10 years out.
  
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  I'm not so sure a bigger awakening is going to happen anymore

  by bradford in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when i left in march officially i started reading the forums here.

  i had this excitement that more people would be leaving soon because of the crazy broadcasts, the crazy "new light" that the gb was dishing out, and more recently the australian royal commission lighting up geoffrey.

  this past saturday i had an elder stop by to chat for the first time since i left.

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  Mass exodus? No. Social evolution? Yes.

  As society changes, it becomes very difficult for a 19th century religion and social construct to remain relevant. Slowly, apathy builds among the members. Likely they make no real change, (other than just attempting to live as normally as possible), until if and when something happens to either them personally or someone the care enough about personally.

  Keep in mind human beings have strong social needs that are met by their association with the organization. Unless those needs can be met elsewhere, (really meaning that they are no longer being met by the organization), they will likely not leave, regardless of intelligence or approach to logical thought. This is why it usually takes a personal event to wake someone up, even after years of apathy.

  The apathetic are increasing in number however, and have been for many years, especially since the mid-1990s. These folks are a ticking time bomb, (individually, not collectively), and will leave as soon as it becomes socially feasible to do so.

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  Participate In The EX-JW Personality Test!

  by C0ntr013r in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  first of all; i must admit that i'm not a huge fan of putting people in boxes like this, it is not an exact science.

  but i still think the data can be quite interesting and i intend to collect it and share it in a structured way with you guys.

  so without future ado here are the details.. link to test: .

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  OneEyedJoe - INTJs are also the least likely to believe in god, which makes it hard to stay in a religious cult. In my case questioning the existence of god was easier than questioning the watchtower. Though I think the prevalence of INTJ on forums is more about the style of communication that we prefer - the wrongs of the cult are both numerous and varied enough to offend any personality.

  INTJ here. What I still have a hard time with is how on earth with this personality type I managed to stay in as long as I did. Agreed, giving up belief in god was much easier once I was already out.

  INTJs are over-represented on discussion forums in general, however they seem especially over-represented on ex-JW forums. That is not a mere statistical anomaly. I also read somewhere that INTJs are generally more prone to accept cognitive dissonance with less negative effects at first than most, that is until they have enough information such that intuitively they know better, and walk away from the source of the false information. Since this is generally a matter of self-honesty, someone such as an INTJ or similar NT type personality would have a very difficult time staying in and playing along once they know better. INTJs would be the most likely of any JW to leave eventually, as well as want to express and articulate those thoughts in written form, as INTJs generally like to do.
  

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