I want to thank everyone for their kind words . The help has been great here I will try to use some of the things you have brought to me . Thank you all
livingalie
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Judical Committee/ Plea for Reinstatement help
by livingalie inhello to all it has been awhile since my last post but i have been lurking .i just wanted to be careful since i have been trying to be reinstated.
to give you a little background in short after i left bethel (1993-1999) in 1999 i got married to a local sister from new york city ( brooklyn).i worked at different jobs but the last job i had was with the city of ny after 9/11 i lost the job .i told my wife about a job down south ,i told her that i would go down try the job out and if it looks like a good fit and it would work out she should move down in a few months .the job was going great things were looking up i told her to moved down but she hated the town said it was to small nothing to do but the great thing about it was that her job was in the town also all she would have to do was just transfer no job hunting at all .
my wife would not move this went on for the next 2 years she said she was coming down then she said she need to finish up something at work .
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Judical Committee/ Plea for Reinstatement help
by livingalie inhello to all it has been awhile since my last post but i have been lurking .i just wanted to be careful since i have been trying to be reinstated.
to give you a little background in short after i left bethel (1993-1999) in 1999 i got married to a local sister from new york city ( brooklyn).i worked at different jobs but the last job i had was with the city of ny after 9/11 i lost the job .i told my wife about a job down south ,i told her that i would go down try the job out and if it looks like a good fit and it would work out she should move down in a few months .the job was going great things were looking up i told her to moved down but she hated the town said it was to small nothing to do but the great thing about it was that her job was in the town also all she would have to do was just transfer no job hunting at all .
my wife would not move this went on for the next 2 years she said she was coming down then she said she need to finish up something at work .
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Just to give more info my wife is a JW she is still in NYC in good standing .
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Judical Committee/ Plea for Reinstatement help
by livingalie inhello to all it has been awhile since my last post but i have been lurking .i just wanted to be careful since i have been trying to be reinstated.
to give you a little background in short after i left bethel (1993-1999) in 1999 i got married to a local sister from new york city ( brooklyn).i worked at different jobs but the last job i had was with the city of ny after 9/11 i lost the job .i told my wife about a job down south ,i told her that i would go down try the job out and if it looks like a good fit and it would work out she should move down in a few months .the job was going great things were looking up i told her to moved down but she hated the town said it was to small nothing to do but the great thing about it was that her job was in the town also all she would have to do was just transfer no job hunting at all .
my wife would not move this went on for the next 2 years she said she was coming down then she said she need to finish up something at work .
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livingalie
Sorry for the no Pargs. I want to get back in so that I can talk to my family Mom ,Dad ,Brother and the like . They have been real nice but at a distance they did not let me come home while all were in town said it would not be proper .I feel that Ijust want to get back and just lay low fade in other words .I just need something postive to happen if that make any sense at all .I did not sleep much last night so I maybe just rambling sorry .
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Judical Committee/ Plea for Reinstatement help
by livingalie inhello to all it has been awhile since my last post but i have been lurking .i just wanted to be careful since i have been trying to be reinstated.
to give you a little background in short after i left bethel (1993-1999) in 1999 i got married to a local sister from new york city ( brooklyn).i worked at different jobs but the last job i had was with the city of ny after 9/11 i lost the job .i told my wife about a job down south ,i told her that i would go down try the job out and if it looks like a good fit and it would work out she should move down in a few months .the job was going great things were looking up i told her to moved down but she hated the town said it was to small nothing to do but the great thing about it was that her job was in the town also all she would have to do was just transfer no job hunting at all .
my wife would not move this went on for the next 2 years she said she was coming down then she said she need to finish up something at work .
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Hello to all It has been awhile since my last post but I have been lurking .I just wanted to be careful since I have been trying to be reinstated. To give you a little background in short after I left Bethel (1993-1999) in 1999 I got married to a local Sister from New York City ( Brooklyn).I worked at Different jobs But the last job I had was with the city of NY after 9/11 I lost the job .I told my wife about a Job down south ,I told her that I would go down try the job out and if it looks like a good fit and it would work out she should move down in a few months .The job was going great things were looking up I told her to moved down but she hated the Town said it was to small nothing to do but the great thing about it was that her job was in the town also all she would have to do was just transfer no job hunting at all . My wife would not move this went on for the next 2 years she said she was coming down then she said she need to finish up something at work . Then it was I need to get my yearly bonus then my sister ( her Sister) is having a bady and I need to be in Ny for that just a lot of reason to not come down .Well needless to say I got involed in some exrta marital affairs with women in the area .I make no exuse for this but I was lonely and my wife was give me PURE hell really even before the move the marraige was going to pot .I led a double life for about a year all the while i'm a MS giving talks in the new hall which did not sit well with me . Well my wife starts to sense things are not right on a visit she finds out about my affairs with other women .I tell her the truth about it and she flips out on me throwing things and the like .We talked about that we would go to the Elders after she moves down so that if I get DF'ed that at least I would have some type of support she agreed.She goes back to Ny to get her things but then she said she needs to help her sister with the new twins .On another visit down she flips out on me and runs to a Elders in the Hall that she has meet maybe 3 time on breif visits and tells him everything that I have been doing Long story short They meet with me I get DF'ed she goes back to NYC and she has not been down since .I file for Divorce she is angry how dare you file after all you have done .The divorce is still pending and I do not want this marraige anymore as it has been a year when the last time I have seen her . I meet with the Brothers last night after I have turn in my letter back in Oct. I was DF'ed in Jan 2006 so it is right at a year . The brothers in the meeting say that they have seen me at all the meetings But what have I done in this time to make my marriage right with my wife .I said I have tryed in the past but to know avail ,They say that does not count as that doing that time I was a sinner due to my affairs .They say what have you done durning the Disipline period I said that the talks have been hard and strained with her and that it looks like divorce is were things are headed .They say to me that I have not show them any proofs of works the befit repentence since I have not made one trip to Ny or sent flowers to her or wrote her a love letter . They say that instead of wrinting them to be reinsted I should write my wife a love letter .The brothers were coming at me very hard and I was very shocked but I took it and I kept my cool though it was hard . I know many may be thinking why go threw this but I have family that I want to have a relationship with and I have to get back due to that fact that my whole family is in the "Truth".I would like to get your thoughts on what I should do ? When should I write another Letter or should I contact the CO his visit will be Jan 15 -22 2007 ?Should I ask the brothers that if I do not go back to my wife I can not be Reinstated ? Should I wait untill the Divorce is complete then write them back? The divorce is taking awhile due to it being in NYC the courts are so backed up .I do not know how much longer I can hold out it has been almost a year I'm starting to lose my grip on things work has became effected I have no drive for life .Do you know how hard it is to walk in that hall it is tough .I have given alot to the Org. I just fell that some of that should be taking into account .On a crazy note one of the brothers on my Judical case I worked with at Bethel six degree of separation huh . So Sorry for the long post just needed to vent and get your point of veiw .
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Out of Bethel and still recovering
by livingalie inhello to all im new to the site i have been looking for about two weeks now .i was at brooklyn bethel from 1994 -1999 and i worked in the barber shop office blgd.
(25 columbia heights ) .i just wanted to say hi and that many of your post have really been helpful to me as i have gone though some tough times on all levels .
thanks for letting me just state that .
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Hello to all im new to the site I have been looking for about two weeks now .I was at Brooklyn Bethel from 1994 -1999 and I worked in the Barber shop office blgd. (25 columbia heights ) .I just wanted to say hi and that many of your post have really been helpful to me as I have gone though some tough times on all levels . Thanks for letting me just state that .