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  Washington Post in US: Jehovah's Witnesses Face Child Sex Abuse Investigation in Australia

  by cultBgone in

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  it's finally hit mainstream media in the us!

  let's hope some savvy investigative journalists see a pulitzer for opening up this story to cover the us and worldwide cases.. jehovahs-witnesses-face-child-sex-abuse-investigation-in-australia/2015/08/14/.

  everyone who is able should hurry up and post comments on their website as the pro-jw forces have rallied and are trying to squash this as libel.

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  LisaRose

  There were other threads about this article when it first came out.
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  The only way to know God exists!

  by iconoclastic in

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  do everything as god would do if he were present here.

  this will attract his attention, and you will experience his invisible hands blessing everything you do, giving you results more than what you sowed.. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------.

  hence put to the test the above, and then you can make really authentic comments!.

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  LisaRose

  That's what the JWs said.
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  Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate

  by goingthruthemotions in

  1. jw
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  just on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.

  you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.

  up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.

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  LisaRose

  The blame shifting, excuse making, rationalizing and justifying some of you are providing as legitimate reasons for women to withhold sex is not part of the reason it is a problem. It's the reason.

  For the record, I feel that withholding sex deliberately because you are mad, or to get something you want is just plain wrong, and is a really good way to kill a marriage. It's just that it's hard to know if that is what she is doing, since I don't know her. I am inclined to think that she is deliberately withholding sex, since she wouldn't answer him as to why, telling him to go see a therapist sounds kind of cold. This is not how two mature adults handle things. It did occur to me that she has already checked out mentally and is doing this to force him to leave.

  But that is something he needs to figure out. If he loves this woman and wants to save the marriage, then there are things to try. Possibly he can get her to see that what she is doing is wrong. I think it's worth a try before he gives up and gets a divorce. If she refuses to try to fix things, then that is good to know, he can then make a decision based on that. Whatever happens it needs to get resolved.
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  Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate

  by goingthruthemotions in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.

  you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.

  up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.

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  LisaRose

  As a woman I obviously have a different point of view. Yes, obviously some women use sex as a weapon, but not all. What men sometimes perceive as women using sex as a weapon is actually just that they feel neglected, or have too much to do so are tired all the time and just don't have the energy. Some men take their wives for granted and then expect them to get turned on in thirty seconds of foreplay. Here news for you guys, a stiffy in the back is not foreplay!

  If you treat your wife well (i.e. if you both work you should share in the housework and child care) do the romantic, everyday things (holding hands and the all time secret weapon of men, the kiss on the back of the neck) and you have good communication generally then if she is still not willing, then yes, she is probably using sex as a weapon. A recent study showed that men who help out with the housework had better sex lives, so that's something to think about.

  I don't know your wife or your personalal situation, so obviously I don't know why she is being this way. She could be using this as a way to punish you for not doing what she wants, or she could be depressed about the whole thing and just not feeling it. Maybe it's a little of both. I think it's time for a heart to heart talk. This is huge, it needs to be resolved. If she is unwilling to talk about it, unwilling to see a counselor and unwilling to have sex, it is not a good sign. what she is doing is going directly against the advice of the bible. Maybe you could approach it that way and see if you can get her to at least talk.

  
  

  
  
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  Washington Post in US: Jehovah's Witnesses Face Child Sex Abuse Investigation in Australia

  by cultBgone in

  1. watchtower
  2. scandals

  it's finally hit mainstream media in the us!

  let's hope some savvy investigative journalists see a pulitzer for opening up this story to cover the us and worldwide cases.. jehovahs-witnesses-face-child-sex-abuse-investigation-in-australia/2015/08/14/.

  everyone who is able should hurry up and post comments on their website as the pro-jw forces have rallied and are trying to squash this as libel.

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  I love the Washington Post! I got a free subscription to the digital version (which is different than the website) for a while because I have a Kindle (Amazon and the Post are owned by the same company). It was so good I paid for it when the free subscription ran out. The articles are more in depth and well written than the typical news sources, especially when it comes to politics. It updates twice a day, so there is always something new to read. They also have more coverage of issues from around the world. They covered the RC hearings when most US news did not. They also have good science articles as well.
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  Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate

  by goingthruthemotions in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  just on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.

  you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.

  up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.

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  LisaRose

  It's hard to give advice without knowing what your wife is like or what your sex life was previously, but as an older woman I can tell you what works generally with most women. You could remind her that the bible says a wife is obligated to "render her due", and that applies even if you are not a believer, but you don't want her to have sex because she has to, that would not work for either of you. I was stuck in a marriage like that, by the end I couldn't stand to have him touch me.

  The big difference between men and women when it comes to desire is that women generally need to feel affection with someone before they will desire them sexually. If she isn't feeling romantic towards you, it will take work to get her feeling that way again. The thing men sometimes forget is that you need to be romantic all the time, not just when you want sex. Do you hold her hands? Do you give her compliments? Offer to help with the dishes once in a while, just because. Do you go out for dinner with just the two of you? My husband and I have "date night" every week. If money is an issue, date night could be Netflix and a bottle of wine. The point is that it is just the two of you and no cell phones or computers. You could also go for walks with her, that will give you time to talk and start feeling connected.

  At first you need to do these things with no attempt to have sex. Otherwise she will just feel manipulated. If you do these things and she responds with affection towards you, then you can move towards more intimacy. At first just kissing. If she responds to that, you go a little further. Let her set the pace, do not move to the next step until she is ready. Once you get to the point of intimacy, don't blow it! Patience is a virtue. Do not attempt sex unless she is aroused, foreplay is very important. If you do not know what turns her on, then ask. If you have been communicating well otherwise, then you both should be able to communicate about this. If she doesn't know what turns her on, then you have a problem. The best way for women to learn what turns them on is self stimulation, but of course JWs are usually afraid to do that. You can still figure it out if you are both willing, but it will take some work. In general, women rarely climax with only vaginal intercourse, they need other kinds of stimulation. If you want her to have a good time, then you will have to learn what works for her.

  If she doesn't respond to any of this, then your problems run deeper. Possibly she didn't ever enjoy sex and was just doing it to please you. If that is the case, you will have a much harder job. If you want to save the marriage you will need to see a marriage counselor. If she refuses, then you might have to consider divorce. In my experience many JW marriages were like this, for whatever reason. Sex is important and a marriage cannot be fulfilling without a healthy sex life, so it's worth investing the time to make it work.
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  How to evade questions from elders when you stop going out door to door

  by Olivia Wilde in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  due to circumstances right now i cannot leave permanently the watchtower, however i need honest advice of what to say when elders question me how come im not meeting the group out for door to door & going out in " field service"... what would be proper responses not to draw suspicions since i'm aware of ttatt.. .any serious advice please...

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  LisaRose

  It's true that elders only have the power you give them, but setting appropriate boundaries with them is not easy, you have been trained to obey them for a long time. Even though you know tatt, it's still hard to over come the feeling that you have to do what they ask, so be patient with yourself. This is just harder for some people than for others. Practice a few things to saying the mirror so that it comes naturally to you. Keep telling yourself that you have a right to your feelings and to your privacy. They may mean well but they are not your friend, you owe them nothing.
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  Lumbar Puncture

  by azor in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  i hate spinal treatment days.

  my son is in sedation right now getting chemo into his spine.

  the hospital and people here are amazing.

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  It must be very hard to see your son go through this, I am sure any parent would prefer going through this rather than seeing their child go through it. But it's good that he may make a full recovery, you have good reason to hope.
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  If she doesn't comply an orange jumpsuit is in her future

  by DJS in

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  2. current

  scotus: kentucky clerk must issue same-sex marriage licenses.

  by ariane de vogue, cnn supreme court reporter.

  updated 8:02 pm et, mon august 31, 2015. let's hope this is the final screech from the haters who wrap themselves in the bible - or their egoist political philosophy i doubt it will be, but let's hope..

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  In Pew Research polling in 2001, Americans opposed same-sex marriage by a 57% to 35% margin.

  Since then, support for same-sex marriage has steadily grown. Based on polling in 2015, a majority of Americans (55%) support same-sex marriage, compared with 39% who oppose it.

  http://www.pewforum.org/2015/07/29/graphics-slideshow-changing-attitudes-on-gay-marriage/
  
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  If she doesn't comply an orange jumpsuit is in her future

  by DJS in

  1. social
  2. current

  scotus: kentucky clerk must issue same-sex marriage licenses.

  by ariane de vogue, cnn supreme court reporter.

  updated 8:02 pm et, mon august 31, 2015. let's hope this is the final screech from the haters who wrap themselves in the bible - or their egoist political philosophy i doubt it will be, but let's hope..

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  LisaRose

  llboard rhetoric does not persuade or discourage those that oppose ss marriages, it only adds fuel to the fire. SS is not endorsed by religions, but ss is endorsed by the USA, so ss do not have to plead their cause.

  Same sex marriage is not endorsed by some religions. There are many religions that accept gay people. I attended a United Church of Christ service that had a gay pastor. This is the church my in laws attend, they are in their eighties and have no problem with it. They are a liberal church, but it isn't that uncommon these days even in more mainstream religions. Even the Catholic church seems to be softening, although I don't know if they will ever fully accept gays.