And LisaRose, women often use sex as a weapon whether the man loves intimacy or does nearly everything right in a relationship. Those are red herring arguments.
I agree that women use sex as a weapon, I agree that it's wrong. I am not trying to excuse the behavior, just point out some things that men can due to improve their sex lives. Of course if a woman is only interested in what material things she can get out of a man and has no interest in sex, none of that will work. But I don't think it's that extreme in most relationships, and I think there are a lot of marriages where the sex could be better and where the woman would be a lot more interested in sex if the sex was better for her. It won't work in every case, it depends on how willing both are to make changes. Many men don't want to divorce but are not happy with their sex lives, what do they have to lose by trying to improve things?
But you two keep blame shifting this to men.
Nope, it takes two to tango, as they say. But again, if you are a man and want better sex, there are things you can do, or at least try . The OP was written by a man, if his wife had written it, I would have advice for her. There are things a woman can do to make sex better for her and for her partner.
The generations coming after you don't look like you, and that is excellent.
Yeah, I'm old fashioned, I want to love the man I have sex with, but I agree it's a good thing that women today are more liberated and confident sexually now. But people still get married and I still think there are differences in the way women and men think about sex and relationships, and that a smart man knows what works for his partner (and vice versa).
connection, not marriage, but Being a kind, considerate, respectful and affectionate should be a part of every healthy relationship.
I totally agree
But sex is sex.
And thank God for that.😉