Posts by LisaRose

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Washington Post in US: Jehovah's Witnesses Face Child Sex Abuse Investigation in Australia

by cultBgone in

it's finally hit mainstream media in the us!

let's hope some savvy investigative journalists see a pulitzer for opening up this story to cover the us and worldwide cases.. jehovahs-witnesses-face-child-sex-abuse-investigation-in-australia/2015/08/14/.

everyone who is able should hurry up and post comments on their website as the pro-jw forces have rallied and are trying to squash this as libel.

LisaRose

I love the Washington Post! I got a free subscription to the digital version (which is different than the website) for a while because I have a Kindle (Amazon and the Post are owned by the same company). It was so good I paid for it when the free subscription ran out. The articles are more in depth and well written than the typical news sources, especially when it comes to politics. It updates twice a day, so there is always something new to read. They also have more coverage of issues from around the world. They covered the RC hearings when most US news did not. They also have good science articles as well.

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Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate

by goingthruthemotions in

just on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.

you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.

up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.

LisaRose

It's hard to give advice without knowing what your wife is like or what your sex life was previously, but as an older woman I can tell you what works generally with most women. You could remind her that the bible says a wife is obligated to "render her due", and that applies even if you are not a believer, but you don't want her to have sex because she has to, that would not work for either of you. I was stuck in a marriage like that, by the end I couldn't stand to have him touch me.

The big difference between men and women when it comes to desire is that women generally need to feel affection with someone before they will desire them sexually. If she isn't feeling romantic towards you, it will take work to get her feeling that way again. The thing men sometimes forget is that you need to be romantic all the time, not just when you want sex. Do you hold her hands? Do you give her compliments? Offer to help with the dishes once in a while, just because. Do you go out for dinner with just the two of you? My husband and I have "date night" every week. If money is an issue, date night could be Netflix and a bottle of wine. The point is that it is just the two of you and no cell phones or computers. You could also go for walks with her, that will give you time to talk and start feeling connected.

At first you need to do these things with no attempt to have sex. Otherwise she will just feel manipulated. If you do these things and she responds with affection towards you, then you can move towards more intimacy. At first just kissing. If she responds to that, you go a little further. Let her set the pace, do not move to the next step until she is ready. Once you get to the point of intimacy, don't blow it! Patience is a virtue. Do not attempt sex unless she is aroused, foreplay is very important. If you do not know what turns her on, then ask. If you have been communicating well otherwise, then you both should be able to communicate about this. If she doesn't know what turns her on, then you have a problem. The best way for women to learn what turns them on is self stimulation, but of course JWs are usually afraid to do that. You can still figure it out if you are both willing, but it will take some work. In general, women rarely climax with only vaginal intercourse, they need other kinds of stimulation. If you want her to have a good time, then you will have to learn what works for her.

If she doesn't respond to any of this, then your problems run deeper. Possibly she didn't ever enjoy sex and was just doing it to please you. If that is the case, you will have a much harder job. If you want to save the marriage you will need to see a marriage counselor. If she refuses, then you might have to consider divorce. In my experience many JW marriages were like this, for whatever reason. Sex is important and a marriage cannot be fulfilling without a healthy sex life, so it's worth investing the time to make it work.

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How to evade questions from elders when you stop going out door to door

by Olivia Wilde in

due to circumstances right now i cannot leave permanently the watchtower, however i need honest advice of what to say when elders question me how come im not meeting the group out for door to door & going out in " field service"... what would be proper responses not to draw suspicions since i'm aware of ttatt.. .any serious advice please...

LisaRose

It's true that elders only have the power you give them, but setting appropriate boundaries with them is not easy, you have been trained to obey them for a long time. Even though you know tatt, it's still hard to over come the feeling that you have to do what they ask, so be patient with yourself. This is just harder for some people than for others. Practice a few things to saying the mirror so that it comes naturally to you. Keep telling yourself that you have a right to your feelings and to your privacy. They may mean well but they are not your friend, you owe them nothing.

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Lumbar Puncture

by azor in

i hate spinal treatment days.

my son is in sedation right now getting chemo into his spine.

the hospital and people here are amazing.

LisaRose

It must be very hard to see your son go through this, I am sure any parent would prefer going through this rather than seeing their child go through it. But it's good that he may make a full recovery, you have good reason to hope.

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If she doesn't comply an orange jumpsuit is in her future

by DJS in

scotus: kentucky clerk must issue same-sex marriage licenses.

by ariane de vogue, cnn supreme court reporter.

updated 8:02 pm et, mon august 31, 2015. let's hope this is the final screech from the haters who wrap themselves in the bible - or their egoist political philosophy i doubt it will be, but let's hope..

LisaRose

In Pew Research polling in 2001, Americans opposed same-sex marriage by a 57% to 35% margin.

Since then, support for same-sex marriage has steadily grown. Based on polling in 2015, a majority of Americans (55%) support same-sex marriage, compared with 39% who oppose it.

http://www.pewforum.org/2015/07/29/graphics-slideshow-changing-attitudes-on-gay-marriage/

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If she doesn't comply an orange jumpsuit is in her future

by DJS in

scotus: kentucky clerk must issue same-sex marriage licenses.

by ariane de vogue, cnn supreme court reporter.

updated 8:02 pm et, mon august 31, 2015. let's hope this is the final screech from the haters who wrap themselves in the bible - or their egoist political philosophy i doubt it will be, but let's hope..

LisaRose

llboard rhetoric does not persuade or discourage those that oppose ss marriages, it only adds fuel to the fire. SS is not endorsed by religions, but ss is endorsed by the USA, so ss do not have to plead their cause.

Same sex marriage is not endorsed by some religions. There are many religions that accept gay people. I attended a United Church of Christ service that had a gay pastor. This is the church my in laws attend, they are in their eighties and have no problem with it. They are a liberal church, but it isn't that uncommon these days even in more mainstream religions. Even the Catholic church seems to be softening, although I don't know if they will ever fully accept gays.

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Can someone who uses Chrome on a smartphone..

by defender of truth in

.. please do me a small favour?.

can you look at this list of my posts and tell me if nearly all of them are cut off on the right?.

i have been posting always using the uc browser, then decided to try chrome on an android phone and found that most of my posts are unreadable!!.

LisaRose

I have the same problem. Fortunately I rarely use my phone, I work from home so I mostly use my kindle. I had noticed previously that some posts by others were cut off on the right, now I know why

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Another Kim Davis inspired self-invented "gay issue"

by Simon in

what is it about some of these self proclaimed "christians" who go seeking persecution when it don't exist?.

we've had a case locally in calgary where the initial reports sounded like the person had a legitimate claim: a bus driver didn't want to drive the bus in a gay pride parade and said he'd resign if they made him and that the local transit company was threatening him to force him to do it.. except it was all invented ... by him !.

they already proactively told him that there was no danger that he would be asked to drive that bus in the parade (i.e.

LisaRose

Not a shallow victory at all. The supreme court rightly recognized that marriage should be available to all, they didn't need a constitutional amendment, they reviewed the law and determined that it violated constitutional rights. Laws are being reviewed and the constitution is being reinterpreted all the time by the supreme court, that is their job.

Possibly women could have been given the right to vote the same way, but the fact is they didn't, for whatever reason. My guess would be that either the constitution was written in a way that did not allow them to interpret it to allow women to vote, or there wasn't the will on the part of the court to do so at that time.

Neither way was wrong, it's how the system is set up. In one case the supreme court interpreted the constitution in a way it hadn't before, in the other the constitution was changed.

Since you do not like the way the court interpreted the law your choice is to work to elect politicians who will appoint more conservative judges in the hopes they will reinterpret the constitution or to work to change the constitution. Whining that it is was done illegally is just sour grapes, since the supreme court is the ultimate authority on interpreting the constitution. They do have the last word, like it or not

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I never realized how boring I was.

by John Aquila in

as a true believer in the watchtower, i never knew how truly boring i was until being out for a couple of years and then sitting down with a group of jws and having a conversation..

thats what happened this morning.

i decided to go have breakfast at mcdonalds and a group of jws who were out in service and know me also stopped for breakfast and sat down with me and we talked for about an hour.

LisaRose

I had a long unintentional fade, as life experiences and problems made it more and more difficult to live the JW life. As I gained more experience outside of the organization and was less influenced from inside it, I found I had less and less in common with most JWs. I knew a person that was proud of the fact that the only thing they ever read was the Watchtower and Awake. I could not relate to that as I am a lifelong reader and interested in many things, and the magazines are written at a third grade level. While I am no scholar, I would go crazy if that is all I could read. Eventually I felt like a square peg in a round whole, it became very harder and harder to go to the meetings, I hated every minute and I was treated like an outcast.

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Another Kim Davis inspired self-invented "gay issue"

by Simon in

what is it about some of these self proclaimed "christians" who go seeking persecution when it don't exist?.

we've had a case locally in calgary where the initial reports sounded like the person had a legitimate claim: a bus driver didn't want to drive the bus in a gay pride parade and said he'd resign if they made him and that the local transit company was threatening him to force him to do it.. except it was all invented ... by him !.

they already proactively told him that there was no danger that he would be asked to drive that bus in the parade (i.e.

LisaRose

Rat person, You obviously know nothing about Gay people that you would ask that. They have been hated and discriminated against for centuries. They have been told they are evil, an abomination, unnatural and sinful, all for something about which they had no choice. They have pride because they stood up for themselves and said no more to the haters and the religious bigots. They have pride because it takes makes courage to tell your parents that you are gay, to tell your employer, to tell your church.

I have read accounts here on JWN that broke my heart, people who hated being gay, who fought their nature, who tried to be normal, but who ultimately could not do so no matter how much they prayed, and who lost beloved family and friends because of it. Having gone through that and done the hard work to accept themselves as they are, not how they wished to be, they have pride and rightly so.