That must be very hard stillin. It sounds like your marriage is bad in a lot of different ways, not just when it comes to sex. It's really hard to salvage things when they have gotten to this point, sex is never going to be good when there is that much hostility. I can tell you that as a post menopausal woman (who also has serious pain issues) that having a good sex life is still very possible, although it has it's challenges, but it's not possible if there isn't the will.
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Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate
by goingthruthemotions injust on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.
you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.
up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.
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Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate
by goingthruthemotions injust on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.
you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.
up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.
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LisaRose
Women want the intimacy, trust and love before the sex act occurs. Men don't bother with all those messy, time consuming acts of love first...they think that it magically happens after their sexual urges are satisfied.
Good point orphan crow. All these guys who think all women use sex to get what they want makes me wonder if they had this problem because they have problems with intimacy. If that is the case then they are more likely to end up with women who are willing to have sex without any real connection, and that might mean they are more likely to use sex to get what they want. In their experience all women do use sex as a bartering tool, so they think that is representative of all relationships.
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Washington Post in US: Jehovah's Witnesses Face Child Sex Abuse Investigation in Australia
by cultBgone init's finally hit mainstream media in the us!
let's hope some savvy investigative journalists see a pulitzer for opening up this story to cover the us and worldwide cases.. jehovahs-witnesses-face-child-sex-abuse-investigation-in-australia/2015/08/14/.
everyone who is able should hurry up and post comments on their website as the pro-jw forces have rallied and are trying to squash this as libel.
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It's a Kindle fire. It's more of a tablet computer than an e-reader. They still make the kindle paperwhite which is just a reader. If your main use will be reading, the paper white is better as the screen is more like a book.
It has its drawback as a tablet, besides issues with JWN, some videos won't play on it, and I have had issues with the charging port, but it's really cheap, the last I looked they were $120. I use mine a lot, so if I get two years of use out of them I figure I got my money's worth.
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"Fair Use" copyright ruling
by OrphanCrow inthe decision to allow fair use of copyrighted material could have an impact on the wts' attempts to use copyright laws to pull content that is critical of them.it is ironic that this ruling was made in response to one of prince's songs.. (this article was posted on exjwreddit)demand that mother remove home video from youtube backfires.
a music companys demand that youtube take down a 29-second home video of two children dancing to a song by prince backfired monday when a federal appeals court used the case to make it harder for copyright-holders to act against brief, non-commercial uses of their material.recording companies, motion picture studios and other copyright owners issue numerous takedown notices each day, targeting everything from home videos to campaign ads that include segments of songs or newscasts.
when a copyright-holder tells a website like youtube that one of its postings violates the holders exclusive rights to license the material, federal law requires that the posting be removed immediately.but the ninth u.s. circuit court of appeals in san francisco said the copyright-holder must first consider whether such a video amounts to fair use of the work, making it eligible to be legally posted.
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There are a lot of grey areas when it comes to copyright infringement and the internet. The national Geographic has been suing over an internet meme called socially awkward penguin. They claim the photo belonged to them, so everyone that used the photo was violating their copyright. The problem is it's been posted and reposted by so many people. And if someone adds text and effects, can it really still be called their product?
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/the-intersect/wp/2015/09/08/how-copyright-is-killing-your-favorite-memes/ -
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Washington Post in US: Jehovah's Witnesses Face Child Sex Abuse Investigation in Australia
by cultBgone init's finally hit mainstream media in the us!
let's hope some savvy investigative journalists see a pulitzer for opening up this story to cover the us and worldwide cases.. jehovahs-witnesses-face-child-sex-abuse-investigation-in-australia/2015/08/14/.
everyone who is able should hurry up and post comments on their website as the pro-jw forces have rallied and are trying to squash this as libel.
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LisaRose
Well, I must confess post number two on the topic was from me. I have a Kindle so the search function doesn't work, I went back two pages and didn't see anything on it, so I started a thread and was promptly reminded there was already a thread on it, oops.
But no problem, obviously some people didn't see the original thread, so it's a good thing you posted it again.
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Washington Post in US: Jehovah's Witnesses Face Child Sex Abuse Investigation in Australia
by cultBgone init's finally hit mainstream media in the us!
let's hope some savvy investigative journalists see a pulitzer for opening up this story to cover the us and worldwide cases.. jehovahs-witnesses-face-child-sex-abuse-investigation-in-australia/2015/08/14/.
everyone who is able should hurry up and post comments on their website as the pro-jw forces have rallied and are trying to squash this as libel.
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The only way to know God exists!
by iconoclastic indo everything as god would do if he were present here.
this will attract his attention, and you will experience his invisible hands blessing everything you do, giving you results more than what you sowed.. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------.
hence put to the test the above, and then you can make really authentic comments!.
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Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate
by goingthruthemotions injust on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.
you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.
up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.
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LisaRose
The blame shifting, excuse making, rationalizing and justifying some of you are providing as legitimate reasons for women to withhold sex is not part of the reason it is a problem. It's the reason.
For the record, I feel that withholding sex deliberately because you are mad, or to get something you want is just plain wrong, and is a really good way to kill a marriage. It's just that it's hard to know if that is what she is doing, since I don't know her. I am inclined to think that she is deliberately withholding sex, since she wouldn't answer him as to why, telling him to go see a therapist sounds kind of cold. This is not how two mature adults handle things. It did occur to me that she has already checked out mentally and is doing this to force him to leave.
But that is something he needs to figure out. If he loves this woman and wants to save the marriage, then there are things to try. Possibly he can get her to see that what she is doing is wrong. I think it's worth a try before he gives up and gets a divorce. If she refuses to try to fix things, then that is good to know, he can then make a decision based on that. Whatever happens it needs to get resolved.
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Need advice: Intimacy with my wife almost non existint because she considers me an apostate
by goingthruthemotions injust on of the perks of being an apostate who is married to a branwashed, blinded jw woman.
you know, we have been married for ~27 years....most of which we had nothing to do with the piece of shite cult.
up till the begining of 2014 was when i woke up.
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LisaRose
As a woman I obviously have a different point of view. Yes, obviously some women use sex as a weapon, but not all. What men sometimes perceive as women using sex as a weapon is actually just that they feel neglected, or have too much to do so are tired all the time and just don't have the energy. Some men take their wives for granted and then expect them to get turned on in thirty seconds of foreplay. Here news for you guys, a stiffy in the back is not foreplay!
If you treat your wife well (i.e. if you both work you should share in the housework and child care) do the romantic, everyday things (holding hands and the all time secret weapon of men, the kiss on the back of the neck) and you have good communication generally then if she is still not willing, then yes, she is probably using sex as a weapon. A recent study showed that men who help out with the housework had better sex lives, so that's something to think about.
I don't know your wife or your personalal situation, so obviously I don't know why she is being this way. She could be using this as a way to punish you for not doing what she wants, or she could be depressed about the whole thing and just not feeling it. Maybe it's a little of both. I think it's time for a heart to heart talk. This is huge, it needs to be resolved. If she is unwilling to talk about it, unwilling to see a counselor and unwilling to have sex, it is not a good sign. what she is doing is going directly against the advice of the bible. Maybe you could approach it that way and see if you can get her to at least talk.
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Washington Post in US: Jehovah's Witnesses Face Child Sex Abuse Investigation in Australia
by cultBgone init's finally hit mainstream media in the us!
let's hope some savvy investigative journalists see a pulitzer for opening up this story to cover the us and worldwide cases.. jehovahs-witnesses-face-child-sex-abuse-investigation-in-australia/2015/08/14/.
everyone who is able should hurry up and post comments on their website as the pro-jw forces have rallied and are trying to squash this as libel.
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I love the Washington Post! I got a free subscription to the digital version (which is different than the website) for a while because I have a Kindle (Amazon and the Post are owned by the same company). It was so good I paid for it when the free subscription ran out. The articles are more in depth and well written than the typical news sources, especially when it comes to politics. It updates twice a day, so there is always something new to read. They also have more coverage of issues from around the world. They covered the RC hearings when most US news did not. They also have good science articles as well.