Posts by LisaRose

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I am looking at back surgery any thoughts on should I or not?

by Still Totally ADD in

jw
friends

back in march i fell and injured my back at work.

my back has been a problem for many years but certain exercise has able me to function normally through the years.

now i walk bent over with a cane and cannot walk very far, stand, or sit in a straight back chair.

LisaRose

The book I read was Back In Control, a Surgeon's roadmap out of Chronic Pain, by David Hanscom. Of course, in your case surgery may very well be your best option, but there are things you can do even so to help yourself. The guy that wrote the book still does surgery, so he is not against it per se, he discusses when it is and is not needed.

I thought myself I actually just had a case of Chronic pain, there seed to be no physical reason I was still in so much pain. I had been to many, many doctors, done two rounds of physical therapy, and tried everything I could think of with no results. I had determined to get off pain meds after seven years even so, when I actually stumbled a cross the real cause of my problem, a trapped and kinked up Psoas muscle (hip flexor) It's a deep muscle, not easy to get at, but I figured it out. Two months later I am off all narcotic pain meds for good, took my last three weeks ago. I really thought I would be on pain meds for the rest of my life, so I am pretty happy about that. My pain clinic actually asked me to tell them what I did in case it is helpful to other pelvic pain patients.

So never give up in searching for an answer, whether that is surgery or something else.

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I am looking at back surgery any thoughts on should I or not?

by Still Totally ADD in

jw
friends

back in march i fell and injured my back at work.

my back has been a problem for many years but certain exercise has able me to function normally through the years.

now i walk bent over with a cane and cannot walk very far, stand, or sit in a straight back chair.

LisaRose

Think very carefully before surgery. I recently read a book on pain by a back doctor ( I have pain issues of my own, tho not back pain). He had had to accept the fact that many back surgeries are not needed. He started treating his patients for pain, giving them the tools to reduce pain without surgery. Many people found they didn't need surgery, those that still did had a better recovery.

His point is that everybody over a certain age has some adaptive damage or changes to the spine, yet some with the same spine issues have no pain, so it is not these changes that cause the pain, rather it is a matter of pain processing problems.

I am out right now, when I get home I will tell you the name of the book, it has been very helpful to me, I stropped pain meds three weeks ago, after seven years on them.

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Neutered New World

by Labate in

if, as jesus said, there is no marriage in the afterlife, will our sex drive be removed?.

sex without marriage is fornication, which is a no-no.. if i were young and healthy, being surrounded by young, healthy women, having the normal male libido would hardly be paradise..

LisaRose

Yipee, can't wait until I get to grow a penis. 😉

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The point at which you think this may not be the truth

by LevelThePlayingField in

i remember one of the nights that i found out the truth wasn't the truth, that is after finding out about the united nations, i remember riding my bicycle from like 1am till 5am in the city night.

it was rather chilly, maybe about 55-60 degrees and i was playing pink floyd's dark side of the moon album in my earbuds.

just riding and riding, not really tiring because of the thought that 7 men in brooklyn had duped me, duped me for like 20 plus years.

LisaRose

I realized it was not the truth when It dawned on me that all joy had been sucked out of my life and that following the Watchtower's advice had resulted in me wasting 28 years in a bad marriage. I decided that if God existed he certainly couldn't be get any satisfaction out of my misery. I walked away and didn't look back, best decision I ever made.

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Evolutionist on their deathbed.

by Nimble duck in

i would really like to read the thoughts of an evolutionist as they lie on their deathbed.

their "honest to nogod" thoughts.

their terrors.

LisaRose

I fail to see how disregarding facts, logic and reason would impress any God worth worshiping, so I sleep really well at night and don't fear death, and I am probably closer to it than most here.

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Subliminal images - why and who are the individuals behind it?

by UnshackleTheChains in

i remember about 5 years ago reading on another site about subliminal images in wt literature.

i honestly thought it a load of bs until i checked out one glaringly obvious image of a creepy skull in clouds within the knowledge book.

i was shocked and even showed my wife at the time who thought it was creepy.. so my question is why?

LisaRose

Meh. So what if they have subliminal images? There is zero proof that subliminal images have any effect on anybody anyway. The regular pictures themselves are toxic in their own right, not to mention what is openly written.

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chasing me for a report

by Phoebe in

jw
friends

i'm fairly new on here and i've told a lot of my story but to recap, after 60 odd years i've stopped going to the meetings.

my husband had already left the truth years ago and my children didn't become jws.(phew!).

i had a horrendous childhood growing up as a witness which included sexual assault by a close relative, also a jw.

LisaRose

I would just tell them that you have personal issues right now and won't be going into field service in the foreseeable future, but you will be sure and let them know if you do have any hours to report, there is no need for them to contact you. You don't need to tell them that that day will never come.

This organization is all about reporting and structure and dotting their i's and crossing their t's, meanwhile, people with real problems are being ignored and wrongs are not addressed if it's not convenient to them.

Congratulations on your work on healing from your abuse and getting out of this heartless organization, your life will only get better.

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Would You Outlaw Jehovah's Witnesses If You Had Your Way?

by minimus in

jw
friends

i still believe in freedom of religion even if i disagree with the beliefsof the religion.

what about you?.

LisaRose

I don't believe you can outlaw beliefs, it's just counter productive, it usually had the effect of making people more determined.

I do wish we were better at teaching critical thinking skills in schools, because teaching young JWs to think and question their beliefs will enable them to more easily break free. Sadly I dont think you can do much for the adults.

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Opinions on family situation

by dogon in

my brother got married to a woman who was wild and selfish.

so for those who think i am just biased let me tell you the story.

he married her and about a year later she got pregnant.

LisaRose

I wouldn't get involved in that train wreck other than may be a yearly call to see how he is doing.

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How do you get over all the things that you missed? The stuff you can't get back

by JW_Rogue in

look my life is not bad but sometimes i just think about all the normal things i missed out on.

and no i'm not talking about christmas and birthday parties.

i'm talking about your first kiss happening in your twenties instead of your teens.

LisaRose

Everybody has regrets about their life whether they were JWs or not. Yes, if I had to do over again I wouldn't have spent one minute in that hateful cult. But not everything about that life was horrible, I was healthy, I had friends, a good job, I raised two great kids. I missed out on a lot too, but I make a conscious choice each day to be grateful for what I have now and I don't dwell on what I missed out on, because that would mean the religion was stealing even more of my life and I'm not going to let that happen.