I have to agree with Simon. I faded over a period longer than a year to try to help my wife out. I resigned as an elder right away and then cut back on attending until it was time to just stop. It did not work. My wife is very much a JW to this day. I maintain a relationship with JW family because I am not disfellowshipped. But the same result would have been achieved if I just up and quit, walked away.
Everyone has to figure out what's best for them. Having family still in, especially close family, is a huge factor. But many might be best off just walking away and just having the "inactive" status.
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The Impact of Less "Appointed Men" & This Site Thank You
by JWTom inwith the passing minimus, we all may think about what this site has meant to us personally.
i lurked here for quite a few years before becoming active as a poster....still i consider what i have done to be very slight compared with others.
may minimus rest in peace and a big thank you to all that have helped me here over the years.. a new member that is a pimo elder (reservations) posted here about how he could wake people up while remaining a pimo elder.
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No more Questions from MINIMUS
by was a new boy inminimus former jw, prolific poster on jwn died.. minimus.
joined 19 years ago.
started 4,139 topics.
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OnTheWayOut
A minimus is: a creature or being that is the smallest or least significant.
Our Minimus was full of the least significant questions, but they added up to great content.
R.I.P. Minimus. -
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If God exists, what would be a good reason why he never communicates or helps his creation by intervention?
by pistolpete inyou have probably heard all kinds of excuses why god doesn’t communicates with his creation or why he doesn’t intervene.. some examples.. no one can see god because he is a spirit.. but we can hear god---yet he chooses not to talk to humanity.. god only communicates with certain people.
moses, samuel, abraham, etc.
but there are many people today who also claim that god spoke to them yet we ignore them but believe god spoke to people who lived thousands of years ago and we can’t really verify if that was so.
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Coming up with excuses for a God who isn't there?
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If Rubber Mouth- Stephen Lett or Russell M. Nelson (president of LDS) were to
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Is the Bible of extraterrestrial origin?
by Vanderhoven7 inhighly illuminating video.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wkhdyhmolmw.
i thought these bible cryptologists were all nuts.
this guy changed my mind..
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Once he said there are 66 books in an "integrated message," I stopped.
The Bible is not an integrated message even if you limit it to the Protestant Bible and it certainly would be too much of a stretch to say it is integrated if you put the apocrypha in there.
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The Truth about the Truth
by Iamallcool inif jw wants to know the truth about the truth, what will you talk about first?
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People have to be ready to listen. I would try discussing "the generation" that will not pass away and start with saying, "Do you really accept the 'overlapping generation' ?"
For decades, the 'generation' was people old enough to understand what happened in 1914, so they would at least have had to have been older children. When the time was about to expire, the 'generation' was tweaked to be anyone born by 1914 and they pretended it was always that way. When the time was getting close to expiration in 1995, they released it to an unknown variable. When the members didn't see enough urgency in that, they restored the 'generation' to a connection with 1914 and created the 'overlapping generation.' Can you explain that? (That 'overlapping generation' includes the life span of people that knew people born prior to 1914. They indicate the first part would be people old enough to understand things in 1914, and the second part (overlap) would include people who significantly knew that first part, but we all know it will be stretched to say the first part had to be born by 1914 and the overlap could have barely lived at the same time.)
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Can a person order a free bible through the JWs?
by jwundubbed ini was researching the easiest bible to read (which the jw bible is not) and the best way to buy one online at low cost and it got me thinking.
the jw.org is doing videos and has a website.
have they joined the order-online phenomenon that is going on in the world today?
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Back in the day, you requested a Bible and a slip of paper went from HQ to a congregation to send a JW to your door.
After COVID19, it will probably go back to that. I am certain they won't mail you anything.
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Did You Feel Special Because You Were An Elder or Friend or Family Of?
by minimus infor many families, they received the golden ticket once a family member became an elder.
the glory and admiration of being an elder seeped right thru to all the elder’s connections.
if you got into some trouble, having an elder friend or relative could give you the stay out of jail card.
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I was an adult convert appointed fairly young. I just thought an elder was what Jehovah wanted me to be. I was so gung-ho.
I did notice right away that elders family members got in less trouble, it was often hushed up. I was invited to ALL gatherings. I knew why.
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KH's Still All Closed- How Bad is WT doing Financially?
by OnTheWayOut inmost churches are back to in-person worship.
not jehovah's witnesses.
is watchtower still managing to fleece the flocks as the sheeple no longer get literature, no longer go to the kh, no longer walk past the donation box?
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Very interesting thoughts here. I will say in rebuttal to some, that no matter how much people are donating electronically, it cannot possibly match what they raked in at conventions and assemblies in cash and checks. Even if I am wrong, it can't last. Children attending Zoom will leave faster than ever before.
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Did You Think The Capitol Riot Was Worse Than What Happened On 9/11?
by minimus inin my lifetime 9/11 was the worst thing that i can recall.
the effect it had was incredibly horrible!
almost everyone seemed to know someone that was either directly or indirectly affected by this diabolical act.
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Minimize or maximize. True, it could very well be for the opposite effect for shock value in headlines. It's still apples and oranges.