OnTheWayOut

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  The "5 Pillars" of Witness life...

  by stuckinarut2 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  oh, there is one brother that keeps prattling on about "the 5 pillars of faith and worship".

  - prayer.

  - personal study.

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  - prayer

  Must be in harmony with Jehovah's Will. The literature and videos from jw . org will tell you what that is.

  - personal study

  .....which of course means primarily to be reading Watchtower literature.

  -meeting attendance and participation

  Participation means commenting in harmony with whatever the literature says. It does not mean questioning and it definitely does not mean commenting off the top of your head.

  -field service

  They don't care how productive your "service" is, how many Tim Horton's/Starbucks/McDonald's breaks you take or if you just have a good conversation standing next to a cart. But you still gotta turn in a minimum amount of time to show that you are dedicating your life to the organization.

  - and something else equally forgettable.....

  Maybe that was to believe any nonsense the Governing Body says or to live as if the end is "soon."

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  They used to liken the five meetings to our five fingers.

  I now only have one finger for Jehovah's Witnesses.
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  Beads and Tight Jeans APPROVED Service Attire For a Brother?

  by sparky1 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  many, many, many posters here have wondered what happened to the religion that they were raised in or baptized into 20 or more years ago.

  i just got the shock of my life on jw(dot) org.tv!

  there is a video testimonial of an american indian witness that was inactive for many years and has now begun to preach again.

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  How in the world do they put such a video on the same website that Tight Pants Tony contributes to?

  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HzGzvCZswsI
  
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  DC2015 New Release: Brochure "Return to Jehovah" for those who faded/left

  by Designer Stubble in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  it appears that a new 16-page brochure, with the title "return to jehovah" is to be released at the regional convention (dc) this year.

  it would be written specifically for those faded or da/df.chapters are:a letter from the governing body1.

  the lost one i will search for2.

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  It would be written specifically for those faded or DA/DF.

  Great, now someone might just try to reactivate me. NAH!!!!!! It's like others have said- appearances only.

  The C.O. said they were to "snatch me out of the fire." They didn't try for more than one effort to get me back. They won't try now either.
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  Dating After Leaving?

  by Garrett in

  1. social
  2. relationships

  hey guys,.

  this is going to be a topic of a different nature.

  so, while i am not looking to date at the current moment since i'm still trying to figure out who i am and what i want life, i do want to start dating in the near future.. my issue is that i've been in for almost all my life and it's left a big hole when it comes to my romantic life.. i was wondering, after leaving, did any of you date?

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  Dating. Man oh man. Ex-JW's are all over the map.

  I don't know how e-harmony matched such a wonderful person as Mrs. Flipper with Mr. Flipper but maybe it would do the same for you. (Just kidding and jabbing at one of my best friends.)

  I am not dating because I remain married to my JW wife. But I have seen ex-JW's find other ex-JW's and I have seen them strike out in other areas. In most cases, it seems that people move on to the area of life they are most comfortable with. Some are most comfortable going back out into the world and making friends via other ex-JW's via meetup.com groups of ex-JW or other places where ex-JW's meet together. Most seem to find a mate through their other ways of trying to be "normal" again- joining classes or groups that share an interest. Most seem to share their JW experience after a couple of dates because it is important to them and they don't want to waste their time with someone who won't see it as "important" to them.

  Again, Mrs. Flipper is a great example. She reached out to the jw . com community on this forum and tried to learn about us. She loves learning and sharing with us about our ex-JW experience even though she was not involved at the time. She does that in order to share her husband's life more fully. While you won't (maybe) find someone like that, if you are asking if you should share the experience, it probably means you need to share it. Good luck.
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  My father is a f*****g a*****e

  by Butyoucanneverleave in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this is my first post.

  i just had to get that statement off of my chest!

  my father is one cold hearted judge mental, hypocritical, piece of s**t. i hate this religion and what it has done to my family!

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  Official welcome to you, a long-time reader, first-time poster.

  You have checked out of the Hotel-Jehovah's-Witnesses but you can never truly leave because of your family ties. I would like to make an excuse for your father, but I cannot. I don't know him at all and whether he is just another victim of the cult or a willing "flaming ashpile" (that is what you meant, isn't it?).

  He just might be another one who could say "We are all just prisoners here, of our own device"

  I hope you feel welcome to vent here and that some help is found. See you around the water cooler.
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  walking out and about.

  by zeb in

  1. social
  2. physical

  just starting back slow and steady at my walking after a ride in an ambulance recently.

  heart is fine im glad to say.

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  Walk on, glad to hear it.
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  How To Witness to Jehovah's Witnesses Video

  by Perry in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i recently shared my views on how to witness to jehovah's witnesses to a local congregation.

  the video link is also below:.

  maybe this will help some reach out to loved ones that are still members.. .

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  I can say everything that I want to say to a JW in less than 5 minutes. On dozens of occasions, I have achieved the "deer in the headlights" look every time using the method that my wife and I demonstrated.

  You can never "say" anything in less than 5 minutes. You always find some link to bizarre thoughts that takes an hour or more. I saw the preachy look of this video and that it was over an hour and I didn't even bother with it. (I probably should just to see what you and your wife look like, but since there is no actual bird on your shoulder, I lose interest.) That's the reaction of a JW also- instant turn-off. And your getting a JW to have that "deer in the headlights" look- how helpful is that? I know you think you are reaching them because you reach a stumping point. But time and time again, people have stumped your closed mind on this forum by pointing out flaws in your fundamentalist thinking or demonstrating why evolution or global warming must be true. You get that "deer" look and then just go on and post more links to garbage.

  I am pretty sure the average JW just goes on when you point out contradictions to their beliefs in the book that is loaded with contradictions. Perry, all I ever see from you is that you are the JW of fundamentalism here. You refuse to learn and grow in any direction other than "I have the truth, I know I am right."

  Remember, I continue to point this out to you because you are just like a JW. I believe you truly want someone to reach through your closed mind and wake you up. It's why you keep posting garbage here. You truly want us to snap you out of accepting it.
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  If someone asked you, 'Are you a righteous person'? What would be your answer?

  by Esse quam videri in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  what would be your answer?

  are you are a righteous person?

  on a scale of 1-10, how righteous do you feel you are?.

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  [Those who do not believe in righteousness may leave. Please close the door quietly behind you.]

  Alrighty then. I looked it up.

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  right·eous

  ˈrīCHəs/

  adjective

  1. 1.

     (of a person or conduct) morally right or justifiable; virtuous.

     "he is a good, righteous man, I am sure"

     synonyms:

     good, virtuous, upright, upstanding, decent; More
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  USinformal

  very good; excellent.

  "righteous bread pudding"

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  So after I looked it up, I determined that "righteous" is not exclusive to religion and believers in God. Who doesn't accept that some kind of pudding isn't that good that it is righteous, or that a person is decent and upright enough for that label?

  I had a feeling your question really led to a Biblical standard of following what each poster believes are God's standards of righteousness, just by your attempt to dismiss people that don't "believe in righteousness."
  While I never had "righteous" bread pudding, I have had "righteous" sexual encounters and "righteous" reactions to alcohol/chemical experiences.
  I have also determined that I have a way better standard of righteousness than the racist, womanizing, rape-approving, killer of the Bible than it's God does.

  
  I am a decent guy. I don't go around deliberately hurting people. I don't kill people and take their virgin daughters as "wives." I give myself a TEN.