so sorry to hear your story...i experienced the same story , fell in love with a jw girl from minnesota, im from new york. the major diff between yours and mine was that she never hid or pretended that things were going to be perfect; in fact, she didnt really believe we would be able to even fall in love, but we did. Thats when all kingdom hell broke loose (sorry!) She couldnt juggle Jehovah and me at the same time. This was after one year of 10,000 texts, webcams at nite, emails, love poems, and , oh, did I mention me flying out to the west coast every few weeks to be together with her (in hotels, because nobody was allowed to know). So she went and confessed to the elders. Now we are magically over. The pain gets worse every day. This was my true ond only 'soulmate'. ZIf i could only figure out how to unbrainwash her.
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in love with a very confused jw
by limitless inhi guys,.
this is a fairly long story, so bear with me.... twelve years ago i dated a jw man briefly in new york.
we got along really well, but he stopped calling.
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Who cleans the KH?
by solo ini just had a flash back to when we used to have to clean the kh.
each group had to take it in turn to do the cleaning.. in our group we had a bunch of lazy b*****ds, so it was left to us kids and our dad to clean the kh, bogs, etc.
even my mum used to find some excuse to duck out.. so if meetings, door knocking, studying, praying wasn't enough we also had to spend a couple of hours cleaning every month or so.
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here in nj the bros and sistos clean up
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JOSEPHUS AND THE DATE OF THE EXODUS!
by badboy inaccording to one source, exodus took place about 590 years(if i remember correctly!
) before solomon's temple was started,this would make exodus about 1552 bc,around ahmose 1 time.. we are told by josephus that moses led an army into ethiopia/cush capturing meroe?.
do you think the above is correct?.
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year of exodus was 2448 heb calendar, or 1312bce or 3318 years ago. Horemhab was ruler of exodus.
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I'm now in Arizona...
by Confession ingreetings, fellow arizonians (?),.
originally from michigan, but lived in southern california for the last fourteen months.
just this past week, my daughter and i moved into our new home in arizona--near phoenix.
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lucky tucsan girl...you have miniditos ??? best mex in usa
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Are "Apostates" jumping the gun with their info on the WT to make a case?
by booker-t ini take some of the things apostates say with a "grain of salt" because many times i think they embellish the truth to make the wt look bad to make their case.
for example i have for years heard that the wt uses "satanic" images in their artwork but i have yet to see any proof of these accusations.
i have heard that jw's no longer practice "disfellowshipping" but my teenage niece was recently "disfellowshipped".
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u make a very good point, be honest accross the board. btw-they DO still disfellowship. my jw g/f got threatened with that if she stayed with me after sleeping with me for a year and a half, and now she's back with them (for now)
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PROOF JESUS DIED ON A CROSS
by Mary inwarning: some might find the descriptions here disturbing.
even though there is overwhelming evidence that jesus died on a cross and not an upright state, the organization still stubbornly clings to this feeble idea, siting of course, the ridiculous notion that, because the cross was a 'pagan symbol', jesus couldn't have died on it.
as if the romans gave a damn that the cross was pagan.
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hampstead
I once showed a JW a picture of jesus on the 'stake' , not cross, taken from one of the watchtowers publications. The interesting thing was that it WAS a cross. The reason was that the drawing has jesus on a pole, but as popular belief goes, the romans would also affix a piece of wood or the like ACCROSS the pole announcing the name of the criminal and his offense. So, from that point of view, the pole was actually visible AS A CROSS. I was thinking that perhaps this might give some insight as to how this whole thing started in the first place!!!
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I fell in love with a JW.....
by hampstead inwe both fell in love.
hard.
we are not two little kids, although it has felt like it at times.
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Thank you, all!! In 10 minutes I received some nice responses. Kristopher, you nailed it. It sounds like we have dated the same girl. This whole situation was a long work in progress. She said she would marry me, even though I am PRESENTLY not a JW. She said she would wait and that she would never or has ever met a man as kind and loving as me, but now she has vanished since the elders got her. BTW, we decided together that she should go to them. She wasnt caught.
I was thinking, when JW's go door to door while its raining outside, do the identify themselves to the homeowners as JEHOVAH' S WETNESSES???
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I fell in love with a JW.....
by hampstead inwe both fell in love.
hard.
we are not two little kids, although it has felt like it at times.
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hampstead
oh, your child is a dream. Enjoy!
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I fell in love with a JW.....
by hampstead inwe both fell in love.
hard.
we are not two little kids, although it has felt like it at times.
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thanks. Yes, she is a pioneer, and her family (mostly) is in. I find that there are many good things in the org, but I am studing regardless. I have learned what she is being taught, so thats good advise, thanks. She thought she might have become df over this, but instead she promised the elders that she will stay away. She is so scared of THEM, but not Jehovah all this time???
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I fell in love with a JW.....
by hampstead inwe both fell in love.
hard.
we are not two little kids, although it has felt like it at times.
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Now what?? We both fell in love. Hard. We are not two little kids, although it has felt like it at times. I have been going to all my meetings. I am serious about joining her one day...but there is such a 'caution' around it. She now says she must prepare herself for the possibility that I will leave the truth, as I am not baptised. The elders have told her this as well. They tell her that marring me will set a bad example. So who AM I supposed to marry, then???
I have been one hundred percent faithful to her in every aspect. I have stopped doing things I used to do. I have self control. I stopped smoking. I am clean. I cant date a JW cuz Im not BT. I cant date a non-JW cuz she's not a JW. So what am I supposed to do? I dont want anyone else. This girl has become my other half. We have been together in a manner unbecoming a JW, but we have stopped. Now we have 'broken up' because the elders said she must prove repentance. Isnt the fact that we have stopped physical relations a sign on both parties that we want to do the right thing? It bothers the heck out of me that for 2 years I was in her life every single day like a husband, and no one knew. I was the big secret in her life. Now I am but a memory to her alone. Her family never met me, her friends never met me. I became the big secret too hot to carry, so Jehovah 'became' the reason (excuse????) to kick my sorry behind to the curb.
Is there any hope? I want to be her head. Be the father to her children. Go out in service together. I was making such progress. Now my 'life support' machine has been disconnected, and I feel so very wiped out. Can anyone help???