Posts by FreeGirl2006

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How the Conti case has re-opened a can of worms for me

by Soldier77 in

i haven't been one to start a lot of threads and i've actually been gone from this board for about a year only to return after the conti case blew open.

i stopped coming here because i had moved on with my life and really started to put being a jw behind me and stopped concerning myself with it.. my anger and hate of the wtbts had come to a simmer, i don't think it will or would have completely cooled, but then on one fateful morning i awake to an email from my mother.

i haven't talked to my mother in about 6 months as our last conversation was her spouting off how great of a time she was having serving where the need was greater and it was all about her and her husband and jehovah this and jehovah that.

FreeGirl2006

I understand where you are coming from. I had a similar experience (I may even have posted it early on joining the site). I have also had my experiences with abuse among the dubs (pedophile/elder/step-creep + the loving judicial committee I faced at age 10 regarding the abuse = nightmares) brought back to the forefront. I agree that going back to counseling is important. Keep a journal and write your feelings out. If pursuing legal action will aid in your healing then go for it!

I don't think it is shunning when you avoid someone because it is affecting your emotional/mental health, in my personal opinion. I have several people in my life now that I consider toxic and as much as I may care for them, I limit my time with them as I cannot stand the negativity that exudes from them.

My case is past the expiration date, but I worry about new victims of the step-creep as he is currently in good standing in his congo in NC. He molested at least 4 others beside myself...all because of the wonderful policies in place.

Freegirl2006

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anyone seen TED yet?

by dreamgolfer in

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i like mark wahlberg, it looks funny, should i go?.

FreeGirl2006

Hilarious! If you enjoy Family Guy you will like Ted.

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Ireland

by FreeGirl2006 in

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i am headed to ireland this year (yeah!!!!).

i will be in dublin, wicklow, killarney, and galway.

any suggestions on must-see places, excellent pubs, shops, art galleries, etc?

FreeGirl2006

I wish I was going to have the time to head north! That would be incredible to see where the Titanic was built! Of course, Jameson's and Guiness are on my list!

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Ireland

by FreeGirl2006 in

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friends

i am headed to ireland this year (yeah!!!!).

i will be in dublin, wicklow, killarney, and galway.

any suggestions on must-see places, excellent pubs, shops, art galleries, etc?

FreeGirl2006

Thanks for the tip Phizzy. I think I will blow up my camera with use when I am over there!

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Ireland

by FreeGirl2006 in

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friends

i am headed to ireland this year (yeah!!!!).

i will be in dublin, wicklow, killarney, and galway.

any suggestions on must-see places, excellent pubs, shops, art galleries, etc?

FreeGirl2006

I am headed to Ireland this year (yeah!!!!). I will be in Dublin, Wicklow, Killarney, and Galway. Any suggestions on must-see places, excellent pubs, shops, art galleries, etc? I was in Dublin/Dun Laoghaire in 1992, but I am sure things have changed quite a bit since then.

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5 Mind Blowing Ways Your Memory Plays Tricks on You

by poopsiecakes in

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http://www.cracked.com/article_18704_5-mind-blowing-ways-your-memory-plays-tricks-you.html.

really interesting read - i would copy/paste the whole thing but there are a lot of pictures and a video.

a couple of things that stood out to me:.

FreeGirl2006

Read the book, You Are Not So Smart.

It is a real eye opener and it does a good job of explaining why we turn to religion (among other things). The author covers some of the things mentioned on cracked.com. Totally cool book!!!!

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Are You A Screwed Up Adult Because You Were A Witness?

by minimus in

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or did it not matter that you were ever a witness---you're a bit screwy, anyway?.

FreeGirl2006

I haven't posted in a while but I have been lurking.This is an interesting thread to me and something my boyfriend and I discuss on a regular basis.

My boyfriend was a Baptist minister and as deeply entrenched in that cult/religion as I was with the Borg. I was born in and baptized by 14. I left in my late 30s. Boyfriend was pulled into his world in his mid~twenties. We compare notes all the time. Both of us feel as if we came up for oxygen and really started living once we left our respective mind/emotion prisons.

I realized what a joy it is to live day each rather than to be focused on a fairytale future. I decided when I left to be open to all possibilities. I try not to dwell on the damage I experienced being in the Borg and look at the fact that I am no longer depressed (spent most o my life being depressed), I no longer need medication to cope with life, I have good friends who genuinely care for me, I met the love of my life who treats me better than any of the emotionally repressed brothers I dated (or in the case of the ex-hub married), and I went back to school and graduated with a master's degree and run a very successful business. The harm I experienced from being a jw makes me appreciate how far I have come in the short (6 years) since I was kicked out. Truly the elders gave me a gift....maybe I should send my old Cong. a big bouquet of flowers!

I know I still have issues as a result of the Borg upbringing and sometimes it takes me by surprise the issues I have. It was a struggle to get my business up and running because in the back of my mind was "what is the point, it is all going to end soon." Apathy is something that the dubs are good at preaching about, but they have the largest portion of apathy in the world--apathy for the here and now. I would say that is the biggest thing I still struggle with is the apathy I was enveloped with for 35+ years.

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