Posts by FreeGirl2006

I am wondering if the Aussie branch will have an outward change of policy to appease the RC much like other situations we have seen in various countries. Isn't there a country that the dubs are able to have branch sanctioned blood transfusions (I could be imagining this situation)?

I would love for the RC to cause sweeping change in the policies and procedures (basically non-existent) of abuse cases. I love that the RC is better schooled in JW beliefs than the actual JWs.

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All three parts of the July 27th Royal Commission Hearing are on Watchtower Documents Website

by AndersonsInfo in

https://www.youtube.com/channel/ucavrp6e1aymhbf7yueukkxw.

all three segments of day one are on my website and youtube channel.. .

barbara .

FreeGirl2006

Thanks!

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If you "chose" this religion, as I did, do you remember the moment you "bought" the religion?

by Muddy Waters in

if you "chose" this religion, as i did, do you remember the moment you "bought", or believed, the religion?.

for me, it was during one of my studies with a knowledgeable, lovely pioneer sister who looked like her life was so perfect and wonderful.

i was coming out of a terrible situation in my life, very vulnerable, being abandoned by a husband during my pregnancy and with other little children to look after too.

FreeGirl2006

Thanks for sharing your experience. My mom bought the cult card when I was two and it was all I knew the majority of my life. I have wondered what was going on in her head to make her buy in. She was a very bright lady, but she had just lost her husband via suicide (my dad) and grew up in poverty and abuse with no real religious affiliation or education. I think the bright shiny future they painted coupled with the promise that my dad would be resurrected made her blind to the rest of the crap. Preying on the downtrodden has proved quite successful for them

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How Far Apart Were Your Legs?

by Joe Grundy in

several threads on here about the excellent bbc r4 programme this week ('the report') focussing on rape and abuse in barry, south wales, jws.

fat pervert mark sewell later got 14 years and i hope he is enjoying every minute of it.. the courageous ladies who spoke on the programme were articulate, reasonable and made a tremendous impression.. the quote in the thread title made an impression on me, and i hope, on all listeners.. forget religious, theological, 'biblical' issues and cut to the basics.

a rape victim was asked to demonstrate - to demonstrate, ffs - to three unqualified (middle-aged at least, presumably) men just how far her legs were apart when she was raped.. i have rarely heard anything so outrageous, and i used to investigate rape and abuse in my profession.

FreeGirl2006

Rebelfighter--It was decades ago and I believe all the men are dead now. I definitely would take action if it were possible just to make sure that other victims would not have to go through that trauma.

I am a strong person and I kept asking for help. I got into therapy and I lead a lovely life now. You never forget what happened in terms of abuse, but I don't let my experiences be my master. The abuse did not and does not define me as a person. Getting out of the cult has made me very aware that my experience with the elders was not unique or isolated like I believed for so long.

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How Far Apart Were Your Legs?

by Joe Grundy in

several threads on here about the excellent bbc r4 programme this week ('the report') focussing on rape and abuse in barry, south wales, jws.

fat pervert mark sewell later got 14 years and i hope he is enjoying every minute of it.. the courageous ladies who spoke on the programme were articulate, reasonable and made a tremendous impression.. the quote in the thread title made an impression on me, and i hope, on all listeners.. forget religious, theological, 'biblical' issues and cut to the basics.

a rape victim was asked to demonstrate - to demonstrate, ffs - to three unqualified (middle-aged at least, presumably) men just how far her legs were apart when she was raped.. i have rarely heard anything so outrageous, and i used to investigate rape and abuse in my profession.

FreeGirl2006

Please do expose these men. Perhaps if they experience a fraction of the humiliation they force victims to go through, it will bring some compassion into their consciousness.

I remember as a 10 year old standing before 3 crusty men--mom not allowed to be in the room. I described in detail about being digitally penetrated and I was asked, "Are you sure he was not just showing you affection?" Really??? Really???? I shut down. Stopped talking. Went into my safe little fantasy world. I don't know how these men could sleep at night thinking they were doing the right thing. I wish mom had been there (and why wouldn't you allow a mother to be with her young child?) and had asked, "Is that how you show affection to your daughters?"

If only these jerks could be prosecuted for the way they treat abuse victims. They are almost as bad as the abusers. So yes, I vote expose them, shout it from the roof tops, because this is not an isolated incident of stupidity, it is a constant thread in the majority of abuse and rape and even plain old immorality "investigations" by the kangaroo courts sanctioned by this cult.

Even if this cult never dies, it would be gratifying to see them forced to stop perpetuating inhumane treatment upon victims.

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New BBC article on JW abuse

by snare&racket in

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is religion doing enough to root out abuse?.

he would go upstairs, on the premise that he was saying a prayer with his niece, then sexually abuse her.

mark sewell was sentenced to 14 years in prisonafterwards, the elders told her that as it was only her account against that of sewell, nothing more could be done.

FreeGirl2006

Adding to what Joe Grundy has said, these a**hats on the JCs traumatize the abuse victims further with their probing insensitive grilling. I know, as I was one of them and the questions they asked were unbelievable and not empathetic or caring in the least.

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Wonderful video resource which has to be seen in full to be appreciated.

by TerryWalstrom in

i highly recommend you watch this video.. it is superbly researched.

you know all the things in this video already--but.

watching it will create an impression on you which.

FreeGirl2006

Marking for later!

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Just Sharing a couple of experiences I heard in the last day or two about ones leaving the Borg.

by Crazyguy in

i was having breakfast with a friend and former jw just yesterday and he informed me that the place we were eating in is owned by a former witness.

the story goes as he tells me that the wife and husband or on the outs and getting a divorce.

now just so you know the state i live in, a divorce is not quick, mandatory waiting period etc.

FreeGirl2006

Even when they do show up it is rarely encouraging. My marriage was in the trash can right from the get-go so I asked for a "shepharding" call. What we got was a visit where I was told all the marital trouble was my fault because I went to work full-time (I had moved to another state when I married so I took a month off before finding a job to get settled in with first time marriage and being a full-time step mom). Now when this call came, I was the sole breadwinner for the family as the hubby had been laid off. I asked if they were going to pay the bills and support us. Guess I didn't win any friends with the eldubs that day.

Fast forward a year or two. We moved back to my state and home congregation. I asked repeatedly for a "shepherding" call. We got one about 5 years later when I told the hubby I was leaving if something didn't change in the marriage. One of the many issues was the lack of sex. Hubs brought the eldubs to the house to discuss my lack of scriptural grounds for leaving. I brought up the issue of no sex (hubs thought I would be too embarrassed to do so) and we were told that we just needed to go on a long weekend without the kids. No scriptures read, no empathy, no asking the obvious question of why he was not wanting sex (answer: he was too exhausted from his girlfriend(s) ), and I was told that it was my fault for not being a better JW. I got up from the table and said I was through with the encouragement and left the room. With love, kindness, compassion & advice like that who needs marriage counseling?

I am sure many people can thank eldubs like that for our exodus from the cult.