Well, I suck at finances, but I do appreciate the advice to not compare my situation to that of other people - especially when I don't know all the details. I do tend to do that at times and yet there are other things to consider besides money and lifestyle and such.
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Debt and the danger of comparisons
by Simon indo you ever look at other people and think "blimey, they are doing well ... new house ... new car ... why am i not getting ahead like that?".
you will probably find out that the car is hp or bought with a re-mortgage of a re-mortgage which is interest only.
no money is going to pay off capital and they don't have any savings and are not making any provision for their pension (other than imagining that the house they are *not* paying off will somehow suffice).
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So when do you put up your tree?
by restrangled ini hope you all had a great thanksgiving..... my husband was so inspired he went up to the attic and dragged down our tree the same day (the 23)... i have been decorating for 2 days serenaded by vince geraldi's charlie brown christmas music.
for some reason it feels extra special this year.
perhaps because after waffling for years with the witnesses i was finally able to let go this summer after finding this site.. so when are you putting up your christmas tree?.
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I want to put it up soon and I want a real one this year. I've celebrated the last few years, but this will be the first year celebrating without thinking that god must be pissed at me for it. This will be my first free christmas in nineteen years.
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my cat died today... i need consoling...
by theinfamousone inthis is the guy that sat on my razor blades the one time i was thinking of cutting myself... this is the guy that everytime my dad beat me, would come to my room and lay with me... this is the guy that one time jumped into the bathtub with me while i was crying after a brutal beating, the cat hated water... this is a cat that was more family to me than my own father and mother combined... this was my best friend... .
today i had to do the hardest thing i ever did, i had to choose to have him put down... and as he fought the vet, and tried to bite her, i put my hand on his head, and he stopped struggling... and as they put the last needle into his leg, he purred until he died... the vet says she has never seen that before... this was my best friend and i had to kill him... fuck, im a baby, but i miss him soooo much.
the infamous one.
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(((theinfamousone)))
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Sorry, I need to vent for a moment...
by Abandoned innormally, i don't mind where i'm at in my life.
i'm forty, no kids, low-paying job, live in a trailer court, etc (and trust me there's more to the etc, then i've already mentioned), but today i had a hard time.. one of my best friends from high school was a big dope head (no offense to the dope heads out there).
he showed up nearly every day to our first period art class smelling of weed and was generally so whacked out of his mind that he got horrible grades.. he finally graduated - barely - and made it to college.
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Thanks Jeff.
I'll make it eventually. Or I'll die trying. I sure appreciate the support though. Today was just weird because I kept running into people I knew and I felt on display and even though I know that my things don't determine my worth, I felt lower than a German Pfennig after WW1.
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Sorry, I need to vent for a moment...
by Abandoned innormally, i don't mind where i'm at in my life.
i'm forty, no kids, low-paying job, live in a trailer court, etc (and trust me there's more to the etc, then i've already mentioned), but today i had a hard time.. one of my best friends from high school was a big dope head (no offense to the dope heads out there).
he showed up nearly every day to our first period art class smelling of weed and was generally so whacked out of his mind that he got horrible grades.. he finally graduated - barely - and made it to college.
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Thanks MsMcDucket, choosing life, Soledad, and heathen, I appreciate your comments. My situation is actually worse than that, but what really burns me is that I have so much to clean up from that hateful group of hypocrites and yet they don't have any restrictions on them. If a doctor or lawyer were to demonstrate this type of behavior, they'd lose their license.
I'll be fine and I'll pull myself up. I've done it before. I'm gonna tell the whole story on my blog as I mentioned before and I'll get to where I was when I first moved to California. So, I've been down before and I'll get back up again, It just hit me really bad today and I guess I'm getting a little tired.
But, to show you that I do have some spunk, here's a song I wrote about a year and a half ago:
I've Been To The Bottom
I started out with nothing…I can’t go down from there.
I’ve made my share of mistakes…but I do not despair.
Without doubt, I’ll lose again…of this I am aware.
But as long as there’s a breath in me…I’ll live without a care.
Back when I had everything…what I feared most of all,
Was waking up and seeing…my presumed stature fall.
But when it all disappeared…I still was standing tall.
These fears were only in my head…losing, I wasn’t small.
Chorus:
I’ve been to the bottom…it didn’t drive me mad.
I’ve spent time at the top…then lost all that I had.
Losing’s an illusion…no reason to be sad.
Cuz I’ve been to the bottom…but the bottom’s not so bad.
I’ve seen people chase around…wanting to get more stuff.
Everything’s on plastic and…they still can’t get enough.
So they work an extra job…thinking that life’s too tough.
But it’s only greediness…that makes their hands so rough
Stressing over what we have…only robs us of joy.
Working just to amass wealth…can easily destroy.
So if you see your neighbor…holding his latest toy.
Just offer him your widest smile…and do not be annoyed.
Chorus:
I’ve been to the bottom…it didn’t drive me mad.
I’ve spent time at the top…then lost all that I had.
Losing’s an illusion…no reason to be sad.
Cuz I’ve been to the bottom…but the bottom’s not so bad.
Learning how to live with less…is worth the time it takes.
Never being satisfied…can lead to many aches.
But when things don’t go your way…don’t quit for goodness sakes.
Because each and every one of us…will make many mistakes.
Learning how to stand back up…and hold your head up high,
Isn’t easy, but it’s worth…the peace of mind it buys.
Don’t be tempted to sit down…and give in to the lie,
That failing once is a sign…that everything’s awry.
Chorus:
I’ve been to the bottom…it didn’t drive me mad.
I’ve spent time at the top…then lost all that I had.
Losing’s an illusion…no reason to be sad.
Cuz I’ve been to the bottom…but the bottom’s not so bad. -
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OK girls, tell me what I did wrong.
by Abandoned inhere's the situation.
there's this girl at work who i've been kidding around with for a couple months.
we laugh and joke and i thought we were pretty good friends.
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IMO she sounds a tad bit high maintenance.
Yeah, I guess I should have listened to her when she told me that she has a thing for sabotaging her relationships. It made me sad.
Oh well, it doesn't matter now.
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Take the Quiz - Which Star Trek Character Are You?
by Alleymom inmy family's been having a lot of fun with this!
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http://www.seabreezecomputers.com/startrek.
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Hey Expendable Character good job on posting the out come of the test. How do you do such things?
You have to copy the HTML code from your results and then when you post here, look down at the bottom of the edit window. You will see a Design button and an HTML one. Click on the HTMLone and paste your code into the window. You can then click on design to see if it worked.
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Take the Quiz - Which Star Trek Character Are You?
by Alleymom inmy family's been having a lot of fun with this!
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http://www.seabreezecomputers.com/startrek.
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Your results:
You are An Expendable Character (Redshirt)An Expendable Character (Redshirt) 90% Deanna Troi 85% Jean-Luc Picard 75% James T. Kirk (Captain) 70% Geordi LaForge 65% Chekov 60% Uhura 60% Data 60% Worf 55% Mr. Scott 45% Mr. Sulu 40% Will Riker 35% Spock 34% Beverly Crusher 20% Leonard McCoy (Bones) 10% Since your accomplishments are seldom noticed,
and you are rarely thought of, you are expendable.
That doesn't mean your job isn't important but if you
were in Star Trek you would be killed off in the first
episode you appeared in.Click here to take the "Which Star Trek character are you?" quiz...
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"This Generation"
by Jeffro ini know the witnesses changed their 'generation' definition in 1995 to get away from being tied down to the literal generation of people who saw 1914.. but applying their definition of the word to matthew 24:34 makes the verse meaningless, regardless of whether the original text grammatically allows for their interpretation.
there is no point in saying "this generation will by no means pass away" if 'generation' merely refers to an attitude of people which may remain the same for any ongoing period of time.. there is simply no point in saying it unless it was intended to refer specifically to a literal generation of people who were alive at the time.
of course, there is no validity to their 1914 doctrine anyway, but nevertheless, they are inextricably stuck with it..
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The whole generation change didn't hit me when I was in. Back then, I just thought it was another clever trick by jehovah to expose the fake brothers in the congregation. After reading a good deal of CoC though, the whole thing makes so much more sense. Every date they ever used, they relegated to a lower and lower position over time until they could get rid of it altogether. 1874, 1878, 1881, 1999, 1914, 1918.
For example, first the end of all governments were "cleary" going to come in 1914. That came and went so russel said that since it took three years for jerusalem to fall, it wouldn't be until 1918, but that the governements would definitely fall that year. That didn't happen so 1918 became the time of cleansing. Soon, 1918 will not have any significance.
These guys are beyond heinous.
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Sorry, I need to vent for a moment...
by Abandoned innormally, i don't mind where i'm at in my life.
i'm forty, no kids, low-paying job, live in a trailer court, etc (and trust me there's more to the etc, then i've already mentioned), but today i had a hard time.. one of my best friends from high school was a big dope head (no offense to the dope heads out there).
he showed up nearly every day to our first period art class smelling of weed and was generally so whacked out of his mind that he got horrible grades.. he finally graduated - barely - and made it to college.
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Thanks for the encouragement reneeisorym, smiley, clipse, and freechick.. I'll be fine. I just hate it when someone pity's me and I hate what I gave up to follow those hypocrites. Well, I may not be much but I'm going to do everything I can to help people see the truth about those people and that's going to start here, in my home town. I'm not a morning person but I think I may need to do some investigating on how they preach around here....
