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jamiebowers
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My story...
by Silent_Scream init seems i pooped up out of nowhere.
i been following this site for a while.
couldn't resist it anymore..... was pretty much raised a jw.
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Are we all still FAMILY? Yes or No?
by Greybeard inhere is why, even though i no longer agree with most of what the gb/wt/jw's teach, i still feel especially close to all of us who were apart of this group.
born in or converted.
we all have had the same life experience of being raised in a over bearing mind controlling cult.
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jamiebowers
Yes, I do view the ex-jw as part of my family. And there are a few who are as close to being my kids as if I'd given birth to them.
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What Do You Say or Is It Better to Saying Nothing?
by Eiben Scrood ini miss some of my old watchtower friendships.
usually i can just put the people out of my mind but when a big event comes up like me expecting my first child, i did reach out a bit.
this one friend in particular was kind of like an older brother to me.
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jamiebowers
If your "friend" gives your response to the elders and you're going to be df'd anyway, make sure to tell him that the "imperfections" with the Watchtower aren't small or easily overlooked. The worst one that comes to my mind is the well documented child molestation problem, the cover-ups of it and the resulting fallout for the victims.
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Its going to be OK...
by lrkr incheck out this book.
its by a former witness couple- its not about the witnesses- but it uses the lessons they learned and applies them to the rest of life.
im still reading it- but so far- its great.
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beards - the truth on the matter?
by ekruks inyour thoughts on the real reasons behind the stigma of beards..........................
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jamiebowers
Maybe we should shave our heads too so there will be no arguments about how long hair can be....
The elders jumped in my brother's shit about his shaved head...told him it looked too "military like". When he asked why nothing was said to black brothers about the subject, the elders said that it was different with them and offered no other explaination.
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Is disfellowshipped Fiance considered "family"
by rrb2016 ini was born and raised a jw and left the "truth" as soon as i was 18 - but never baptized.
my mother and i have agreed to disagree and have a decent relationship (she is still jw).
whenever i see any people from her congregation they are nice to me and speak to me, and are aware i am not a witness.
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jamiebowers
If she gets reinstated, she'll be reinforcing the rightness of the organization in her son's mind. And if she fades after being reinstated, she'll get no help from the elders with her ex trying to keep her son away from her. And your mom very well may be "encouraged" to shun her as well. So how about this?
How about relying on the law, the only thing that is real in this situation? She can go back to court and request custody or visitation rights to be upheld. In the meantime, you can make it clear to your mother that you and your future wife come as a package deal. If she doesn't like it, she can rely on that elder for more than gardening during her golden years. He can be there for her when she's sick or otherwise unable to take care of herself.
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Hello!
by N.drew ini would like to introduce myself belatedly please.
i am a middle aged married female.
i am an inactive jehovah's witness.
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jamiebowers
Welcome!
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So why
by bushido8000 init has become very apparent to me very quickly that this forum is dominated by ex-jws.
i have many questions and topics to present but i first want to know who i am presenting these questions and topics to so i have 2 questions that i would like as many of yall to answer as possible.. .
question 1: did you leave the organization out of the blue or were you first disfellowshipped?.
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jamiebowers
Was an abused jw wife...yada, yada, yada, made what was probably a false confession of adultery to my jw mom to rid myself of mentally deranged jw husband, (can't remember details as it was a very stressful time for me, and it was more than 20 years ago.)
It doesn't really matter why someone left, because family shunning family isn't scriptual...period. No wonder so many ex-jws have an ax to grind with those vipers in Brooklyn.
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Nirvana and Green Day help me get through the little time I have left of having to act like a JW...
by Chemical Emotions ini know it sounds strange, but music not only helped me to realize that the jw world is fugging fugged up, but it helps keep me motivated to fight all urges to "give in" and follow the wts just becuase it's all i've know.
i'm musically talentless but these two bands (and a few others, like death cab) have helped me through some rough stuff.. books- from young adult author john green to kafka to katherine patterson- have helped tremendously also.. my boyfriend has helped most of all.. but i was wondering: what things help those of you still in the org, besides family and friends and other relationships (if those helped at all)?.
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jamiebowers
I love the song, "21 Guns"! Good luck on a hasty exit.
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Going back to the hall for the first time in four months
by lohengren infour months ago i left home after arguing with my pops.
haven't been to a meeting since, nor have i talked to my father.
tomorrow i'm gonna go see my 8 year old brother give his first talk.
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jamiebowers
I feel so badly for you and your brother...any poor kid caught up in the Watchtower. Good luck!