willyloman..
Your fade had a lot in common with my fade. I have had doubts going back pre-1995 Generation change. Had ups and downs, eventually appointed as an elder... went to MTS.... knew it was a bunch of BS about halfway through that class...stuck it out for another 4 years. One particular local elder in the congo (not where I had been assigned but where I moved after leaving the assignment) hated me for years ...opposed my initial recommendation, delayed my reappointment for 10 months.... tried unsuccessfully to delay it again....4 years later he finally "proved" I was "unreasonable" (aka, I didnt do what he said...he runs the show even though his son is the PO). At first I gave a verbal resignation but then changed my mind and decided to make them look like fools in front of the CO and forced them to remove me. This accomplished two things. 1) Got me off the elder treadmill and 2) kept the next congo from being able to look at me as an elder for 3 years, and even then I would have to be an MS first. They knew me and wanted me to be an elder in their congo....their interest in me fizzled like a wet firecracker once they got the letter saying I had been removed not resigned.
What did I do? As soon as I was told in the meeting with the CO that I was no longer an elder, the plan unfolded...
1. The Sunday of the CO visit was my last meeting with my old congregation.
2. I had my publisher card sent to a nearby congo....but in another state and another circuit.
3. I didnt show up for about a month. A friend of mine that was an elder called me and I started attending Sunday and Thursday for about a month.
4. Skipped all booked studies and field service (easy since no one knew where they wanted to assign me...large congregation) but turned in phantom time for the first 8 months I was at the new place..just enough to call it "informal witnessing" without raising red flags..started decreasing the quantity each month...stopped reporting before the new service year so as to not generate a new Publisher Card for the file.
5. Purposely chose a large (over 150 publisher) congregation so I could get lost easier (even though I was a white in a majority black congo).
6. Started missing more and more Thursdays. Started leaving after the Public Talk on Sunday...then started missing Sunday. (made easier when the congo had to meet in another KH for about 6 weeks during a remodel...I didn't go at all then...no one missed me.)
7. Went to one last meeting in Sept 2007 (to see how the remodel went)....left after the Talk and decided as I walked out to my car that I had attended my last meeting at a Kingdom Hall of Jehovah's Witnesses. I have not been back since...not even for a Memorial.
My fade worked because I not only changed congos, but changed circuits. Thankfully none of my previous CO's were moved to the other circuit as had happened in the past. I live in one territory that I havent attended since 1991. My card is at another. I got a couple of calls but then nothing. Now I only have to worry about an occasional call from former friends who are elders in my town. This year will probably be the defining moment. Miss one Memorial, might be a phase... miss two in a row...must be apostate...lol. I think purps hit it on the head... moving away from this region will work wonders....
Snakes ()