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Last of the JW literature on the burn pile :)

by SnakesInTheTower in

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i have posted a couple of threads in the last year getting rid of my old wt literatrash.

the first purge emptied an entire bookcase and part of another.

i put the remaining books into a big rubbermaid container and stored it.

SnakesInTheTower

chickpea:

there is a spiral bound isaiah book with notes

yep..both of those.....and a "daniel" book..and something else...all in the pile

you can almost use the book layers like an archeological dig ....to determine the beginning of the end, in terms of our drifting TM ...
dog-eared books heavily studied to convention releases never opened

hadn't thought of it that way, but absolutely. I found probably 2 reams of copies of convention notes I or my mom had typed, tons of transcripts of various CO talks my mom had transcribed (part of her way of "studying")...all of that went into the burn pile. I went through tons of pics of a bethel trip I organized back in 1991.... and tossed out all of the pics and negatives, with the exception of pics that were of my mom and I and pics that were non-WT properties... (ie, World Trade Center, Toronto, Niagra, etc.)....

When I was done going through most of my storage bins, I had rid myself of 4 bins down to 1/4 of a single bin. The rest of it is on the pile and I will burn it later when it is a bit cooler outside....maybe we will have a wiener roast....LOL.

snowbird....I know you was messin' with me....The "secular" reference was both "tongue-in-cheek" and to distinguish from WT literatrash. We wouldn't call it anything other than just a Bible reference book otherwise. All of my WT "reference" books (aka brainwash materials; i.e. Insight, Concordance, etc.) are now gone.

heaven:

Fire is very cleansing.

I love fire, maybe a bit too much.... lol.

WTWizard... I couldn't believe it but I found a whole bunch of duplicate Kingdumb Miseries in all of that crap I threw out.... it is so brittle it should burn nicely....

and just further comment on what snowbird and chickpea said...my life is taking a good turn.....the process of them moving in combined with work pressures on both of us is taking a huge toll on our sleep right now...which in turn is causing minor health issues for each of us...all stress/sleep deprivation related.... we get past this month, get them completely moved out of their old place, get all of my projects around the house finished, and we hope it will calm down.... we took this moving in step pretty damn fast.... but it is not a road we want to, or even could, go back around. Kinda like ripping a bandaid off....short term discomfort to get to the more relaxed times.

Snakes (Rich )

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Last of the JW literature on the burn pile :)

by SnakesInTheTower in

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i have posted a couple of threads in the last year getting rid of my old wt literatrash.

the first purge emptied an entire bookcase and part of another.

i put the remaining books into a big rubbermaid container and stored it.

SnakesInTheTower

I have posted a couple of threads in the last year getting rid of my old WT literatrash. The first purge emptied an entire bookcase and part of another. I put the remaining books into a big Rubbermaid container and stored it. Now that my fiancee and her son are in the process of moving in, I need the space. So, after pulling out a couple of books for someone who made one last request (bennyk, you have a PM), I took them out to the back yard and added the books to the brush pile....

It felt especially good to rip the covers off of the old Revelation Climax book (oddly, the paperbacks don't have that satisfying riiiiipppp that the hardcovers have.) As I was ripping that particular book apart, I was saddened and angered at all of the detailed notes, scriptures, etc that represented literally hundreds of hours of "personal study™" as I prepared for the Congregation Book Study, both as an MS and as an Elder and CBSO.

It was also quite cathartic. I cannot wait to get out to the backyard, maybe even today, and burn that crap into unreadable ashes. Normally, I would have ripped the covers off and recycled the paper. In this case, I want that stuff g o n e.

So, except for a few bibles (and even that NWT might hit the pile), and a couple of secular reference books (Strong's, Vine's) which I will be sending to my non-JW brother who suddenly has an interest in spirituality and is studying the bible with....Baptists.....LOL. More power to him. I am done.

Maybe I will bring the video camera out to the yard and record it for posterity..post it on YouTube for $hit$ and grin$. I was thinking of a couple of soundtracks for it... (burn baby burn; chestnuts yearbooks over an open fire, etc)....

Snakes (Rich )

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FlyingHighNow Needs Our Love & Support

by snowbird in

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her son, jesse, is in serious condition.. my son is in surgery and may lose his hand and arm.. jesse got an infection in a cut on his finger.

his finger and hand swelled to the size of an arm .. .

they have to do surgery on his hand and arm.

SnakesInTheTower

(((FHN and son)))

Snakes (Rich )

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OMG I just joined Facebook.

by AK - Jeff in

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i kept getting invited, but have no idea what to do over there.. another barrier broken.. jeff.

SnakesInTheTower

I have a farm on Farm Town (the less fancy, earlier game)...but only have trees and plowed fields...no time to mess with it now.

I was able to connect with a good (nonJW) friend from HS from 25 years ago through Facebook...we were on the same network. Since he missed our 25 year reunion last month, it was great to have FB to reconnect.

But yes, it can be time consuming...and I have my security settings to allow only "friends" and "Friends of friends" (meaning, if you have one of the JWDers on your list that is also on my list, you can click through to my page)...or only those I invite specifically....

I don't spend much time updating FB....but it is there..

Snakes (Rich )

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can you really ever fade with immediate family still in?

by oompa in

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i am beginning to think not....elders still want to call on me rather than befriend me in any way.....and with a "good" wife and son and parents in, it seems like i still have one foot in only because of the overlap with my other "free" self........it is hard to really feel free in this situation, and is still have desire to just run the fluck away.....which would mean pretty much giving up my family in nearly every respect.

some here really miss their family and wife, others so love the freedom they seem able to move on and start fresh....as you know, i dont seem to have the balls for that, and at this point in my life the price seems to high to fully start over........it is the "one in one out limbo dance"......oompa.

SnakesInTheTower

oompa...

good morning to you

We often make sacrifices for the ones we love. I didn't used to truly understand that until now. As a single guy, I had the freedom to do what I wanted, when I wanted, without worrying about a wife or kid. My only limitations on my time, once I left the Borg, were related to work and getting things I had to get done, done (ie, housework, yardwork, etc.). Now, I have a fiancee and soon to be step-son living in my our house. Since my fiancee has to be at work earlier than me, I take her son to school most mornings........otherwise he has to get up with her an hour or 2 earlier and go to grandparents' and catch the bus. Why put him (or his g'parents) through that? He gets to sleep in until 7 (instead of 530), hangs out with me for 40 minutes, watches a little TV, helps me with a couple little chores, and off he goes to school. Now I am up and ready to get chores around the house done (which is a lot with all the moving and rearranging). Meaning I have to get up earlier...I get up and have coffee with her....then have an hour of quiet time...then get her son up for school.....Yep, I am not used to being up early, I am a night owl. But the sacrifice is worth it to me.

Oompa, my point in telling that little story is that you are making sacrifices....sacrificing some of your freedom (to do anything you want) to keep your wife and son and parents in your life. If you love them and want to keep them around, it may be the necessary evil not telling WTBTS to fluck off. If you walked away from WTBTS completely, you know you risk losing them to the cult.

What a $hitty choice to be forced to make. I feel for you. Hang in there. Maybe your loved ones willl wake up. When (hopefully not if) they do, they will truly appreciate the sacrifices you made for them.

Snakes (Rich )

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Tonight I hid in the pet food section at the grocery store

by JerkhovahsWitless in

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i went to the grocery store tonight to get some supplies for the small party (with a few jw friends) i'm having this weekend.

while trying to find the aisle with the canned vegetables, i spot them, at the back of the store in dairy... the ancient and insane jw husband and wife duo that goes to my congregation.

it was minutes until 9pm, what were they still doing awake, and out shopping at that?

SnakesInTheTower

the long rows in grocery stores are called "aisle." "Isles" are small islands in the ocean. Sorry, drives me nuts. LOL

to your story...while humorous, it is sad. believe me, I have done the "looking over the shoulder" thing. I have even avoided JWs to avoid a conversation...but never to that extent. Reading your snippet reminds me of a marionette...being tugged on by hidden strings.

even now, I have to watch that I am not being tugged in different ways. Believe me, when I do, my fiancee is there to remind me to stop and enjoy life and not worry about the buggers.

Snakes (Rich )

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Poll: Who Left Whilst Still Believing?

by brinjen in

this is for an upcoming youtube project.

i would love to do this on a mass scale... think there might be something "big" in the results.. 1. were you a born-in (including those who's parents converted while they were still children) or did you convert as an adult?.

2. when you left, did you still (a) fully believe in the truthtm, (b) partially believe or (c) realise it was all a load of crap?.

SnakesInTheTower

1. Were you a born-in (including those who's parents converted while they were still children) or did you convert as an adult?

Mom baptized when I was around 4. I, too, remember seeing pics of a single x-mas and/or birthday. (I am sooooo looking forward to celebrating it this year). Foolishly, I was dunked at 16.

2. When you left, did you still (a) fully believe in the truth TM , (b) partially believe or (c) realise it was all a load of crap?

(c) I knew it was BS....and had inklings that it was BS prior to the 1995 Generation™ change due to my outside research on Bible chronology..... when I left I didn't know if there was supposed to be anything else. Probably why I stayed another 10+ years...on the Theocratic Treadmill.....

3. Now, do you still (a) fully believe in the truth TM , (b) partially believe or (c) realise it is all a load of crap?

(c) Still know that the WTBTS/JW/GB is/are full of crap.

4. When you left, how afraid where you of armageddon TM ?

Armageddon™ I do not think had any real effect on me, either when I was in or out. I think I always knew that the Big A story had holes. However, I was saddened that I would not see my dad in a fantasy Resurrection™ in a Paradise Earth™. I had to regrieve all over again.

5. Do you class yourself now as (a) christian (b) agnostic (c) atheist or (d) other (please state).

(d) completely uninterested in religion. figure there is some sort of Intelligent Designer out there...or its kid is running amok in the universe making science projects and getting bored with us. try to respect the planet and leave it as I found it when I got here.

SnakesInTheTower (aka Rich, of the "finally free of the cult" Sheep Class)

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Give Your Advice To Anyone Planning To Fade

by minimus in

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list some thoughts and suggestions for anyone thinking about fading from the organization..

SnakesInTheTower

I wrote this synopsis about my fade on Cognac's thread about switching halls before I seen this thread..

when I switched KHs to start my fade, I changed congos, circuits, and states. All while living right where I am still at now. I drove to this new KH about 15 miles away. Once the BOE in the new congo got the letter from my old congo BOE stating I had been deleted (rather than resigned for personal reasons as they originally had wanted) as an elder, the elders lost interest in me rather quickly. See, I was no good to them for 3 years..and then only as an MS for a brief time... they needed elders now....

I was never assigned to a book study group, it was difficult to get Kingdumb Miseries, I never signed up for the Theocratic Misery School...basically, I was a white guy (one of less than a dozen whites) in a black congo...and it was a large congo (over 140 regular publishers)...so I got lost in the shuffle very quickly..... never attended book study....never went in service there..... turned in phantom time for 8 months....quit going to the Thur night meeting...then started either missing Sunday or leaving after the talk. Then the DC came (I didn't go), and then the KH went through a 6 week remodel (gut job)...I never attended the alternative location....came back for one last meeting when they returned...knowing that was my last meeting.

Key to my fade was getting out of the social circle I was in. My fade will bust wide open this weekend.... my fiancee and her son begin moving in tomorrow. 2 years fade.... I accomplished what I needed.

Because I was so high profile locally (elder, pioneer, MTS grad), it was more difficult to drop from the radar in the congo I was in for the previous 4 years. I plotted very carefully how I faded. Thus the switch. Had I stayed in that first congo, I guarantee the elder who worked his ass off for 4+ years to get me deleted would have worked harder to get me DF.

I have thought about DA'ing...but that is subscribing to their game...a game I no longer participate in. When I tell my full story on this board, it will be with my full name and location.... it is taking a while to get it just right. Meanwhile, I have a great new life with a great fiancee and a great soon to be stepson.

My way of fading worked for me, but it may not work for you. (*)

SnakesInOutOfTheTower (Rich, of the "no longer lurking in the shadows of the Tower™" Sheep Class)

(*) Read directions carefully before fading. Results may vary. Do not take with alcohol. Taking alcohol during a fade may lead to fun times. Hell, why not take alcohol, screw it. Fading may cause sleeplessness, sleepiness, diarreah, constipation, upset stomach, shortness of breath, restless leg syndrome, heart palpitations, elder visits, shakes, rattles, rolls, ulcers, judicial committees, PMS, incontinence, impotence, ED, seizures, hair loss, hair growth, nose hair growth, nosy witness syndrome, and other unexplainable symptoms requiring a sudden end to the fade. May also lead to freedom to think, celebration of really cool pagan holidays, regaining lost "worldly" friends and family, ability to pursue higher education leading to college degrees leading to good paying jobs, promotions at work, social status, real retirement plans, finding someone that loves you for you not because you are tied to congregation status and other benefits.

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We are switching halls...

by cognac in

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i think that means that we are going to go to even less meetings and just generally have less to do with the jws because the hall we are at now is where all his friends are... unless somebody tries to take him under his wing and screws everything up.... btw, this was his idea.

thoughts?.

SnakesInTheTower

cognac...switching KHs is a good idea. being involved as little as possible (without completely dropping out of sight) is a balancing act.

when I switched KHs to start my fade, I changed congos, circuits, and states. All while living right where I am still at now. I drove to this new KH about 15 miles away. Once the BOE in the new congo got the letter from my old congo BOE stating I had been deleted (rather than resigned for personal reasons as they originally had wanted) as an elder, the elders lost interest in me rather quickly. See, I was no good to them for 3 years..and then only as an MS for a brief time... they needed elders now....

I was never assigned to a book study group, it was difficult to get Kingdumb Miseries, I never signed up for the Theocratic Misery School...basically, I was a white guy (one of less than a dozen whites) in a black congo...and it was a large congo (over 140 regular publishers)...so I got lost in the shuffle very quickly..... never attended book study....never went in service there..... turned in phantom time for 8 months....quit going to the Thur night meeting...then started either missing Sunday or leaving after the talk. Then the DC came (I didn't go), and then the KH went through a 6 week remodel (gut job)...I never attended the alternative location....came back for one last meeting when they returned...knowing that was my last meeting.

Key to my fade was getting out of the social circle I was in. My fade will bust wide open this weekend.... my fiancee and her son begin moving in tomorrow. 2 years fade.... I accomplished what I needed.

I wish you and hubby well in your fade

Snakes (Rich, of the "no longer lurking in the shadows" Sheep Class)

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Why is it that JWs can toss around insults like "Worldly" when talking about non-JWs? (Fiancee got offended).

by SnakesInTheTower in

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so yesterday i get this telephone call from a jw sister.

let's call her sister naive.

i knew sister naive when she was a teenager, knew her ex-husband when he and i were growing up in the congo.

SnakesInTheTower

purps:

Hit IGNORE!

scully:

Why not just subscribe to Call Control or Call Block and put her number in?

on both counts, if I would have recognized her cell number, I wouldhave hit IGNORE (which I have on my cell)...since actually ignoring her voice mail did not work. sigh.....

Because I have customers for my job calling me and I often get phone numbers I do not recognize, I do not have the luxury of ignoring all the calls, especially on days I work. I thought about programming Sister Naive's name/number in my cell directory so it would pop her name instead of just a number, but I cleared out almost all of the JW phone numbers from my directory.

Instead, I think I shall finish growing myself a spine and express it more succinctly if she calls back: "On the last phone call, you called my fiancee 'worldly'...that is offensive....do not call here again." ...and hang up. How's that?

Snakes (Rich )