jgnat: She is not delaying baptism, she was baptized 5-6 years ago (if it was by parental force or by choice i do not know) and I told her on repeated occasions that if us going out would in anyway interfere with her religious affiliations i would understand her wanting to end the relationship in its early stages. So far it has been almost 2 months and things have been great. We both acknowledged the fact that the relationship should not be but both do not want to end it. WE even poke fun at that fact every now and then, but it seems to not be affecting the relationship status all that much. I've remained supportive of her decisions within the JW faith, even helping her arrange a few skits she had to perform for her congregation. It seems that the previous issue has become a non-issue overtime.. but i presume that only time will tell?
Kabukiman
JoinedPosts by Kabukiman
-
115
Dating a JW info
by Lady Lee inother than telling a person to run:what do you think a person (who knows nothing about the jws) needs to know if they are getting involved with a jw.what would be helpful to them to end things before they get further involved?what will help them if they decide to go further and marry this jw?what challenges would a non-jw woman have if she gets involved with the jw man?what about having children and the struggles that will develop from that?.
if you think of anything else that would be halpful please add it to the thread.
i would like to have a lot of this info in one thread besides some of the great "dating a jw" threads we already have in the best of section.
-
-
-
115
Dating a JW info
by Lady Lee inother than telling a person to run:what do you think a person (who knows nothing about the jws) needs to know if they are getting involved with a jw.what would be helpful to them to end things before they get further involved?what will help them if they decide to go further and marry this jw?what challenges would a non-jw woman have if she gets involved with the jw man?what about having children and the struggles that will develop from that?.
if you think of anything else that would be halpful please add it to the thread.
i would like to have a lot of this info in one thread besides some of the great "dating a jw" threads we already have in the best of section.
-
-
Kabukiman
hi everyone this is my first post and i was just searching the internet looking for some advice about dating a JW when i stumbled upon this site.. i guess i should give a bit of my back story first
well about 5-6 months ago i began talking to this girl thats the same age as i am (a few months older, no biggie) and who i had known for 2 years but hadn't really talked to her all that much up until this point cause well i began to see her more and more because of school and other activities. anyways after about 3 and a half months we had become the best of friends, telling each other everything about anything. along the way i had discovered that she was a JW. now before i continue let me go into a little bit of another relating story.
i am agnostic but i am very religiously tolerant, especially of JWs. my best friend for about 5 years now is a JW (she is currently studying but is not planning on being baptized, mainly in it because of her parents) and so is most of her family (including her two older siblings who i am also good friends with) with which i am acquainted and also good friends are also practicing JWs. i have been over while they were having study and i have also attended Kingdom Hall with them, so i am no stranger to the religion.
anyway, back to my dilemma. so we had become great friends over the course of time and soon enough there began a mutual flirtation in the air between the two of us. so about a month after i was plotting when i should ask her out when to my surprise before i could do anything she asked me out and i was not hesitant to say yes. so we have been going out for awhile now and she has been reluctant to tell her mother about me for fear of being censored from her congregation for dating an agnostic person. the repeated thought of lying to her mother and going to Kingdom Hall as if she is innocent has been bothering her, but she insist that it is not my fault and that she wants to be with me (but her not telling her mother, (knowing her mother will have no choice but to reveal this information to the elders of her congregation)for fear of being censored or facing some other sort of disciplinary action has her feeling somewhat doubtful of the relationship). i know that she is very fond of her faith and her having this feeling of guilt also makes me feel somewhat bad for getting her involved in any of this, as being a very good friend of her i just want the best for her and want her to be happy. besides the issue of her religious guilt poking at her conscious everything else has been great between us with the exception of not getting to see her as much as i wish due to her parents being very strict about who she hangs around with (could be because of the JW background of just very over protective parenting.. possibly a combination of both) but all else has been smooth sailing
i was just wondering if anyone had any advice for me cause i still tend to feel bad about her feeling guilty and i certainly don't want her to be censored or anything of that sort as i am very understanding of her religious practices and wouldn't want her to be penalized because of me. what am i to do!?
any advice is greatly appreciated =D (if you need anything else clarified to help out lemme know ill willingly oblige)