sparkplug, the way it happened, my wife's father called this morning telling her i was on this site. he asked if she knew that. she responded, not only did she know, but, she was also a part of it. he has temper issues, but, she was surprised that he actually stayed calm. she said, well, now you know, how did he find out? he said her sister, becky, googled my name, and it directed her here. i didn't give that much thought, but, after talking to people on here, i decided to try it myself. it did not direct me here no matter what i tried. so, now i am thinking she's lurking because, i really don't even know her that good, and the only people we know in common are her family. so, somebodies lying somewhere.
as for those of you who think i may be "fishing" to out people, let me assure you, my motive is the excact opposite. i realise how troublesome it can be for someone if they were found out. i am happy with my beliefs, and respect others beliefs. i only wanted to raise awareness if in fact is was possible to be found out. i don't think it is, but, if you have something to lose, make sure you protect yourself.