okay...so many of you know that i have two stepdaughters....great kids, 7 and 9. currently they are living with us.
now, when they, or one of them is with their mom, it is like pulling teeth to get her to answer the phone or call back when we leave a message to talk to the girls.
there was one period of time that my husband went almost 10 months without getting to talk to his oldest daughter when she was with her mom.
it definately can be a helpful tool.
Actually, I think I may tell them to bring it with them when we go to the Ren fest this weekend, in case we get seperated by mistake.
I guess I really should be grateful that their mom at least wants to be in contact with them. I guess I just don't agree with how she goes about it.
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http://www.hiphopave.net/web/kittenc.swf
okay, it is a little mean to the kitty...but it is soooo much fun..
I wonder if they could change the kitty into a crawdad in honor of the upcoming mudbug apostafest coming up.
Of course, it wouldn't make the funny kitty in distress sounds.
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http://www.hiphopave.net/web/kittenc.swf
okay, it is a little mean to the kitty...but it is soooo much fun..
It is very addictive...have to play it with the sound on of course. The highest I got was about 1200. Hubby did 1758....he plays at work...don't know HOW he can get anyhthing done hahah
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http://www.hiphopave.net/web/kittenc.swf
okay, it is a little mean to the kitty...but it is soooo much fun..
http://www.hiphopave.net/web/kittenc.swf
Okay, it is a little mean to the kitty...but it is soooo much fun.
okay...so many of you know that i have two stepdaughters....great kids, 7 and 9. currently they are living with us.
now, when they, or one of them is with their mom, it is like pulling teeth to get her to answer the phone or call back when we leave a message to talk to the girls.
there was one period of time that my husband went almost 10 months without getting to talk to his oldest daughter when she was with her mom.
Abaddon that is funny.
Crumpet...others with kids with cell phones: It isn't really the cell phone itself that really irritates me so much..it is her insistance that THEY have to be responsible to call her, and that she wanted them to take it to school. From what the 7 year old told me, she was adamant that we don't have the right to tell them they cannot take it to school. WTF? If she is going to send it to MY house, she really doesn't have the right to make the rules on it. K...call me a control freak.
I have let my son take one of our cells with him before. Last summer when he visited relatives out of state I sent one with him. But, he was roaming the neighborhood with old friends, and it made it easier for me and his grand mother to check up on him. (by the way, he lost it a few months later...oh well!)
When they come home from school I ask them to wait an hour to call their mom, until my son gets home. There are a few reasons for this: firstly, I noticed that she is never availalbe when they call right after school; second, I get a lot of business calls, and am trying to keep my youngest two quiet for that. I want to make sure that they can talk to their mom with out a lot of background noise. (why worry about this? well, their mom gets really pissed if the little two annoy them on the phone. Somewhat understandabel). My son can help me run interference whe he is home. (Also, they fight big time over whose turn it is to call and leave a message...god...they are just little kids after all)
We are taking all the kids to a Ren fest this Sunday. We specifically planned it this Sunday because she doesn't have the kids, I wanted to make sure we planned it when it wouldn't interfere with her time with them. So the girls tell her all about...which is fine...I would expect and want them to keep her up on what we all do together. I would have told her myself if she would bother returning my calls or talk to me on the phone. But now she tells them that she will go with us. Wow, that REALLY pissed me off. I asked to talk to their mom when they were done...(I wanted to get her email to send her some recent pictures of the girls)...but she only talks to me when she calls to have me or the hubby drive them to meet her for their bi weekly pick up. ARGHH!!! I told the kids that either me or dad would talk to her about it. I told him behind closed doors...no way jose...we have been planning this for several weeks. I hate to sound selfish..and maybe I am ...but she gets them for all the real quality holidays, she refuses to even try to adjust her schedule to spend more time with them. This is a special time to spend altogether. If she comes, she and her fiance (who is a very nice guy by the way) will just take off with them and we won't see them all day. I know this because we have tried to do stuff together in the past and that is what they have done.
My husband was like, oh okay if she wants to come. I was like no FRIGGING WAY!! She can take them another time. Hey...I will make sure they bring their phone with them so that they can talk to her.
Maybe I am being a bitch, but I have to tell you, after having to do 99% of the hard part with the girls (we had the younger one more years than her mom ever has...because she couldn't deal with her difficult toddler years; I am the one that makes all the unpleasant stuff...like dentist visits...etc.) I think maybe I have a right to be a little bitchy about it sometimes. I know if she shows up, I will have to put on the good step mommy face and airs, I don't want to ruin the trip for the kids after all...but man...sheesh it really isn't fair sometimes, you know? I moved 2200 miles to make sure we could be close to their mom so that she and us could see them more.
okay...so many of you know that i have two stepdaughters....great kids, 7 and 9. currently they are living with us.
now, when they, or one of them is with their mom, it is like pulling teeth to get her to answer the phone or call back when we leave a message to talk to the girls.
there was one period of time that my husband went almost 10 months without getting to talk to his oldest daughter when she was with her mom.
i might add she was also perturbed that we wouldn't set up Yahoo or MSN or AOL or any other instant messenging program on the kids computer. She wanted to do most of her communication with them that way at first, and we said...NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.
does anyone hate their job but feel like they would be throwing away a good thing if they quit?
i'm working at my 3rd state agency in 4 years and have been unhappy at every one of them--usually because i don't have enough work to do and feel like a hamster on a wheel waiting for the paycheck, and i'm so bored!.
i'm scared to quit the state job because i have a large family, and this affords me great medical benefits and retirement benefits.. any advice?
Dan-O I feel your pain. My boss can be a real bitch hahah.
okay...so many of you know that i have two stepdaughters....great kids, 7 and 9. currently they are living with us.
now, when they, or one of them is with their mom, it is like pulling teeth to get her to answer the phone or call back when we leave a message to talk to the girls.
there was one period of time that my husband went almost 10 months without getting to talk to his oldest daughter when she was with her mom.
yes, I have to admit that is what bothers me the most. I don't even let my son have a phone line in his room...and he is 14.
I also told them they are not allowed to use the phone unless they tell me or their dad they want to make a call first. That way they won't be calling right as they are getting in bed (too delay going to bed...they have already tried that hahah.. I told them if they want to call to say good night they need to do it 20 minutes before the little one goes to bed so they both get a little time to say goodnight) I know she will flip when she hears THAT...but it is our house OUR rules. I told them that way I can make sure that they are keeping track of the phone and charging it...all excuses of course. They can call their mom anytime..and I don't ease drop when they don't but I do want to know when they call anyone. I feel that is part of my job of keeping an eye on them. (and probably the little control freak in my, I admit)
I am asked my husband why she is so hell bent on making they call only when THEY think of it. He answered because she really is only 13 herself hahah. Unfortunately, she tries to be more like a big sister than a mom most of the time. Almost every time they come back for a visit, the 7 year old is grouchy for two days...partly because she won't meet us to pick them up until 9 or 10 at night WAY past their bedtimes.
by the way, mamo...ANY advice you have for dealing with the mom or being a stepmom is appreciated...I have been their step mom for 6 years, but we have only lived close to their mom for about 6 months, so things are a bit different now,
hi guys, i hope i'm not intruding too heavily on your private space.
my name is andrew, and i'm a doctoral student of psychology based at swinburne university of technology, in melbourne, australia.
if the moderator deems it appropriate, i would like to post a synopsis of my research area here, along with a link to my online survey for people who might be interested.
woooo! that's another 30 minutes of my life I will never get back!!
just kidding...that was an interesting survey...made me think quite a bit. You need to add some catchy thing at the end that summarizes the person's answers..you know, like Cosmo and iVillage and all those silly peeps do.
(yeah...I know this is serious research...but it wouldn't hurt hahah)
good luck to you!
okay...so many of you know that i have two stepdaughters....great kids, 7 and 9. currently they are living with us.
now, when they, or one of them is with their mom, it is like pulling teeth to get her to answer the phone or call back when we leave a message to talk to the girls.
there was one period of time that my husband went almost 10 months without getting to talk to his oldest daughter when she was with her mom.
bebu that is a good idea...they have lost several watches though hahah...but what I could do is set the alarm on my cell phone for a few times a week to remind them. I usually have that with me all the time, since I use it for time instead of a watch.
or maybe I should just have them call her every morning before they go to school. I know she is home...and I know she is sleeping. MUAHAHAH
naw...that would be wrong.
