I've been out of the JW's for 16 years, but I remember an experience I saw that made me so angry around 1995 at a kingdom hall. A young teenager had been announced over the platform as being DFed and a friend of this teenager- an elder and his wife's teenage daughter started crying over her teenage friend being DFed.
Right after the meeting this elders wife, the girls mother berated her daughter for crying over her friend getting DFed ! She started scolding her, " We're not supposed to cry or feel sorry for those who are disfellowshipped ! They deserve what they are getting ! "
I was so pissed off observing this from a couple rows of seats away. Made my blood boil. I'm so glad I'm out of this unfeeling, uncaring cult. Peace out, Mr. Flipper