I was out, a fader , for about twenty years when on a whim I decided to disassociate myself from the religion.
I had no family left in except for a niece and I got it in my head that I would disfellowship the organization ,what did I have to lose .
Nothing
I only had contact with a couple of other faders and nothing has changed and my niece only ever contacted us if she thought she could encourage us back into the religion with statements like " the bros,are really concerned about those that have left the truth " (nobody ever tried to get us back in ) and "their is so much love shown in the congregations now" and crap like that.
It made me feel better that I could ex-communicate them.