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  managing a mixed marriage - is it possible?

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  i think one of the major obstacles i see in remaining in my marriage is how to manage the fact that my wife is "in" and i'm not.

  i am a fader, not da or dfd (i've wanted to da for a long time but haven't, and haven't been dfd yet).

  my wife is devout but not fanatic.

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  I'm new to this and this subject really hits home. I was raised as non denominational my husband ...JW although he is not baptized. Before we got married he knew where I stood and we agreed to compromise and find something we both agreed on. His family are JW's also. But he only feels that JW's are the "truth". To keep peace I compromised and we starting going to meetings and having a study..all the while I kept hearing my mother's voice warning me inside my head against that (she died a year before we married). She warned that there will be strife, because we were "unequally yoked" in other words "how can two walk together unless they agree" type of thing. Wow! Her wisdom, if only I had been wise enough to listen. But I was young and naive. And she knew that I can't be made to do something I don't want to and ultimately it would be the kids caught in the middle of what would turn out to be a tug of war. So, I started going to the meetings (Sunday only) with him, during that time they talked about stuff that most people would agree with (i.e. spending time reading the bible together as a family) and I was starting to think maybe it's alright after all...then I decided before I take that step let me Google and see what happens...Needless to say my mind was abruptly changed, my mind was blown away...I couldn't believe half the stuff I was reading..I was like this has got to be wrong..so I asked my brother in law some questions and the first thing he asked me, rather suspicious and anxiously was have I been talking to an "apostate" and other things. So, I tried to show my husband, and he's like it's the internet..that's not reliable..and the children are caught in the middle...that was a little over 2 years ago when I first googled them. My husband had begin to compromise and we started going to Lakewood Church...then his mom caught wind of that (at first we did nothing) and then the war started raging as he's going back to the "truth" and it's just a battle. I will never join a belief that would have you choose death rather than take in blood (don't get me wrong there PLENTY of other reasons) we have children and I would never do that to them. As parents they trust us unconditionally and to do that to them, is unforgiveable. That scripture along with countless others have been taken out of context. Okay had to get all that out..Sorry. You sir are in a good place...You are the Head of Your Home...pray and take a stand. God be with you.