i always felt that many people don't quite know exactly what these words mean and how there is a difference between the two of them.
looking in the dictionary: the word "respect" means to consider worthy of high regard and to esteem.
it does not imply that the person doing the respecting doesn't have any respect or esteem for himself/herself.
I believe this man would understand your point very well..
| A free life cannot acquire many possessions, because this is not easy to do without servility to mobs or monarchs...” | |
Epictetus quotes (Greek philosopher associated with the Stoics, AD 55-c.135) |
on some base level, flirting is not destructive.
in fact, it may be a perfectly natural and healthy way for two people to interact.
yet, as the level of involvement in flirting increases, the emotional stakes rise for the two involved parties and the uninvolved member of the relationship.
I thought these two quotes were funny....
Flirtation: attention without intention
Flirting is the art of making a man feel pleased with himself.
One persons response about being a flirt .... "well ...... I am the activities coordinator" hahahaha !
on some base level, flirting is not destructive.
in fact, it may be a perfectly natural and healthy way for two people to interact.
yet, as the level of involvement in flirting increases, the emotional stakes rise for the two involved parties and the uninvolved member of the relationship.
If it goes on for along time, it has been my experiance, that something more is going on.
It's kind of like the difference between making proper eye contact and starring... it's a time and duration thing as well.
Unwritten rules we pick up on like ....how close do you stand to a person before it is too close !
i wish i had flipper's courteousness and minimus' blitheness.. syl.
yearn to possess (something, especially something belonging to another)
I would say that 9o% of the time this would be seen in a negative light
this thought found on the Web would indeed explain your point of view
Who are you going to believe? Christians desire, lust for, and covet after the Knowledge and Wisdom of God, which is good. Sensuality, like lust, is purely neutral. What you do with it determines whether you sin or not. Sex with strangers is not good, but sex with your spouse is. There is nothing wrong with lusting. Do you lust for your wife, or do you lust for somebody else’s wife? This is the point. The Law does not say, "Do not covet", it says do not covet anything that belongs to somebody else (Exodus 20:17). (It would appear to apply to more material and fleshly things not to attributes as you suggest )
almost all bible teachings are
dynamically balanced. For example .. many bible verses warn about dangers of sexual immorality yet encourage marital love making (songs of Solomon )
Likewise the Bible warnings of greed , love of money and such ! Some feel the Bible contradicts itself when in fact it is our own biblical immaturity that does not allow us to see and divide these balanced thoughts properly. I needed to expand my understanding of the word covet in this case !!
i wish i had flipper's courteousness and minimus' blitheness.. syl.
Covet is NOT a bad word, but as JWs, it was given that connotation, so not a criticism
I believe desire or emulate is a more appropriate word in this case because of the following example..
The difference in desire vs covet..
Say it was lunch time and I see someone with a nice sandwich... and I think to myself "I want one of those" and go buy one...is that coveting ? Or if I see someone with a nice house, and I think "I'd like something like that too." is it considered coveting if you *want* it, but do not take it from anyone else ?
The two are not the same.
The difference is, you desire a sandwich LIKE the one you see. That is normal.
But, if you wanted THAT sandwich and another like it wouldn't satisfy your desire, that is coveting.
Coveting takes desire to the level of greed, extortion, obsessing
I believe however that the sense of of word used here by snowbird was to emphasize a strong positive desire to be like
on some base level, flirting is not destructive.
in fact, it may be a perfectly natural and healthy way for two people to interact.
yet, as the level of involvement in flirting increases, the emotional stakes rise for the two involved parties and the uninvolved member of the relationship.
Both of the above comments make a lot of common sense to me.....I like this response on another site....
My own personal rule is to act as if my SO was always around. If I wouldn't mind her seeing me act this way, then I believe it's okay. If she disagrees, it's something we can talk about. Either way, no one's hiding anything from the other person
whats the most depressing song you have ever heard?
i would go with either johnny cash - hurt or gary jules-mad world.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=48cTUnUtzx4
In February of 1936, Budapest Police were investigating the suicide of a local shoemaker, Joseph Keller. The investigation showed that Keller had left a suicide note in which he quoted the lyrics of a recent popular song. The song was "Gloomy Sunday".
The fact that a man chose to quote the lyrics of a little-known song may not seem very strange. However, the fact that over the years, this song has been directly associated with the deaths of over 100 people is quite strange indeed.
Following the event described above, seventeen additional people took their own lives. In each case, "Gloomy Sunday" was closely connected with the circumstances surrounding the suicide.
Among those included are two people who shot themselves while listening to a gypsy band playing the tune. Several others drowned themselves in the Danube while clutching the sheet music of "Gloomy Sunday". One gentleman reportedly walked out of a nightclub and blew his brains out after having requested the band to play "The Suicide Song".
on some base level, flirting is not destructive.
in fact, it may be a perfectly natural and healthy way for two people to interact.
yet, as the level of involvement in flirting increases, the emotional stakes rise for the two involved parties and the uninvolved member of the relationship.
From wikipedia .. People flirt for a variety of reasons. Flirting can indicate an interest in a deeper personal relationship with another person. Some people flirt simply for amusement, with no intention of developing any further relationship. This type of flirting sometimes faces disapproval from others, either because it can be misinterpreted as more serious, or it may be viewed as cheating if either person is already in a relationship with someone else
There has to be some sort of balance here.... what is it ??
Here is one thought from the web...
I agree that a little flirting is fun and not a big deal. One issue might be the potential for more flirting (and beyond).
Flirting with a stranger at a club who you'll never see again is one thing, flirting with an office mate you spend eight hours a day with is another
on some base level, flirting is not destructive.
in fact, it may be a perfectly natural and healthy way for two people to interact.
yet, as the level of involvement in flirting increases, the emotional stakes rise for the two involved parties and the uninvolved member of the relationship.
On some base level, flirting is not destructive. In fact, it may be a perfectly natural and healthy way for two people to interact. Yet, as the level of involvement in flirting increases, the emotional stakes rise for the two involved parties and the uninvolved member of the relationship
Must couples must be mutually comfortable with a set level of flirting ?
Your thoughts please !!!
What's the difference between being friendly, socialable, or playful and hurting a relationship?
So if one partner is bothered by the other's flirting, should it be something that could be respectfully discussed, without blaming and/or stigmatizing ?
heard it this here morning, and really paid attention to the lyrics.. http://www.lyrics007.com/lee%20ann%20womack%20lyrics/i%20hope%20you%20dance%20lyrics.html.
awesome!
syl.
A song is the sound of our soul, it releases inner core feelings , it shares a pure message for many hearts !!
~~~~~~ Caliber
"a"a asongMusic creates order out of chaos: for rhythm imposes Music creates order out of chaos: for rhythm imposes
