Paper Roses
Oh how real those roses seem to be!
But they're only imitation
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Is unhappiness a reason for divorce ?
by caliber inhere are some sample expressions i found on-line.
my spouse is not abusive, mean, a bad person, an adulterer or any of those other labels.
my spouse refuses to grow up.
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Is unhappiness a reason for divorce ?
by caliber inhere are some sample expressions i found on-line.
my spouse is not abusive, mean, a bad person, an adulterer or any of those other labels.
my spouse refuses to grow up.
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Is unhappiness a reason for divorce ?
by caliber inhere are some sample expressions i found on-line.
my spouse is not abusive, mean, a bad person, an adulterer or any of those other labels.
my spouse refuses to grow up.
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So I guess it all depends on the reasons for your unhappiness
. ( highlight added)I t's not wrong to have feelings of unhappiness.. but it only makes sense to discover it's source or cause.
Ever heard someone say "Oh you shouldn't feel that way " .. it invalidates the feeling so it could make you feel angery
or at least not understood. However in discussion you can help the other person see why or how these feelings developed.
Is it misunderstanding or are your needs and wants being ignored in some why ? If you can't express or understand
why you "feel " a certain way, then how is your mate to understand or to make adjustment in some way to meet your needs ?
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I once had a discussion with a friend who asked me give me reasons I marrried. I listed several qualities kindness, gentleness ,organizational
skills, compassion for other people, a quiet spirit. They responded .. not in these words but to the same effect
"marriage is not just a checklist that your mate fulfills" , but they wanted to know if I had a "spark" or feeling of being in love.
I was taken back for not having mentioned a warm feeling of love and connection , "a spark " , not because I didn't feel it.. but I took it as a
given that everyone must have these "feelings of love " that you are attracted to physical things such as beautiful , kind eyes ..
else why would they consider marriage ?
Your marriage should also come about because of two essential factors feelings (physical & emotional attraction) plus reasons that make sense of your these feelings
"Knowing thy self ", but also understanding the other person qualities and how these give birth to their true spirit.
I have come to understand that many beleive that the market for finding a true love connection amongst JW's is so small
that you must "settle".... to find someone that will at least "treat you right"
If you after years can't " make yourself love", how easy is it , do you think for your mate " to make themselves" stop loving you ?
At last true words must then be spoken "It's not about you, it's about me "..... I must put me ahead of we "
It is not being "self-absorbed " but your heart was never given in the first place
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Jerry Springer & Shows Like His
by minimus indo you ever watch it?
have you ever been on a show like that?.
where do they get these people?
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You could learn how to do the happy dance.....
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Is unhappiness a reason for divorce ?
by caliber inhere are some sample expressions i found on-line.
my spouse is not abusive, mean, a bad person, an adulterer or any of those other labels.
my spouse refuses to grow up.
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" The purest love is to trust, to give without refrain even at risk of nightmares final toll
It's all so clear in black and white .... in joy and hope or in death and despair"
..............nothing lasts forever even cold November rain !
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Is unhappiness a reason for divorce ?
by caliber inhere are some sample expressions i found on-line.
my spouse is not abusive, mean, a bad person, an adulterer or any of those other labels.
my spouse refuses to grow up.
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Pray thee good buddy..... that these be tears of joy.. on this would be , happiest day of your life !
nor discover ......."you cannot lit a candle in a cold november rain !"
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Is unhappiness a reason for divorce ?
by caliber inhere are some sample expressions i found on-line.
my spouse is not abusive, mean, a bad person, an adulterer or any of those other labels.
my spouse refuses to grow up.
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Of course one should ask themselves WHY they are unhappy with somone that they used to be happy with and whether that are unhappy because the marriage is a "happiless one" or if it is their unhappiness in life that is making the marriage an unhappy one.
@P.S. Did you know that believe it or not some are unhappy because they married without being in love in the first place ?(I know of at least two )
Love is love. All love is true love
But what if there was no love to begin with... what do you call it then ? a marriage of convenience ?
A marriage of convenience (plural marriages of convenience) is a marriage contracted for reasons other than the reasons of relationship, family, or love
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154
Is unhappiness a reason for divorce ?
by caliber inhere are some sample expressions i found on-line.
my spouse is not abusive, mean, a bad person, an adulterer or any of those other labels.
my spouse refuses to grow up.
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Know thy self.
reminds me of the words below ....These words "to thine own self be true " are often quoted but not the entire thought or stanza
This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.Being true to self involves honesty and truth with regards to relationship with other humans too
which contributes greatly to deep satisfaction and the ultimate form of happiness that of joy and elation !
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Is unhappiness a reason for divorce ?
by caliber inhere are some sample expressions i found on-line.
my spouse is not abusive, mean, a bad person, an adulterer or any of those other labels.
my spouse refuses to grow up.
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In the end, perhaps love is a little like faith, for those who do not believe true love exists, no explanation is possible
and for those who do believe
no explanation is necessary !
Yet this harsh cold fact is also true.... True love can only exist with a sum total of equal parts
in which case it's fraction must die a slow painful death !
~~~~ Caliber
equals this. ...
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Is unhappiness a reason for divorce ?
by caliber inhere are some sample expressions i found on-line.
my spouse is not abusive, mean, a bad person, an adulterer or any of those other labels.
my spouse refuses to grow up.
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"What effect did being a JW have on your marriage, especially if you have left?
"Firstly if it wasn't for JW's we would never have met .. so if's from there on , mean nothing.
Second I take full responsiblity for the decisions I made , I blame no one for my actions including the WT.
Certainly the meetings etc, made for less quality time together, but love should find a way around that.
Some would say their choices were limited because of marrying only in the Lord.. but I married because I was truly
"in love" I have no regrets which I can blame the WT for. Maybe not believing paradise was " just around the corner"
would have resulted in more long term planning therefore less debt , less stress would have resulted.
Should I blame the WT if my wife would have had different thoughts if not for the W. T . teaching and requirements ?
What would be the point ? A marriage is a threefold cord not four ! I stand by my vows to love, honor and cherish
to cause no intentional harm to my mate. My regrets involve only myself... my own blindness lack of insight to understand.
complacency
I feel hurt not anger ! I do have conviction that if at all possible marriage should be for lifetime .
