Andyman
I have enjoyed this thread. Elders should be glad to hear such frank comments. Hearing them may not necessarily be pleasant, but good nonetheless. Persons willing to help others can do a far better job of it if they better know circumstances, perceptions, apprehensions, et cetera.
I can honestly say that I do not agree with each perception shared on this thread, but that is also part of the process of helping, that is the sharing of different views.
One area of particular interest is that of who is qualified to give advice. That really depends upon what sort of advice a person is looking for or needs.
Elders are not lawyers, psychoanalysts or physicians, at least not in their role as elders. There may be a few among us with such credentials, but when rendering assistance as elders they should only be offering only one type of advice, spiritual advice. If friends want or need a lawyer, psychoanalyst or physician then that is what they should seek out or be referred to. Since qualifications of an elder does not include qualifications in those aforementioned areas then elders cannot always determine when that is the needed area of advice. In that case, generally speaking, if an elder does offer advice in one of those areas then it should be taken for what it is, common. If an elder is capable in one of those areas then they should conscientiously and accordingly refer the person.
Elders are asked by the Society to perform various administrative duties, but primarily they are charged with being spiritual shepherds with the Bible as their guide. Since the Bible provides God’s thinking on important areas of life like marriage, divorce, honesty, human relations, et cetera, then elders will in turn relay portions of that advice when the need arises—at least that is what they should do. What else can a spiritual shepherd do but that?
Interestingly, the Bible does not mention any peculiar credentials for spiritual shepherds (overseers) except that corollary with Christianity and common sense. In a nutshell, elders should be experienced and good persons devoted to the interests of the Master, Jesus. While such persons may not have credentials in other learned areas, they certainly should be respected for being ardent followers of the Master and trying their best to help in spite of their personal limitations.
Friend