Posts by oompa

110

wife took it pretty well i guess...it's over...

by oompa in

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i guess it only took three years, but they were hell in so many ways for both of us...she was not happy and lived in denial as much as possible...i was not happy and lived in a bottle as much as possible and glad that is over for me....but it was one of the saddest things i have ever experienced in my life....as was the visit to my parents before i told her....but yes...she said she kind of expected it...was thinking something was going to happen soon as she noticed i had more and more trouble saying i love you back to her when she said it on the phone at the end of goodbyes...and when i was leaving the house...i had noticed it for over a year and it was killing me..... i told her how sorry i was for changing so much again....and that she still walks on water...and is a great person and so pretty....and that she will be ok because she was happy single before me for many years and had all she needs for that again...her closeness to jehovah and her freinds in the congregation...she is very close to both and will be ok i hope...it was very surreal....very calm...very sad.

my bitterness and disdain for wt rules came through when talking to my parents and i was very open about how i feel as to their upcoming shunning of me, and how it feels to my son since he was just 17....and how the fear of losing them had kept me trying in my marriage for the past few years...dad was firm in his position of future action....mom said they will still always love me...and will still talk to me until i get dfd.....oh how this hurts.....dad said there is a name for people who only live for themselves and deny god but could not think of what it was....i told him i was not living just for myself...that i am a good person and there are values from him and the bible i hope i always have....i cry so hard as i type this and tell you just so you can know how painful this is....i told him i so loved the rule of treating others how you want to be treated and have always done that...even allowing myself to be wronged on so many occasions to keep peace....... he said that was a good rule....i agreed and said it was a big one too....and that while i could do it...treat him the way i would like to be treated...he would not be able to!.......left as i became emotional...big hug from mom, but i just barely put an arm on dad............oompa.

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Gregor...you don't keep up very well my friend...and you do not have a clue.........oompa

i have met challenges on levels you may have never even dreamed of...i feel sorry for you gregor

and how you could read my post and conclude i am about to become a loser is astonishing....a total lack of reading comprehension

i grab my cock whenever i feel like, and enjoy such freedom now as to not even need socks...as to my kids, you also are clueless...good relationship with one....fantastic with the other....are you even on the right board?

110

wife took it pretty well i guess...it's over...

by oompa in

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friends

i guess it only took three years, but they were hell in so many ways for both of us...she was not happy and lived in denial as much as possible...i was not happy and lived in a bottle as much as possible and glad that is over for me....but it was one of the saddest things i have ever experienced in my life....as was the visit to my parents before i told her....but yes...she said she kind of expected it...was thinking something was going to happen soon as she noticed i had more and more trouble saying i love you back to her when she said it on the phone at the end of goodbyes...and when i was leaving the house...i had noticed it for over a year and it was killing me..... i told her how sorry i was for changing so much again....and that she still walks on water...and is a great person and so pretty....and that she will be ok because she was happy single before me for many years and had all she needs for that again...her closeness to jehovah and her freinds in the congregation...she is very close to both and will be ok i hope...it was very surreal....very calm...very sad.

my bitterness and disdain for wt rules came through when talking to my parents and i was very open about how i feel as to their upcoming shunning of me, and how it feels to my son since he was just 17....and how the fear of losing them had kept me trying in my marriage for the past few years...dad was firm in his position of future action....mom said they will still always love me...and will still talk to me until i get dfd.....oh how this hurts.....dad said there is a name for people who only live for themselves and deny god but could not think of what it was....i told him i was not living just for myself...that i am a good person and there are values from him and the bible i hope i always have....i cry so hard as i type this and tell you just so you can know how painful this is....i told him i so loved the rule of treating others how you want to be treated and have always done that...even allowing myself to be wronged on so many occasions to keep peace....... he said that was a good rule....i agreed and said it was a big one too....and that while i could do it...treat him the way i would like to be treated...he would not be able to!.......left as i became emotional...big hug from mom, but i just barely put an arm on dad............oompa.

oompa

one of my handful of jw employees told me my parents missed their meeting last night...very rare and i think they stayed home and cried a good bit...talked to my mom this morning. that is just another facet...had meeting with the dubs at work and told them our biz has endured several divorces and dfs among top staff here over the last 15 years, and that the biz survived it.....and that no matter what happens to me, i hope they act like business is business and keep the truth crap out of here...two are so self-righteous they may feel the need to quit rather than work for a df boss.

another point i made to wife that she agreed with.....that if she were looking for a husband right now, i would not even be on the long list...i would not MAKE the list or even be considered....she agreed since she would only want a worshiper of jehovah

also the shock she had when i told her of two of my friends here she has known about for awhile...a nearby couple with darling kids...they left about two years ago...now they are going to get divorced since they only thing they had in common was "the truth".....she says "what do you mean, i thought they both left the truth?".....i replied that it does not matter if one leaves, or both leave....IF the ONLY thing in common is "the truth" then divorce is still likely to eventually happen......she got it.....i had already realized how crappy it would be to get her to wake up and leave WT only to realize we STILL had nothing in common...then she really would lose everything in her life practically...

ironically...i have a very old hippie type jw friend who is totally non-judgemental and enjoys healthy debate about all we discuss here....i am moving in with him for awhile as he has a huge old empty house...when both our kids were dfd (he is the dad of my sons lifelong friend now a dub again) we would still go on vacation with them....so it is still possible to have at least a very very few old jw friends...even if dfd...i so wish my family were like that...............oompa........and thanks again all

110

wife took it pretty well i guess...it's over...

by oompa in

jw
friends

i guess it only took three years, but they were hell in so many ways for both of us...she was not happy and lived in denial as much as possible...i was not happy and lived in a bottle as much as possible and glad that is over for me....but it was one of the saddest things i have ever experienced in my life....as was the visit to my parents before i told her....but yes...she said she kind of expected it...was thinking something was going to happen soon as she noticed i had more and more trouble saying i love you back to her when she said it on the phone at the end of goodbyes...and when i was leaving the house...i had noticed it for over a year and it was killing me..... i told her how sorry i was for changing so much again....and that she still walks on water...and is a great person and so pretty....and that she will be ok because she was happy single before me for many years and had all she needs for that again...her closeness to jehovah and her freinds in the congregation...she is very close to both and will be ok i hope...it was very surreal....very calm...very sad.

my bitterness and disdain for wt rules came through when talking to my parents and i was very open about how i feel as to their upcoming shunning of me, and how it feels to my son since he was just 17....and how the fear of losing them had kept me trying in my marriage for the past few years...dad was firm in his position of future action....mom said they will still always love me...and will still talk to me until i get dfd.....oh how this hurts.....dad said there is a name for people who only live for themselves and deny god but could not think of what it was....i told him i was not living just for myself...that i am a good person and there are values from him and the bible i hope i always have....i cry so hard as i type this and tell you just so you can know how painful this is....i told him i so loved the rule of treating others how you want to be treated and have always done that...even allowing myself to be wronged on so many occasions to keep peace....... he said that was a good rule....i agreed and said it was a big one too....and that while i could do it...treat him the way i would like to be treated...he would not be able to!.......left as i became emotional...big hug from mom, but i just barely put an arm on dad............oompa.

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Thanks all...if it were not for this website, i may not have come to grip with the fact that while there is great pain and loss at a time like this...that people here HAVE made it with a new life. my young son has also been an inspiration in that although he still grieves his losses some, including his lifelong best friend...a true twin brother to him who recently was reinstated and has now severed ties. i have made several friends here...some in person, and some not, but this site is above all else a SUPPORT GROUP!.......and even one of my therapists told my wife it was much needed in my life

i do appreciate all the hugs and support, and knew it would happen because that is the way we are here...but i mainly posted because i needed to...and i wanted any newbies or lurkers to realize the sick mindset and pain that inflicts so much damage on families all due to decisions we may have made as children!!!......i told my dad that is just insane!.....i felt the normal pressure to get baptized...it was the thing to do and what option did i have?..."dad can i go check out the catholic church down the street?".....i asked my dad what he would have done when i was 15 and expressed such an interest...kids have no option for the most part, and wt wants to get their controlling hooks in you as early as possible despite a wt stating that in first century christianity only adults were baptised...so why do they not follow that pattern when EVERYTHING else is copied from the first century?!?!?......

strange how short and fairly unemotional it was talking with my wife...who unfortunately had heard all of the for most of the past three years until we signed a "do not discuss religion/god/bible truce".......but my mom had not so much, and while the pain of losing my marriage has been seeping in for years...the loss of my parents is still very fresh and raw, and they could see the anger, frustration, bitterness and regrets i have harbored and still do i guess....told them about wearing masks since 3rd grade to fit in at school and home, and hall.....told them i so wish my dfd sister at 16 had DRAGGED ME WITH HER when she knew early on she had to have freedom of thought and speech

i know it is pointless to look back, nor worry too much about the future...just one day at a time...but my heart has a weight off it....oompa

110

wife took it pretty well i guess...it's over...

by oompa in

jw
friends

i guess it only took three years, but they were hell in so many ways for both of us...she was not happy and lived in denial as much as possible...i was not happy and lived in a bottle as much as possible and glad that is over for me....but it was one of the saddest things i have ever experienced in my life....as was the visit to my parents before i told her....but yes...she said she kind of expected it...was thinking something was going to happen soon as she noticed i had more and more trouble saying i love you back to her when she said it on the phone at the end of goodbyes...and when i was leaving the house...i had noticed it for over a year and it was killing me..... i told her how sorry i was for changing so much again....and that she still walks on water...and is a great person and so pretty....and that she will be ok because she was happy single before me for many years and had all she needs for that again...her closeness to jehovah and her freinds in the congregation...she is very close to both and will be ok i hope...it was very surreal....very calm...very sad.

my bitterness and disdain for wt rules came through when talking to my parents and i was very open about how i feel as to their upcoming shunning of me, and how it feels to my son since he was just 17....and how the fear of losing them had kept me trying in my marriage for the past few years...dad was firm in his position of future action....mom said they will still always love me...and will still talk to me until i get dfd.....oh how this hurts.....dad said there is a name for people who only live for themselves and deny god but could not think of what it was....i told him i was not living just for myself...that i am a good person and there are values from him and the bible i hope i always have....i cry so hard as i type this and tell you just so you can know how painful this is....i told him i so loved the rule of treating others how you want to be treated and have always done that...even allowing myself to be wronged on so many occasions to keep peace....... he said that was a good rule....i agreed and said it was a big one too....and that while i could do it...treat him the way i would like to be treated...he would not be able to!.......left as i became emotional...big hug from mom, but i just barely put an arm on dad............oompa.

oompa

kinda sick that a jehovahs witness single add is the top pop up here....i really dont like that

110

wife took it pretty well i guess...it's over...

by oompa in

jw
friends

i guess it only took three years, but they were hell in so many ways for both of us...she was not happy and lived in denial as much as possible...i was not happy and lived in a bottle as much as possible and glad that is over for me....but it was one of the saddest things i have ever experienced in my life....as was the visit to my parents before i told her....but yes...she said she kind of expected it...was thinking something was going to happen soon as she noticed i had more and more trouble saying i love you back to her when she said it on the phone at the end of goodbyes...and when i was leaving the house...i had noticed it for over a year and it was killing me..... i told her how sorry i was for changing so much again....and that she still walks on water...and is a great person and so pretty....and that she will be ok because she was happy single before me for many years and had all she needs for that again...her closeness to jehovah and her freinds in the congregation...she is very close to both and will be ok i hope...it was very surreal....very calm...very sad.

my bitterness and disdain for wt rules came through when talking to my parents and i was very open about how i feel as to their upcoming shunning of me, and how it feels to my son since he was just 17....and how the fear of losing them had kept me trying in my marriage for the past few years...dad was firm in his position of future action....mom said they will still always love me...and will still talk to me until i get dfd.....oh how this hurts.....dad said there is a name for people who only live for themselves and deny god but could not think of what it was....i told him i was not living just for myself...that i am a good person and there are values from him and the bible i hope i always have....i cry so hard as i type this and tell you just so you can know how painful this is....i told him i so loved the rule of treating others how you want to be treated and have always done that...even allowing myself to be wronged on so many occasions to keep peace....... he said that was a good rule....i agreed and said it was a big one too....and that while i could do it...treat him the way i would like to be treated...he would not be able to!.......left as i became emotional...big hug from mom, but i just barely put an arm on dad............oompa.

oompa

i guess it only took three years, but they were hell in so many ways for both of us...she was not happy and lived in denial as much as possible...i was not happy and lived in a bottle as much as possible and glad that is over for me....but it was one of the saddest things i have ever experienced in my life....as was the visit to my parents before i told her....but yes...she said she kind of expected it...was thinking something was going to happen soon as she noticed i had more and more trouble saying i love you back to her when she said it on the phone at the end of goodbyes...and when i was leaving the house...i had noticed it for over a year and it was killing me....

i told her how sorry i was for changing so much again....and that she still walks on water...and is a great person and so pretty....and that she will be ok because she was happy single before me for many years and had all she needs for that again...her closeness to jehovah and her freinds in the congregation...she is very close to both and will be ok i hope...it was very surreal....very calm...very sad

my bitterness and disdain for WT rules came through when talking to my parents and i was VERY open about how i feel as to their upcoming shunning of me, and how it feels to my son since he was just 17....and how the fear of losing them had kept me trying in my marriage for the past few years...dad was firm in his position of future action....mom said they will still always love me...and will still talk to me until i get dfd.....oh how this hurts.....dad said there is a name for people who only live for themselves and deny god but could not think of what it was....i told him i was not living just for myself...that i am a good person and there are values from him and the bible i hope i always have....i cry so hard as i type this and tell you just so you can know how painful this is....i told him i so loved the rule of treating others how you want to be treated and have ALWAYS done that...even allowing myself to be wronged on so many occasions to keep peace......

he said that was a good rule....i agreed and said it was a big one too....and that while i could do it...treat him the way i would like to be treated...HE WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO!.......left as i became emotional...big hug from mom, but i just barely put an arm on dad............oompa

28

Saw outlaw at the beach the other day...not bad lookin.....

by oompa in

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friends

i followed the little tree icons directions and have loaded pics before but doubt this came through as when i upload it to the little tree box only a red x appears even though my picture appears in the box..........help please if this does not post and i am in explorer not chrome.

outlaw i took this from my boat...and could just see you on board!.....oompa.

yep, just like i thought...no picture!

oompa

ok...so nobody really wants to help me here?.......outlaw pm me your email and will send the photo....maybe you can post it

4

4 halloween party invites!!...i can make 2...

by oompa in

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friends

so just got it outta the way for today....told jw wife i am going to a party tonight at br---ns....she says "what kind?

"...lmao!...so big grin on face i say a halloween party of course....."well that is disappointing" ......i cant believe you are surprised, i always wanted to dress up at halloween..... so i then told cat i may go as capt jack sparrow....her idol....but how do i do that double eye makeup on my eyelids?....not gonna be just a pirate...i want the eyes still open eyelids....... otherwise i am gonna be as bad character as possible....and who is the baddest?....could it beeeeee.........satan!?!..........oompa.

she would freak out if i walk outta here in a satan outfit!!!!.

oompa

LMAO....so these dub friends of yours can even justify a costume party on halloween?....i love it

I can already hear it........."I was not really ever having sex, committing fornication, because i had a condom on and so never really touched anything"........oompa

28

Saw outlaw at the beach the other day...not bad lookin.....

by oompa in

jw
friends

i followed the little tree icons directions and have loaded pics before but doubt this came through as when i upload it to the little tree box only a red x appears even though my picture appears in the box..........help please if this does not post and i am in explorer not chrome.

outlaw i took this from my boat...and could just see you on board!.....oompa.

yep, just like i thought...no picture!

oompa

yes guys...i posted it on photobucket....copied the url to the box...and the pic is there!.....but when i hit download or whatever to my jwn page...only a the red x icon shows up

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Saw outlaw at the beach the other day...not bad lookin.....

by oompa in

jw
friends

i followed the little tree icons directions and have loaded pics before but doubt this came through as when i upload it to the little tree box only a red x appears even though my picture appears in the box..........help please if this does not post and i am in explorer not chrome.

outlaw i took this from my boat...and could just see you on board!.....oompa.

yep, just like i thought...no picture!

oompa

i followed the little tree icons directions and have loaded pics before but doubt this came through as when i upload it to the little tree box only a red X appears even though my picture appears in the box..........help please if this does not post and i am in explorer not chrome

Outlaw i took this from my boat...and could just see you on board!.....oompa

yep, just like i thought...no picture!!

11

Have you been to South Africa?

by LouBelle in

jw
friends

if so how was your experience?

did you get out much and experience the real country?

did you get to mix with all the nationalities, cultures, if so what are your thoughts?.

oompa

not yet...are you still coming to the states dear or did i miss it already?....i know two young guys who went on the cheap and hiked and explored and loved it....and an older couple who stayed mostly down by the cape in all posh resorts....and they also loved it....so both extremes kinda..........oompa