Posts by Tornintwo

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Humanism and Witnisam.

by The Rebel in

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well it seems for many on this board the time came to leave the w.t and cross the bridge in to a real world.

speaking for myself l feel i did not enter the cold and lonely world i was lead to believe i was entering.

rather i have discovered it was no great loss leaving a world that had protected me with false, dreams, fantazy and false promises.. but what have i really achieved by my leaving that i value?.

Tornintwo

I love having Saturday and Sunday stretch before me and wonder what I should do today?

i love going to the beach instead of a gloomy KH, looking out to sea and thanking a creator with true appreciation instead of forced devotion motivated by fear of man.

i love having the dark cloud of guilt, self-doubt, never good enough finally lifted.

I love seeing people as they really are instead of through the tinted 'worldly' designation, feeling part of humanity again, seeing so much good, selflessness and charity and being able to appreciate it and contribute to it, instead of being told its a waste of time.

i love seeing my kids make natural friendships with normal people, and not have to force friendships with a judgemental select few, for whom they were never good enough.

the only time I feel like crap is when I have to face the decision of whether to attend a meeting for my family and my fade's sake. The guilt and twisted emotions come back. There are some people in the hall I genuinely love, good people whether they're in the org or not, but there are so many ready to judge and point the finger, elders ready to pressure and question...it makes me feel ill.

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NOW THAT I AM OUT.

by Guy Montag in

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i used to be jon preston.

now that i've escaped the watchtower i have much to report on.

in just a year i left the cult, started living, reset my kids' brains, had my spouse cheat, move to a new location, and started a new job.

Tornintwo

Hi Guy, I'm with you, don't know what quite to believe yet but someone posted this statement in here a few weeks ago and it sums things up for me perfectly;

"I'd rather have questions I can't answer than answers I can't question"

i look forward to asking the questions with an open mind instead of a blinkered one, finding my own truth instead of letting some men find it for me, at the moment i believe in the message of Jesus Christ his compassion, kindness, mercy are lessons for everyone and that he certainly didn't mean us to turn our backs on the rest of mankind and their real life issues (whilst we wander around in circles, knock on empty doors and drink coffee)

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Participate In The EX-JW Personality Test!

by C0ntr013r in

first of all; i must admit that i'm not a huge fan of putting people in boxes like this, it is not an exact science.

but i still think the data can be quite interesting and i intend to collect it and share it in a structured way with you guys.

so without future ado here are the details.. link to test: .

Tornintwo

Im an ESFP-T not sure what that means for me?!?

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Today's meeting & WT 7/2015 study "Work to enhance the spiritual paradise"

by Mrs. Eden in

so, much against my inclination, i went to the meeting this sunday morning.

just starting to fade, but i needed to do it so that it doesn't look like my hubby turned my head during last week's vacations.

since i'm not just disappearing cold turkey, i went.

Tornintwo

Great post, the part of the WT that irritated me was the 1919 claim backed by no scriptural support whatsoever!!

I wouldn't usually want to admit this, but I think those leaving the jws will understand, I was moved to give to a reputable charity today, first time in years. The last time I did it my extreme jw husband criticised me, saying we can only trust our money with the brothers. Yes it's just a drop in the ocean and maybe it's not hands-on help because I can't manage that right now, but what difference could it make if those 8 million people switched their time and donations to such charities! It made me realize as witnesses we are taught to distrust and look down on charitable work when those workers such as medicins sans frontier, Red Cross, oxfam etc should have our admiration for trying to alleviate some suffering now, just as you highlight in your post!

(btw on a side point, I skipped the meeting and went to the pool hahaha)

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Hi Everyone. Answer to prayer countdown...

by Stumpy in

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i've been lurking for about 3 months now and thought i'd better finally sign up.

you have all been an immense help to me as i have come to realize that this isn't the truth so i want to say a great big thank you!

what a crazy, emotional ride it is to finally face the truth about the doubts that i have carried for many years.

Tornintwo

Wow thank you for the links, must have been a lot of work, I look forward to reading them all and trying to show my husband, although right now he's anything but receptive.

Thank you x

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Exiting the JW cult, by Bonnie Zieman.

by Sabin in

hello to you all, i`m reading this book exiting the jw cult & i think so far it is brilliant.

i emailed a friend the other day and said "sometimes i feel rage that isn't good towards the j dub`s & what they do to others".

then i came across this section in the book, pg 62-63, where it says.

Tornintwo

Just started reading the book, looks good so,far....

ive felt a lot of anger towards prominent 'brothers' who have mistreated my family, and yes, surprise, surprise I was told to 'wait on Jehovah' and that they are just 'imperfect men' whilst having to listen to this particular nasty piece of work giving talks at the conventions.

Also there are many times I should have left quite an abusive marriage in the past but was told to work harder at being a good submissive wife. Nauseating. For me thankfully it didn't become a dangerous situation, more emotionally damaging than physically. But I wonder how many women have been sent back into a dangerous situation, thinking that if they were just a better Christian wife, it would all be ok. That makes me angry.

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Hello world !

by Mrs. Eden in

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well, here i am.. hello world, mrs. eden sending regards to everyone.

:).

my english is limited, so please go easy on me.. mrs. eden.

Tornintwo

Welcome, I'm newly awoken, there is so much to learn, so nice you and your husband are supporting each other in your changing views.

if you are ready then jwfacts.com and crisis of conscience are must reads ASAP if you haven't already, to find out what this jw organization is really like x

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A must read for all JW's and Ex-JW's

by iwasblind in

hi guys.

i am about 60% through the book exiting the jw cult: a healing handbook: for current & former jehovah's witnesses .

i bought this book because of a post about it last week so a big thank you for that.. i must say that everyone on this forum should consider giving this book a go.

Tornintwo

One quick tip,for anonymity....I share my Amazon account with the rest of my family, so if I buy on kindle it will be seen on my families kindle apps too. Set up a new Amazon account if you want to keep this kind of book on the quiet....and passcode your gadgets.

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A must read for all JW's and Ex-JW's

by iwasblind in

hi guys.

i am about 60% through the book exiting the jw cult: a healing handbook: for current & former jehovah's witnesses .

i bought this book because of a post about it last week so a big thank you for that.. i must say that everyone on this forum should consider giving this book a go.

Tornintwo

Hi iwasblind, thank you for the recommendation I'm going to get it today.

im newly out and struggling....everything has changed. I am speaking with an online counsellor and she gave me the 'task' of remembering what I was like & what I wanted at age 14! Why? Because that was the last time I was without jw influence or that of a domineering jw man! Scary, 25 years of my life lived differently from what it should have been, leaving me unskilled, short of cash, in a very difficult relationship and having to start all over again to build friendships and a community, wondering whether to leave my marriage, retrain and try to live the life I should have lived 25 years later....or to try and work with what I've got. Thank goodness for my wonderful children so that I don't regret.

But it's a strange, stressful and depressing time...there's a pull to go back to the but once you've taken that red pill there is no going back, and I can barely stomach the odd meeting never mind the whole 'spiritual' routine again.

Thanks for the recommendation and reminding me there's a lot of us going through the same things

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Honor Your Story

by OnTheWayOut in

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a recent thread mentioned members who wrote their own story as a book.

you don't have to have an entire book to write your story.

as a matter of fact, you don't have to share your story if you are not up to it.

Tornintwo

I'd love to read your story, gonna look it up right now

mine is developing fast...., oh the stress, leaving the high control religion, the effect on your entire world, friends, family, marriage, work.....the stress is quite extreme. I'm so grateful I have non JW, supportive family (parents and sibling) who have forgiven me for being such a pain in the ass cultist for the past 20 years, my heart goes out to those who's entire family are in.

Counselling, journalling, up all night posting, whatever it takes to get through x