i panicked on the way to work yesterday.
i left my hubby at home because we were having our roof replaced and when i was headed out of the neighborhood, there they were.
i wondered how this was going to affect him.
I panicked on the way to work yesterday. I left my hubby at home because we were having our roof replaced and when I was headed out of the neighborhood, there they were. I wondered how this was going to affect him. Would he let them in? Would they even stop by with all the comotion going on? Will they be back? I had never seen them in my neighborhood before and we've been there for almost 3 1/2 years.
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i searched for this here and didn't find any posts about it.
i just found this while searching for info as i was debating a jw on another site.
this is the most mind-blowing, spaced-out, insane bunch of mess i've ever heard.
I'm speechless.
so i tell my friend that the hubby and i chatted about babies again, and explained that i just don't think it's worth it because our relationship is still fragile due to the religion difference and that we'd both want what was best for our child and that that view point is very different.
(hubby has been inactive for 6-7 years now, but still a bit brainwashed.).
she proceeds to explain that as long as my inlaws dont try to run my house "too much", and that if i agreed to let them take him/her to a meeting here and there, than it shouldn't be a problem.
Thanks John
Both the hubby and I are the oldest of very ethnic families. As some of you may know, you take on roles that most normal family dynamics would usually take on. You are literally the translators, medical personel, lawyers, etc for families that are in a whole new world and can't speak the language, or understand the customs or morays of this wonderful nation. I sadly became bitter and resentful with my family, and just didn't want to have a family, but actually just wanted to really start enjoying my life now that it is finally mine. I know just how much a child changes that and I don't know that I'm ready for that. But as you said, I am very much female and over 30 which means the clock is ticking and I never wanted to realize I had one.
So we shall see. I guess it's also because I really want to see my father play with my kid, his grandchild, there's just something so special about that. My parents are not the kind to ask where their grandchildren are, they actually advise us to go enjoy our lives together.
His family on the other hand of course scare the living shit out of me with this situation. I know my MIL would be crazy about it. She did ask me one time if I knew why the hubby didn't want or push to have children. Sadly, she asked me because they just aren't the conversating kind. I wish I could have told her that it's because it seems he really didn't like his childhood. He never discusses happy moments. I hate that because I bet he was a really cool little kid. (at least gorgeous).
Again, thanks to all who try to help.
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so i tell my friend that the hubby and i chatted about babies again, and explained that i just don't think it's worth it because our relationship is still fragile due to the religion difference and that we'd both want what was best for our child and that that view point is very different.
(hubby has been inactive for 6-7 years now, but still a bit brainwashed.).
she proceeds to explain that as long as my inlaws dont try to run my house "too much", and that if i agreed to let them take him/her to a meeting here and there, than it shouldn't be a problem.
Baba, I love the way you put that.
Loubelle, it's not because of 6 years, or the beautiful home, it's because of the feelings that I feel for this man. My family loves him so much and he in turn has never been close to anyone including his family as he is with mine. It is through them that he has learned that "worldly" people can be so caring and giving so unconditionally. He is a great person, and I know by now some are rolling their eyes. Please don't. There are plenty of people on here that are truly wonderful that once were as deep into this as he is or rather was. Hopefully my husband will be one of them someday. Sorry for going all Polyana!
Thanks to both of you for caring....
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i know we've had this thread before - but thought i'd be the first on the new board !
some of my top picks as follows.
more to come.. 1. jaws.
Obviously not of all time but very much a favorite,
Boondock Saints!
Will list more when time allows.
so i tell my friend that the hubby and i chatted about babies again, and explained that i just don't think it's worth it because our relationship is still fragile due to the religion difference and that we'd both want what was best for our child and that that view point is very different.
(hubby has been inactive for 6-7 years now, but still a bit brainwashed.).
she proceeds to explain that as long as my inlaws dont try to run my house "too much", and that if i agreed to let them take him/her to a meeting here and there, than it shouldn't be a problem.
So I tell my friend that the hubby and I chatted about babies again, and explained that I just don't think it's worth it because our relationship is still fragile due to the religion difference and that we'd both want what was best for our child and that that view point is very different. (hubby has been inactive for 6-7 years now, but still a bit brainwashed.)
She proceeds to explain that as long as my inlaws dont try to run my house "too much", and that if I agreed to let them take him/her to a meeting here and there, than it shouldn't be a problem. She herself hasn't been in over 10 months and still thinks this way. The brainwashing just doesn't end. I don't think we'll be making babies. Which is fine because I don't think Im there anyway. Neither of us had ever really wanted them, but being in love, in a beautiful home that we've both worked so hard for, being together a total of 6 years kinda makes the uterus contract a bit. (Sorry, medical humor). It doesn't help that we've been known to spend 24 hrs together for days and not get sick of eachother. We love to travel, and still have places we'd love to explore.
Oh well, just needed a really good vent.
Thanks all!
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i've had a terrible cold for the holidays.
i was sneezing up a storm.
i usually don't play devils' advocate and ask my husband questions i already know the answer to but i couldn't help myself.
choosing life,
I agree with the sillyness. It all seems very comical sometimes. Skirts and dresses only in the Kingdom hall, then put your pants on and go to the club and drop it like it's hot!
Or, don't celebrate christmas, but accept all the goodies that those around you give you.
Or for example, they can go into photography, and provide this service for good money for baptisms, weddings in other denominations, and even hispanic quinceaneras, but condemn them anywhere else.
Just hate the hypocracy.
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so how are things going for you folks ?
times are tough economically for sure for lots of people.
things going well for you otherwise in your life ?
to help my husband open his eyes more.
i've had a terrible cold for the holidays.
i was sneezing up a storm.
i usually don't play devils' advocate and ask my husband questions i already know the answer to but i couldn't help myself.
Thanks yall!
I imagine it was just sick to have been brought up in such a robotic world.
i've had a terrible cold for the holidays.
i was sneezing up a storm.
i usually don't play devils' advocate and ask my husband questions i already know the answer to but i couldn't help myself.
Awesome 007!
